Will your ex come back after no contact?
Stick around and I'll let you know if you are stacking the deck in your favor or if
you're just really wasting your time with all of this and stick around to the end because
I'm also going to be sharing with you the biggest sign that I've seen in people that
have been successful in getting their ex back after no contact or just in general anyway.
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Okay.
Let's go ahead and get into this.
So the first thing to look out for when it comes to whether or not your ex's given to
get back together with you after no contact is if you have resolved the main reason why
the two of you broke up, they may not know specifically why the to be broke up, especially
if it was one of the breakup types that we called the blind side breakup or just kind
of came out of nowhere.
But if you really stop and think back, if you look back over the last couple of weeks
or maybe even months of your relationship, you can probably start to piece together some
signs that things weren't really going kind of in the optimal direction.
If you can kind of look at that, you can say, okay, well maybe our connection was kind of
falling apart a little bit.
Maybe we weren't bonding the whether we used to.
Maybe she was complaining about how I spend too much time working.
Maybe he was saying I wasn't taking enough of an interest in his life or whatever it
is.
Right.
If you can go ahead and resolve that issue, then that is going to be a very, very, very
big sign that you can actually get back together with your ex after no contact or just in general.
Your ex isn't going to walk back into the same broken dynamic or broken relationship
that they walked out of in the first place.
They want to come back to something that he knows is going to be completely different.
They want to be in a relationship that they know isn't going to have the same problems
that caused them to leave in the first place.
So if you have resolved the reason why your ex broke up with you, then that's a huge sign
that there might actually be something going on or they might actually want to get back
together with you.
The second sign that you might actually get back together with your ex is if you haven't
just wasted your time during no contact, kind of white knuckling it through the process.
Now I have something called active, no contact, but I know that there are a lot of people
out there who watch other videos online or read other websites and they hear about this
thing called the no contact rule and they think that there's just like one version of
no contact, but there isn't.
There's many types of no contact.
I happen to teach one called active, no contact if you'd like to learn more about that, check
out the card that should be showing up over there in the corner and that'll take you to
a playlist or I'll tell you more information on active, no contact for better or worse.
A lot of people just kind of white knuckle it through, no contact that just try and on
and just think that somehow not talking to their ex for, in most cases, 30 days is going
to somehow healed some sort of magical result.
But I hate to break it to you if that's all you're doing is not talking to your ex.
Your results with no contact are going to be very, very limited because like we just
mentioned, they would be coming back into the same dynamic to be coming back into the
same relationship.
They would look at you and say, you're the same person I broke up with, but if you do
something like active, no contact, then they're going to see a new side of you.
Then they're going to know that they're not walking back into the same relationship, but
if you have actually put in some time to demonstrate to your ex, they're not walking back in the
same relationship, then that is a very strong sign that you might get back together with
your ex after no contact.
The third sign is that interacting with you feels good, right?
So you've resolved whatever caused the two of you to break up in the first place.
Right?
That's very important, but your ex also isn't going to get back together with you just because
of that.
They're going to need to actually be moved on an emotional level and this means interacting
with you has to feel good, right?
It can't just be like, oh, hey, you know, I promise I won't cheat on you, and you know
it has.
It has to feel good on an emotional level, right?
In order to do that, you have to really get good at bonding and connecting with your ex.
You have to get good at creating emotional interactions that uplift both of you.
Things that feel good.
I know it seems really obvious when you, when I kind of explained this, but the interactions
between the two of you have to feel good on an emotional level.
It's like, yeah, Duh, but a lot of times people lose sight of this.
They focus on things besides the emotional connection.
They focus on things like text messages on what it means.
If your ex unfollows you on this social media thing or if they like this post that you put
on this website or what it means if they put an online dating profile up, and what I'm
saying is you don't need to worry about that.
If you just focus on making the interactions between the two of you, feel good and also
it wouldn't hurt to fix whatever caused you to break up in the first place to the fourth
sign that you will get back together with your ex after no contact is you have gotten
out of damage control mode.
Damage control mode is that mental place of panic and anxiety that a lot of times people
find themselves in immediately after a breakup and sure, a lot of times people will think
that time heals all wounds, so if you just do no contact, you'll get out of damage control
mode.
Not true time can turn down the volume on some of these things, but if you're still
not really resolved, a lot of these deeper things that you might be experiencing, you
still can easily slip back into damage control mode.
A sort of offhand remark that your ex makes can send you into a panic, some sort of news
that you get like, oh, maybe they're dating somebody else.
Maybe you saw their online dating profile or maybe they posted something about how they're
glad to be single or something like that.
I can send you into damage control mode, so it's really important that you do your best
to get out of damage control mode because I'm going to go as far as to say that it is
almost impossible to have an interaction that feels good, which again is thing number three
is almost impossible to have an interaction that feels good.
If you were coming from a place of damage control mode, you must get out of damage control
mode.
If you want to get back together with your ex and the fifth thing that is a very strong
sign that you're going to get back together with your ex after no contact, and this is
the most important thing that I've seen with people that I've worked with over the years,
is that you're not the kind of person that gives up easily.
Now, I wish there was a way to say this and make it different, but getting back together
is not going to be a smooth journey.
They're going to be ups and downs, there's going to be setbacks, there's going to be
hot and cold behavior.
Your ex will probably do things like go through the stage of getting back together, called
riding the dragon where they're giving them mixed messages.
One day they're really into the next day they're cold.
There's going to be positive pullbacks.
There's going to be all sorts of things that come up along the way and if you're the kind
of person that gives up easily, then you're going to have a real hard time because when
those setbacks happen, you're much more likely to give up.
You're much more likely to retreat, but if you know what you want and if you're willing
to stick with it, if you're willing to just set your sights on what you want, you are
much more likely to actually get it in the long run.
And that includes getting back together with your ex.
The people that I've worked with that have been the most successful are the ones who
don't give up easily.
They're the ones that know what they want and they're willing to go after it.
Okay, so I hope this has helped you know if you have a good chance of getting back together
with your ex after no contact.
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