By the end of this video, I'm going to give you ten phrases that
only emotional manipulators would
have coming out of their mouths.
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Okay, so phrases that only emotional manipulators
would say I'm going to give you 10 of them
and if that sounds like something that you want
make sure you stay all the way
till the end because I'm going to give you
10 of them and I'm saving the best till last,
or some version of that
you know, so like you're so sensitive.
Something around you are the one that is so sensitive or too sensitive
Something like that. Like in other words
maybe they said something or whatever
but the problem really lies
with you and how sensitive you are not really in what they said.
It's like that you were too sensitive about it
and if you were hadn't been so sensitive,
then you know really what they said
wouldn't have landed for you in that way.
So really the problem is with you.
So really, you don't end up feeling like they were really all that sorry.
So that's number one.
So they're really trying to make you feel like they’re
trying to get you very, very dependent on them and
they're trying to get you isolated from everyone else in your life.
They're trying to manipulate the situation so that you are very,
very dependent on them
and when that starts to happen, red flag
and big warning bells should start to be going off in your brain.
That mighty sense should be going off in you.
All right. So that's number two.
So if they did something that's not so great to you.
Maybe they did something mean to you, awful to you,
goes to do whatever it was.
Hopefully not where they abused you in a
bad way and by the way,
I will definitely post the domestic abuse hotline number below this video.
So that any of you actually are in a dangerous situation,
the number to that will be below as well.
But, you know, you made me do this.
That's so, so emotionally manipulative.
It’s basically they're abusing you and
they're saying, it's your fault.
Very, very, very much of a red flag.
Only emotional manipulators would say that.
That's number three.
Yet you to do something that you don't necessarily want to do.
But, you know, you would do it if you love them.
I mean, if you don't want to do something
and they're using your emotions to make you do
something that you don't necessarily want to do
but they're saying, you know, you would do it if you love them.
Come on. So that's number four.
sometimes like that's fine.
Sometimes in a vacuum that could be fine.
But sometimes the way that could be presented
could be where their putting that in a term
where they’re motivating you to do something.
Maybe you don't want to do something that you don't
you know to get you to do something you don't want to do
or something like that.
So you got to look to see what the
context is in when that line is being used.
So sometimes you're the only one who understands
me could be fine but sometimes it could not be.
So you have to look to see what the context is in
which that line is being used.
This one is not a context I mean.
I can't imagine when that this would ever be a
nice way to be to have this be said to somebody.
So, usually when this is being said to you
it's because you're questioning somebody's
behavior you know, you're looking at text messages,
or you're looking at way
somebody is interacting with someone or your spidey senses
is telling you that a relationship between two people, a co-worker or
you know, something is up between two
people and you're not feeling like things
are copacetic, right?
and then you're being told
“Oh, you're paranoid.”
Usually that's probably not the case.
So, you know, a lot of times I would say
go with your gut feeling on those situations,
Okay? I mean, I've had situations before where,
you know, when I was the attorney in situations where I've had clients
tell me that they saw their husband go into a hotel room with a woman
and the husband came out of the hotel room with the woman
and the husband told them that the husband
and this other woman that went into the hotel room
and all they did was talk inside the hotel room.
I mean, come on
and the husband told the wife that she was paranoid.
I mean, come on.
Like that's the kind of thing where you use your sense of reality with that.
Right? Come on.
Using phrases like “everyone else thinks that you’re crazy”
So number seven and number eight they kind of go together.
Everyone else thinks this no one else.
These are phrases that are used to try
to make you feel isolated to try to make you think
that you're alone to try to make you think that you're crazy.
I have a whole video on actually narcissist favorite catch phrases
which you can definitely check out and if you've heard any of these,
give me a totally in the comments.
I know you guys have heard these phrases before.
I know you've heard a lot of these for sure.
You know something like that or just ha,
something like that, you know where they
just think they say something that was like,
really super mean followed by
“I was just joking”
It's not funny and I've seen this
even with my own daughters sometimes where
you know they were dating guys and they've even like defended
like, you know when they were like teenagers and
they ended up defending the guys that they were dating.
They're like luckily not with those guys anymore.
They even like defended. Oh, they were just joking
you know they were okay with that. They ended up not staying with those guys.
Thank goodness.
But you know, be very careful about that.
You know it's not okay to have a put-down followed by,
“Oh, I was just joking.” I mean, no, that's not okay.
All right, that's really an emotional manipulation as well.
Okay. That's number nine
to say that directly to you because that's
really a translation that they're the ones that so manipulative.
Right? I mean, they're trying to
make it sound like you're the manipulative one and honestly,
they’re the manipulative one, right?
and I know you guys have seen a lot of these things,
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