It does not matter who you are, what you look like or how much
is in your bank account. As long as you understand what creates
attraction,
you can pull any woman into your orbit and make her fall hard for
you. But in order to have a woman fall hard for you, the
conditions have got to be right. You have got to know how to make
women want you and a
guarantee
that what you are about to learn in this video is not when you
are expecting but it is a surefire way to make a woman
fall hard for you. Whether you're trying to get your crush
to notice you or to reignite the spark with your wife of 20
years, you have got to understand one crucial fact.
Women do not fall for guys who are endless pits of
availability, women are pulled toward men who do their own
thing. And yes, that means sometimes being unavailable to
us. Hi, I'm Caitlin v. I am a former professional sex
researcher turned into a sex and relationship coach and I am your
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right, without further ado, let's talk about how to make a
woman insatiably attracted to you. And this surprising and
counterintuitive tip that works every single time. And that is
boundaries, boundaries, more than a six pack or a cool
apartment with a skyline view, a healthy sense of boundaries is
what women are really looking for in a man. So what are
boundaries, and how do they work in your favor. In short
boundaries are a simple way of saying what you will not allow
inside of your relationship, how you allow yourself to be
treated, and how you don't, you can think about boundaries, like
the edges of the court in a sports game, they let you know
what is in and out of bounds. And having a clear sense of
where your boundaries are, lets you both know what kind of
behaviors are fair and which are not. And just like in sports,
there are different ways of reacting to different ways of
breaking the rules or breaking the boundaries. Sometimes it's
timeout, sometimes it's like Game Over, we'll see you next
time. Sometimes it's we are never going to play together
again. So let me give you a real life example. You might have a
boundary around time, you really want to get up to this date or
to the reservation on time and she's running 15 minutes late,
you may give her a gentle warning, let her know how
important timeliness is to you. And that this is an important
boundary. But say she's an hour late, you may tell her that the
whole date is canceled. And you'll try again next week,
because you will not stand to be an hour late. Let me give you
another example. Say you're out on that date and she high key
tells a waiter to off, you might decide that you're never going
to go on another date with her again. Because it's really
important to you that the person who you're seeing respect, wait
staff, that's awesome way to know yourself. You see a lot of
guys are so thirsty that they actually skip this step. And
just let the woman that they're with do whatever, whenever
without any sense of consequence or accountability. And this is a
huge mistake. You might think most of us do that we're getting
into her good graces by being a yes man by never having any
limits by never telling her no stop. That actually does not
work for me. I don't want to see you if you do that. That's not
actually what she wants. Women want men who respect themselves.
And they will only ever respect to you as much as you respect
your self. When you set boundaries. You're gently but
firmly saying here's what I allow, here's what I don't. And
it's because I respect myself that I'm going to hold these
boundaries in place. So you can see why boundaries are great
because they actually allow you to get what you want, and to
avoid what you do not want. They make it obvious that you are a
high value man and therefore able to attract a high value
woman. Not just that, but they also are the key to making your
relationships work because not communicating boundaries can
lead to resentment. Whereas communicating and finding your
boundaries is an awesome process of self discovery that you get
to go on together. This is like the grease behind the wheels
that makes the relationship machine actually work without
anyone getting their feelings hurt or feeling resentment over
time. It's also important to know that boundaries fall into
several categories there are physical boundaries, emotional
boundaries, mental energetic and time and space boundaries. Let
me give you an example of each one a physical boundary might
look like I don't accept fingers in my anus on the first date.
And I prefer that we don't make out in public and emotional
boundary might look like I'm not available for emotional support
when it comes to the other guys are dating Dude, I have an
accent, a mental boundary might look like I am not available to
help you with your taxes and energetic boundary might look
like I don't put up with passive aggression. And I won't stand
for you resenting me without addressing the issue, and a time
and space boundary might look like, don't show up to my house
at 3am unless you're horny, and you want to share your tacos.
So you probably wouldn't think that women love boundaries like
this, right? But we do. In fact, we women thrive off of
boundaries, setting boundaries, makes you downright irresistible
to us. Why? Because boundaries, standing up for what you need,
and want actively increases your value. As a man, it lets us know
that you defend your territory and you defend what matters to
you, which is incredibly sexy boundaries are also the antidote
to the friendzone. These are the friendzone prevention device you
have always been looking for. Because by putting boundaries on
your time, your availability, your emotional availability,
showing her what you will and will not allow you are being the
opposite of the welcome mat, the nice guy who always says yes,
but never gets late, for example, maybe you're realizing
that you're going on an endless string of dates with this woman,
and it doesn't seem to be progressing towards sex or a
relationship. you sense the dreaded friendzone is coming on,
boy, what you would say to her is, Hey, I'm not here to just
have another female friend, I'm looking for a relationship
that's going to be sexual and romantic. That's a boundary for
me, boom friendzone vanquished in a single sentence. Thanks,
Caitlin. So let me know in the comments, what are some
boundaries that you already have, this will be great for
anyone who's not sure what their boundaries are, who's looking
for some inspiration on what other boundaries that other men
have that go down in
the comments.
And let's create a whole list of boundaries that already exist.
And let's inspire everyone else who watches this video, there's
one more reason that boundaries are great. And that is that when
you use your boundaries, you have more freedom. Just like in
sports, if you don't know where the boundary is, you don't
really know how to play the game all the way up to the line, you
never know when you're about to step out of bounds. So you have
to play kind of conservatively staying towards the middle of
the court, because you don't want to suddenly have a penalty,
right. So when you know what her boundaries are, you can play all
the way up to the line with her and know exactly where you're
going to go over. And let me give you an example of how hot
This is. So for example, if she has a clear boundary that she's
like, I really like playing rough during sex, but nothing to
my face, you know that you can get rough ever else as intense
and dies. Because you're super clear on where the line is, now
that you're using boundaries to attract women and gain freedom.
The natural question is, when do you bring them up, because
typically, you're not going to tell her that you have a policy
against rooming right when she's about to take a bite of her
taco. But when that tongue is t minus two seconds from coming
into contact is not the right time, either. My rule is that if
you have unique boundaries that are outside of like the typical
agreed upon social contract, then you should bring them up
early, especially if they are deal breakers for you. So if you
have a boundary that's repeatedly gotten broken in
every relationship that you've been in, then it makes sense for
you to bring that up before it gets accidentally crossed again.
And if you have any boundaries that are going to make dating
you much easier for her like, Hey, I don't text back right
away. I will try to get back to you within 24 hours. But I'm not
the kind of man who checks his phone all day. Amazing. letting
her know that lets her set her expectations in return for other
boundaries. It's okay to let them emerge naturally as you're
seeing each other. But be sure to bring them up quickly.
Because she's not a mind reader. And as far as I can tell,
neither are you. So treat this process with respect humility,
and be quick to let her know where your boundaries are and
when they've been broken. So in summary, becoming irresistibly
attractive to women is about so much more than the car you drive
or the apartment that you live in. It's about understanding
what creates attraction, what makes you attractive, and the
truth about being attractive and how to make a woman crave you is
not to always be available to jump as high as she says the
real secret to having boundaries is practicing the art of getting
what you want, avoiding what you don't want and attracting a high
value woman who wants a high value man, make sure that you
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