Alright we got a few more days here at the Alexa hostel here in Chiang Mai
Thailand, which again I highly recommend you to check out if you're gonna do any
hostels in Chiang Mai, this is the one to do. A lot of people ask me too
Tripp why are you doing hostels? Why not stay in hotels if you're you know doing this
long vacation? But you got to realize, I'm not really on vacation. I'm just
traveling while I'm working so I still have to make it feasible so hostels are a
great way to do that but also doing it in a place that's nice like Alexa. Too
bad it took me too long to find this place. Neediness the Kryptonite -
attraction and if you don't know because you've never seen Superman kryptonite is
what is bad for Superman. Okay so that means that neediness is bad for
attraction, it kills attraction. When you are needy it shows that you are not
certain and confident in yourself. Alright just sitting outside of Alexa
right now hanging out, it's relaxing and waiting for Nick Nimman. I don't know if
you remember him. I had him on my youtube channel a few episodes ago and I was on
his YouTube channel doing a live. He's a YouTube creator who helps other YouTube
creators. Anyways I'm waiting for him to drop off my light so now I can do videos
at night because before I was not able to due to the fact that it kind of
looked crappy.
You're about to change vlogging history in the Tripp Advice
world because now we can film at night. Changing the vlogging experience. Yes.
Another reason why neediness is unattractive in a guy is because when
you're needy you're showing a weakness. You're showing an emotional weakness
meaning you're not able and you're not capable of handling your life on your
own like you can't take care of yourself if you need other people. As an adult you
should be able to take care of yourself and provide for yourself in all ways.
That's why neediness to a girl is subconsciously unattractive
because she wants a guy who is an adult, who can take care of himself, who can
provide for her himself because if you can't and if we're talking going back to
maybe the ideas of a evolutionary psychology, it shows that he can't
provide for the family and being strong enough to take care of them. Alright so
now I got my light so now I can make videos in the dark so the vlog can go
all day and all night and now I can tell you the questions that make you sound
needy, that make you sound desperate, that are completely unattractive when you're
with a girl. The first one is are you seeing anyone else? You don't need to ask
that question. You don't need to ask a girl if she's seeing anyone else. Okay if
she likes someone else, if she's seeing someone else, then that's what she's
doing. You need to be focusing on just being able to meet up with her and
continuing to date her. You don't need to be asking her. If she wants to let
you know that she's seeing someone else, she will tell you but the answer to that
question really has no meaning to you whatsoever. So what if she says yes? What
does that mean with you? The only exception for this is if you're asking
her this in the context where you want to continue seeing her and maybe make
her your girlfriend then that makes sense. The next one is can I text you
later? Okay so this falls into the category of even
the next question which is can I kiss you? So those two separate questions
that make you sound very needy. Don't ask if you can do something like that.
Just go for it. Now of course there's other things when it
comes to consent which is a whole different story. But you don't need
consent to text a girl. Now kissing there's a fine line here. I don't believe
you need consent to kiss her IF you are getting the signs. So you need to get the
signs that she likes you, that she's interested. If you want to learn about
that, I have a whole video on that and I'll put that in the description below
so you can learn the signs so then you can go for go for the kiss. This is a
dominant attitude and this is you being able to be in control of the situation. That
is attractive. The next one here and I don't want you to be asking
this because this is super needy. I cringe as I say it to you. It is "Do you
like me?" You don't need to ask a girl if she likes you. You know why? Because you
should already know. There's an ultimate and obvious sign which I've been talking
about on many vlogs here the past week and the ultimate sign is that she's
meeting up with you and she is continuing to meet up with you. So
you don't need to know really verbally from her because you'll already know if
she continues to hang out with you, if she continues to be physical and intimate
with you, if she continues to date you. That is the sign so please don't ask her that
question. The big theme here on all these questions is desperation.That's
what's happening here, it's needy and desperate. You're saying things like are
you seeing anyone else, can I text you later, can I kiss you, do you like me and
this is basically the opposite of a guy projecting confidence. That's the
opposite of confidence is desperation and neediness. But we need to
not just show her but show yourself that you are strong mentally, emotionally. That
you can handle the fact that if this girl doesn't like you, you're gonna be
okay and then when hard things and difficult things come your way, you're
still gonna be okay. I'm not saying that you have to bottle up all of your
emotions and not want things or desire things. But the second that you get
really outcome dependent and worried about what's gonna happen is the second
that you lose control. Just walking up back to
my room right now. I finally got that nice private room in Alexa. I hope that
this video inspired you in a way and motivated you and empowered you to be
the guy that's in control. I know that that can be really difficult for a guy
who's new to this and whose self-esteem might be low. So let's work on this, let's
work on this together. Here's what I want you to do, first I want you to admit if
you've ever asked a question like this. Any of those questions you've ever asked
them, write down below which question you've asked a girl. Because then when
you admit it, then you can go from being aware to solving the problem and never
having to ask a question like that ever again. The next thing I want you to do is
go in the description and also get my free program it's called 7 Deadly
Text Messages That She Can't Resist. These are gonna be non-needy text
messages to be able to ask her out. If you have any problem with texting
girls, go get that. It's a hundred percent free and it's for you and it's gonna give you
the 7 best text messages. So go get that in the description below with all
the other links to the other things that I've mentioned. Don't forget to write
that comment, press like and subscribe to the channel because I'm putting out
videos every single day.