I wake up this morning, check the news, and I read "Conor McGregor,
sucker punches,
old man in the head." I think you could this really be happening to get is this
dude really gone off the cuff? He has.
I saw the video and in this video we're going to look at the hidden camera
footage and I'm going to walk you through this sucker punch that he threw at
this old man at the bar, actually hit him in the ear.
We'll watch it through at regular speed,
and then I'm going to go back through and analyze and explain as a social coach
what happened on this channel. That's what I do.
I break down interactions like this so you can learn the nuances so you can see
behind the scenes what's really going on.
So you can tune up your social competence to get what you want out of life,
to get people to treat you the way that you deserve and want to be treated.
So let's watch this through once and then we'll go back through it and break it
down. All right, McGregor's walking into the bar.
That's what's up to a dude. Probably some random fan.
He's got his buddy behind him who knows? Probably his bodyguard [inaudibl..
Now he's got more people in.
His group grabs a bottle of proper 12 his whiskey brand grabs the glass.
He's going to buy a shot for everybody. Puts it for the old man.
Old Man's dot habit. It puts another one old man's dot have at it.
Okay,
moving the cups away. He's not interested. Kind of a dismissive hand gestures
there. Oh Man. Won't even look at him. Connor's poor in the shots.
That's his brand of whiskey. By the way,
if you haven't heard of proper 12 release it a couple months ago,
maybe about a year ago now.
Boom, knocks. The whole guy immediately gets taken up.
Look at the old guy's reaction here. Old Guy doesn't even,
Jeff did say, all right, let's go back and watch what actually happened here.
Let's slow this down a little bit.
So he is going to buy shots for the Bar, right?
He kind of a promotion. I don't know. There's no video there.
There's a video Camry like that probably just sent me, wants to do,
and this guy, he's not even being cool about it.
The old man look at Connor a completely confronting him shoulders square to him.
He's getting aggressive. He's trying to intimidate the guy. Now the guy,
what's going on here? What's the real power dynamic here? The old guy,
he's not trying to be cool about it. He's not being listened man.
It's too early. I'm not drinking whiskey. I'm just enjoying my beer.
But enjoy fellows.
He's trying to be a jerk by just grabbing those cups and putting them away.
So this gets under Conor McGregor skin. Now the thing is,
a lot of times you see celebrities act in erratic ways,
but one of the things that I don't think people realize is how psychologically
it impacts you to be a celebrity,
especially when you're living in la or in your hometown or you're famous.
People literally treat you like you can do absolutely no wrong and it gets in
your head. We all like to think all that wouldn't be me. It would be you.
To what extent, who knows? But it definitely impacts you psychologically.
We're used to getting everything exactly the way you want it.
No matter what you do, people tell you you're the very best in the world.
And I'm not saying that that justifies bad behavior,
but sometime when we see celebrities act in ways that we can't see ourselves
acting,
we need to step back and take an empathetic view and realize it does impact you
psychologically. Another thing I want you to realize,
Conor McGregor is a professional fighter, not even a professional boxer,
a professional MMA fighter.
These guys are going to be the most aggressive people in the world or they're
not going to be good at what they do.
So this guy's got a ton of testosterone flowing from being the number one in his
sport. He's a celebrity and he's a trained fighter.
So his emotions got the best of him and they continue to do so. And you know,
we can be on our high pulpit and say, Hey, you shouldn't do this.
You shouldn't do this shit. He Punch some old guy in the ear. No,
but let's give him a little bit of empathy and say, okay,
I can see how this happened. Okay,
so now he squares up to try to intimidate the old guy in to taking a drink.
Old Guy says something to him, but see that, see that hand wave,
that dismissive gesture, that is definitely a condescending thing.
That's saying, listen, get out of it. I don't need, I'm going to get a squirty.
That's just that. When you use a hand flip like that, that's like saying,
I don't even want you around me like a king. Like get out of my presence.
You Surf Connor backs off, acts like it's kind of cool.
Pours the whiskey. Okay, but he's human right now. He's mad.
He's waiting for his time.
It looks like he's getting a little chant going there.
Boom. He even winds up a little bit.
Look at his right hand going behind his back right here.
He winds up corkscrew, punches this dude right in the ear.
Now the amazing thing,
I don't know if his buddy or that other guy saw it coming,
but look how quickly his buddy or that guy bear hugs him and they get him out of
there. I think they sense the tension and we're ready.
One of the things I kind of pointed out, the old dude on the chair,
he doesn't even react.
It's almost like the other guy tapped him on the shoulder to get his attention,
to tell him the story. He doesn't look back. He doesn't react.
It doesn't knock him out of the Barstool.
I don't know if that dudes a seven foot or if that punch didn't land right.
It looked like it landed pretty flush, but that guy definitely didn't react.
So I want to give that guy props. What do I always talk about?
This channel don't be emotionally reactive. It keeps you higher status.
It keeps you in a higher social status than the person who is reacting to you.
That guy doesn't react to him. He doesn't even turn back so clearly.
He's not too worried about it. Who knows who that guy is,
but that's a pretty strong way to deal with it.
If I got sucker punched in the ear,
I'd probably at least turn back to see if he's not going to throw another punch,
but that dude did not do it. So in a way,
I hate seeing videos like this because I feel like it creates a false sense of
fear in a lot of guys who think that violence is just a lot more common in bars
than it is actually.
Put a full video out about that called the biff Tannen fallacy that talks about
how guys had this creeping unrealistic fear that some big bully is always just
getting ready to tell them they're dork or a loser.
I'll put a link up here in the little I link on the top right corner and click
on a few. Want to watch that if you're interested,
but I want to teach you two things about this video that you can learn.
Number one. Even though violence is an anomaly,
I mean how many people are drinking at bars all the time.
And a video like this doesn't come out too often.
If you do something that you know is going to create an emotional reaction
negatively in someone else,
be aware that the propensity of violence is going to be higher at that point.
And that's one of the reasons I always say you want to be cool with people and
keep the vibe high as much as possible because that enables you to stay relaxed
and cool because I'll tell you what, in a bar,
the minute something happens where I have to check someone or put them in their
place or talked down to them or make fun of them because they've done it to me
first and almost always instances,
well I'm not going to have as much fun the rest of the time there cause you
always got to kind of look over your shoulder.
So that's another argument to always be cool with people as opposed to being
aggressive and confrontational if you can.
But if you need to be confrontational, you need to be able to do it.
Because at a bar,
let's say you're on a date or you're out flirting with the ladies or maybe
you're just out with your buddies,
there's always a lot of trash talking going on cause it's a socially competitive
environment. If you back off and look at it from a primitive level,
it's a place where men and women go to meet.
So it's very aggressive cause guys want to out,
guys want to outdo other guys, they want to one up other guys.
And so how many times at a bar do you see guys talking trash,
talking down to people or maybe you at work or maybe your group of friends.
People are trying to put you down or make you look bad.
You get that tense feeling in your chest,
that kind of sinking feeling when someone makes fun of you and you just kinda
stand there quietly as your value goes down because you don't have anything to
say back. If you're at a bar, it makes you look bad.
It instantly lowers your social status and boosts the status of the guy making
fun of you at work. You become just kind of known the dope that people,
oh barren. He's just such a dope. He didn't say anything back.
I'll make fun of him.
The worst thing is at work when even the guys who aren't that cool realize
you're an easy target and even they start making fun of you or a lot of times
your friends, you know, that's a way that guys kinda relate.
They poke fun at each other.
You gotta be able to handle this trash talk in a smooth and funny way.
When someone makes fun of you,
you've gotta be able to check them and put them in their place because that
enables you to be confident in all these different situations and it also
enables you to diffuse situations like this that could turn aggressive and keep
them very cool and light and put you out on top.
I've got a video about that you can touch or click right here to watch.
I'm going to walk you through how you always can have a quick and witty comeback
to check people and put them in their place so they won't mess with you again.
I'll talk to you there if you haven't seen this video right here.
This is a good one too.