Hey there! Stephanie Kwong, transformational life coach, hypnotherapist and self-love junkie.
And I'm so happy to be doing these Mindset Monday videos with Fitlife.
Now today, I want to talk to you about how to overcome your fear.
Fear is something I really struggled with for a long time, not knowing how to be my best self with it.
And I let it paralyze me and hold me back from all the things that I really wanted.
And I even had moments of feeling massive levels of anxiety and depression because of the pain of fear.
Now as I've grown, I've actually learned how to proactively work with fear in a really healthy way.
So instead of letting it be the boss of me,
I became the boss of my fear to keep moving after the things that I want.
Tip number one to overcoming fear and this is my go-to -
I use my body and I start breathing.
I'll actually count to five on the inhale, breathing in one, two, three, four, five,
and then on the exhale I breathe out to count of seven.
And I keep doing it over and over again until I finally feel myself in a calm and relaxed state
to be able to feel focused and clear to move forward again.
Okay, now tip number two to overcome fear is to use positive self-talk.
When you notice that the fear is kicking in,
you want to speak to yourself in a really kind and loving way so that you can move beyond the fear.
Because if you keep saying things that amplify the fear like,
"I can't do this!" "I'm not good enough!" or "What are they going to think about me?"
Of course there's no way to move beyond the fear, it's only going to intensify it.
And when you shift your conversation to being positive and loving,
you're actually going to calm yourself to be able to move beyond the fear.
Okay, so tip number three to overcoming your fear is to do mental rehearsals or visualizations.
You know, when you think something over and over again in your mind and you see pictures of it,
your subconscious mind doesn't know if it's happening in reality or if it's just happening in your mind.
And when you do your mental rehearsals, there's some key things you want to remember to do.
The first is you want to make a picture in as specific details as you can.
And then the second thing is you want to engage all your senses.
So what are you hearing? What are you seeing? What are you smelling?
Make sure you engage all of your senses.
And the third piece, when you're doing your mental rehearsals, and this is the most important,
is to make sure that you allow yourself to feel how you want to feel.
So whether that's calm or confidence or free or open,
make sure that you drop into that feeling when you're doing your mental rehearsal.
Feel it, see it, and imagine it.
Alright, now the fourth and final tip on how to overcome your fear is to just take action despite your fear.
Now notice, fear is just an emotion, it does not have to stop you.
So feel the fear and do it anyway.
Let fear know that you are the boss.
And remember, as you're taking action to use that positive self-talk
because that's going to encourage you to keep on moving.
We don't just let this be more information you accumulate.
Put it into practice so you can be, do, and have anything you want.
So commit to one thing this week that you're going to do.
And tell me which new practice you're going to take on to rise above your fear.
And leave a comment below and be the boss of your fear.
I'm telling you, you got this!
A head full of fears has no room for dreams, and the pain of regret is so much greater than the pain of fear.
I'm Stephanie Kwong, having a blast doing these Mindset Monday videos with FitLife.
I love you and remember, we're in this together.