- What's up, everyone?
Now, when we're doing the Myers Briggs thing,
there are 16 personality types, right?
But of course, we know that there are many more types
of people out there than just 16,
so how do we account for it?
Why does it happen, when we have two people
who are the same type,
why can they seem different,
especially when it comes to how introverted
or extroverted they are?
Today, we're gonna be theorizing a bit
about why this may be,
and it's important to point out to begin with
that, just because you are an I type
in Myers Briggs doesn't mean
that you are introverted in the sense
of the Big Five personality scale, for example.
It doesn't mean you're low in extroversion.
Introvert and extrovert, from Myers Briggs,
not quite the same thing,
and I think it's important to clear that up,
especially when you have personality tests out there,
such as 16personalities.com,
which is really just a Big Five test,
so that can cause some confusion.
You can watch my video about that here.
So today, we're gonna focus specifically on INFJs
and the three different kinds of INFJ.
I mean, there's probably many more,
but the three big types
that I'm theorizing about today based on energy,
specifically this introvert, extrovert energy.
Why is it that you can have an INFJ
who's super introvert, and another one
who seems to be so extroverted
that, are they even an INFJ?
This theory is basically looking at it
like, all INFJs have these top two functions,
the introverted intuition, dominant function,
and extroverted feeling, second function,
preferred way of making decisions.
So they all have that in common.
They're all perceiving and judging the world
in the same way, but they all put energy differently
into those functions as well as the lower functions,
and how they distribute that energy can make them be
more extroverted or less extroverted.
So let's start with the most introverted,
the first type of INFJ, very introverted.
(chuckles)
The reason is, if you imagine a seesaw here
of the lower functions, they put way more energy
into the introverted thinking,
the third function, and way less energy
into extroverted sensing.
The super introvert INFJ basically is like,
you know what, extroverted sensing,
my inferior function, I'm just gonna almost pretend
it doesn't exist, I never want to do it ever again.
And to a degree, this type of INFJ will also sort of
not be as demonstrative with extroverted feeling.
Even though that is the preferred decision-making function,
it might not be as apparent with this type of INFJ.
They're gonna be very inwardly focused,
so it's gonna feel a little odd.
I mean, like, in terms of typing people, it'll feel odd.
I mean, yeah, these people are probably odd to be around,
but I mean, like, when you're typing them,
you're gonna be like, is this super introvert really INFJ?
For some reason, there is this thing out there
that INFJs are really ambiverted.
We'll get to that.
But they can also be extremely introverted too.
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This type of INFJ, in fact, will find social situations
really difficult, perhaps frightening.
They are not really gonna want to do them,
and it's not so much a deal
with, oh, I don't want to be judged.
You know, it's not so much the social anxiety,
true social anxiety kind of thing,
but it's a kind of social anxiety where it's like,
this is so much energy.
I'm gonna have to deal with so much random bullcrap
coming at me, you're gonna make me put energy
into my extroverted sensing, no thank you.
I would rather do literally anything else.
That's the reason
why social situations can be hard for an INFJ.
It's not so much like,
I don't want Sally to think I'm stupid.
Who's Sally, you might wonder.
But it's more because, this is, like, a lot of crap
that I have to do.
Like, this is a lot of extroverted sensing
you're asking me to do.
I'm not a fan.
Now, all INFJs are communicators.
The NI and FE together, really,
it's all about communicating.
INFJs, in a way, all IJs,
it seems like the purpose in life is to communicate.
For INFJs, we need to be communicating
the abstract concepts, the deep abstract stuff
that we have in our mind for the good of everyone else,
and the super introverted INFJ does that.
They feel responsible to do that,
but they want to do it on their terms,
so they might not say much,
but once they start talking about something,
once they start communicating,
they will hammer you over the head
with what they know.
Okay, so next, we move on to the ambivert,
the second type of INFJ,
and I think this is probably
the stereotypical Myers Briggs INFJ.
It's the one that people are like,
oh, yeah, that guy's INFJ.
They're talking about the ambiverted one,
the one who is not super introverted,
but he's also not so extroverted
that you can't believe that he's an introvert type.
Remember that seesaw analogy from before?
This guy is like equal.
He doesn't invest too much
in either the introverted thinking
or the extroverted sensing.
He's like, whatever.
I'm gonna focus mostly on the top two,
the introverted intuition and extroverted feeling.
I'm just gonna go hog wild on those two.
And they are true ambiverts.
Like, if you're looking at, on the Big Five scale,
in terms of extroversion, when you're looking,
there's a bell curve to show, for you,
introversion to extroversion,
and these ambiverts are right there,
you know, in the middle, the average,
so they like going out, they like being amongst the people,
but they also like being by themselves,
so it's not clear that they're one way or the other.
Now, they are good communicators, natural teachers,
but they might also not be the greatest listeners.
This is because, when you are doubling down
on introverted intuition, and to a degree,
with the extroverted feeling,
when you get into conversations with people,
rather than listening to them,
you just kinda jump ahead.
Like, I know what you're talking about.
Okay, I got it.
That can be annoying.
(chuckles)
I think (laughs) I'm gonna get in trouble.
I feel like the stereotypical INFJ is kind of like,
I get irritated by them
because they are sort of just like,
yeah, I got it under control.
Yeah, I know what's going on here.
I got it, guys, I don't really need to listen to you.
People are gonna be like, Frank, that's not what we're like,
oh, we're super sensitive.
It's like, no.
Just watch some INFJs, some real A-word INFJs for a while,
they can be pretty irritating because of this.
Always acting like they're so smart,
the smartest people in the room.
I'm sick of that crap.
I know the game they're playing.
Then we move on to the extrovert INFJ.
This is one that doesn't get talked about much
because I think people don't realize
that you can be an I type and be extroverted,
'cause they mean different things
in these different systems.
This type of INFJ is clearly more extroverted.
All right, they're not gonna be
super over the top extroverted,
but I would say, if you ask 10 people,
hey, do you think this person's an introvert
or an extrovert, at least seven
of them are gonna say extrovert.
On that seesaw, they put more
into the extroverted sensing,
more energy into their inferior function,
and way less into introverted thinking.
Now, this might be confusing,
'cause your inferior function is the thing
that causes a lot of problems in your life.
It's the thing that you're repressing
so that you can continue to use your dominant function
on autopilot for everything,
but you can still do that inferior function.
You can still put energy into it,
but in the end, it's sort of like,
ultimately, I'm not responsible for it,
I don't want to do it.
So it's a weird thing of being able to do it,
spending a lot of time doing it,
but then the problems still happen
because, in the end, at the last second,
it's like, nope, that's not something
that I'm supposed to do.
I was just doing it for fun, guys.
I was putting energy into it.
Doesn't mean that I'm responsible for it.
Yeah, so, at first blush,
people might mistype this kind of INFJ as an EP
because you might be able to see the extroverted sensing
more clearly than the introverted intuition,
their introverted intuition
they kinda keep on the down low
even though it's their dominant function.
That's a weird thing.
Some people can do that.
They can sorta hide what they're really doing.
I don't trust them.
Their FE is strong though.
You can see that.
That might be the thing you see first,
and then you're confused,
like, what am I looking at?
Am I looking at an ENFJ?
But, when you really start to look at it,
you realize, oh, it's an IJ,
because, the way you can tell that,
the really stupid person, five-second way to tell it is,
the INFJs, when they're really losing their mind
about what's going wrong in their life,
it's usually something is going haywire,
whereas, with the ENFJs, if they're talking
about what's going wrong in their life,
it's usually Billy, or Johnny, or Sally.
It's a person, and they'll name them by name.
Take that and run with it,
and then complain to me later when it doesn't work out.
But these extroverted INFJs,
their introverted thinking has so little energy
being put into it
that that can become a big problem for them.
It's not a big problem in terms
of an inferior function which causes disastrous consequences
in your life, but it still is this nagging problem
that I don't think the other INFJs,
especially the super introverted one,
deal with as much, and that is, who am I?
Who the F am I?
Like, how do I make decisions on my own
apart from the group?
How can I figure out my identity?
That's what the extroverted one is gonna figure out.
I mean, that's the problem that a lot
of extroverts have to deal with, right?
So there you go, there's the quick rundown
of the three different main types of INFJ,
and we're using extroversion as the way
to split them up.
Let me know what you think about that,
and if you can see yourself in one of those groups,
or if you think maybe there's another way
you can divide them up.
I want to hear your thoughts on this.
Thank you very much for watching.
I sure appreciate it.
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