If you've been following me for a while, you know that I've gone from working
in entertainment to being a paparazzi assistant to being a dental hygienist
to owning my own business and I was always asking myself what the heck I was doing.
I don't know if I could ever say for myself that I knew what I wanted to be when I grew up.
If you are in the same boat, I want to tell you what I wish someone would have told me to make
sure that I took that next step towards my future in how to find your life purpose so let's jump in.
I've told my story many times about how just before I became an entrepreneur, I was a dental
hygienist and I did social media for my dental office and happened to get a few local referrals.
Before I knew it, I had so many clients that I couldn't handle it as just a side hustle.
I decided to leave my dental hygiene job and started learning and perfecting my own framework
to make the process of content creation more efficient, more impactful and more lucrative in
terms of cash flow and if you stick around to the end of the video, I'm going to give you that
formula that turns your content into high ticket sales kind of cash flow. Like I said if you follow
me for a while, you may know this story but there's actually more to my origin story that started way
before my days in dental hygiene and it's a story I haven't really told in full before until now.
Before I was a dental hygienist, I worked in radio and I worked in event management and I just fell
in love with it because the people that I got to work with, they were some of the people that I grew
up watching on tv or listening to on the radio who had this charisma and they were performers
and I just became obsessed with the stories that they told and I always wanted to be part of that
in some capacity. You know when people ask you what do you want to be when you grow up? Well
I felt this pull to have something also secure as a fallback, as a plan b for security, right? Like how
many of you want security to know that you have money in the bank and the ability to check out at
the grocery store or pay your mortgage without an insufficient funds notification. We all want
to have that safety you know their families are taken care of and there's nothing wrong with that.
So when my mom told me about dental hygiene, it sounded cool because that's not the kind of job
where you work overtime or have deadlines or have to bring work home with you. It was secure, it fit
the status quo, I could work nine to five, get two weeks of vacation blah blah blah but when I was
in the world of entertainment and radio and events, it was such a thrill like every day I was running
on adrenaline which spoiler alert, not great long term. When I was working in radio, I got to produce
interviews and meet these big celebrities and go backstage at their concerts and with the events
company, the people that I was working with are the people that now, their books line my bookshelves.
I was managing their contracts, I was handling them backstage, taking them to dinner and it's
funny because I look back now, this is when I was in my early 20s and I had no idea how big of a
part of my life they'd be today. I wish I hadn't taken for granted that the power and knowledge I
had right in front of me. I got to spend a lot of one-on-one time with these people you know after
their performances, their presentations, their book signing. When the buzz of the audience would die
down, I got to spend some time and see the real people, the humans behind the charisma and the
charm that they dispel on stage. Also at this time, I had some paparazzi friends and because
they knew that I was already familiar with being around celebrities, meaning that I was you know
familiar with the celebrity world, knew who was who and also that I could talk to them like normal, not
necessarily fangirling around them, they would sometimes bring me with them to be their paparazzi
assistant and basically my job was to approach the celebrities and ask them for an autograph
that the paparazzi would later sell. It was really interesting because the paparazzi world is this
super underground thing. It's almost like they have their own language for how they
you know interact or find information about the celebrities or even some celebrities would have
relationships with the paparazzi themselves to you know call them up and say hey my plane is landing
at this time, I'm staying at this hotel, come take pictures of me and then when the paparazzi would
showed up, they'd be like oh please no photos while posing up a storm and during the time that I was
working at the event management company, I got a side job working for this famous author because
we had met at an event that we flew her in for to speak at and we just totally hit it off.
She asked me to do her social media for her and I didn't even know at the time that I could get paid
to create content on social media but I knew her book and I knew her as a person so well that it
just came easy to me. I couldn't believe that I get paid to do that but my boss found out and he
didn't like that I had a side job so he fired me. I was devastated. I loved that job so much, I remember
being in the stairwell when he escorted me out and I said to him like if you fire me, I'm gonna die
and honestly in that moment, I thought that was true because outside of that job,
I didn't know what else I had, that was my life, that was my self-worth, my identity.
I defined myself by what I did for a living and this was a low point for me.
I walked out of that office feeling like I had nothing left, like I just lost everything that
shows to the world that I'm important, that I mean something so I'd lost my job, pretty soon I was out
of money, I was also at the time grieving a loss of a family member who'd recently passed away and my
boyfriend at the time broke up with me. All of that in a really short period of time so with my tail
between my legs, I moved back to my hometown and smiled my way through the emotional pain that I
was going through. Remember I just felt like I lost my identity, everything that gave me my self-worth
until I got my next job offer. So, I was back in the game, working alongside celebrities again, got my
self-worth back. At the time I was putting on these big shows, producing concerts, landing these big
contracts with big names like one of my proudest moments at this company, we did the first concert
with the Jacksons like their first show after more than a decade hiatus and I was so proud of
that. It was a really exciting night, it was a crazy celebrity hurricane of a job and I was constantly
running on adrenaline. Well two days after the Jackson show, my grandmother died. I took some time
off, I helped my family to plan a funeral and my first day back, I wasn't even in the office for
five minutes and my boss says I have to let you go. He said he couldn't afford to pay me anymore.
I was shocked and devastated and I was like why? I'm doing a great job, we just had these big shows.
I was so confused and again my self-worth was all wrapped up in this job so I felt like I had to
beg and plead to hang on to it and my boss replied, he said you'll understand one day when you have
your own business. I thought what? Me? Have my own business? Not only had I never even considered that
before but I was so mad at him for telling me that because I was like I want to work for you, I want
this job. But obviously it was time for me to go so I walked out of the office and actually from the
parking lot, I called a former client who always used to tease me jokingly, but also kind of serious
to call him if I ever wanted a better job working for him and he also had an event company where he
did events with celebrities and performers so I called him to say hey, I'm available and
I got lucky, he hired me on the spot, boom. There was my hit of validation again and I got my
self-worth back but if you've caught on by now, you might recognize that I've been in this pattern
up to this point in the story of seeking external validation and self-worth from outside of me.
So the story continues that job after job after job, I found myself in these situations
it was a pattern of me seeking external validation, being so depressed, being in toxic relationships
even with my employers at times and when every job didn't work out, it pushed me to finally find the
solutions and this is something that I want you to see for yourself with whatever you're going
through in finding your life's purpose, whether it's your career or whether it's relationships.
If you find yourself in a pattern, know that you are the common denominator. I needed to find the
right balance of security and fulfillment and for me, fulfillment, I had no idea at the time
came from creativity. Like if you look at every job I had, I was creating platforms and stages
and content and monetization for other people and there's nothing wrong with that as long as you can
still generate that self-worth internally and that your happiness and your identity isn't wrapped up
in something outside of yourself and when I realized that, it also allowed me to give more
and serve better to the people outside of myself without attachment to needing their approval.
I had to shift that focus from selfishly aching for external validation to wanting
to build momentum through my connections with other people, into positioning myself as an
authority that could help them that could give them momentum. One of my mentors Alex Sharfen has
this quote that the best way to get into momentum is by giving it to someone else. So by having that
self-awareness of who I am, the opportunities that I can provide, my skills and expertise and talents
that I can give to other people is where I was able to find that self-worth internally,
which grows by being able to support other people. Those connections really gave me such a huge sense
of self-worth and purpose. How many of you guys have had maybe expectations or experiences that when they
didn't work out, you were disappointed, maybe even devastated? Everyone has that, right? But then days,
weeks or months even years later, do you ever connect the dots backwards thinking I'm so glad
that didn't work out like maybe you didn't get that job offer you were hoping for but then you
ended up getting a better one or maybe you started your own business and became an entrepreneur. I now
can look back and think I'm so glad I got fired from that job, I'm glad I had my heart broken, I'm
glad my boss planted that seed for me saying that I'd understand one day when I had my own business
and now we're here. We adapt, it becomes our stories, we turn our mess into our message
and entrepreneurship is a game of personal development. Authenticity comes from knowing
who you are, charisma comes from knowing who you are and by playing that game of personal
development, I learned that I am an entrepreneur and that I'm capable of evolving into who I meant
to be so I can reach who I'm meant to reach and because my stories and my content is evolving
at the same time. I hope that as you continue to watch these episodes here that you become
fully confident in the fact that your obstacles can become your opportunities and your mess can
become your message and that you can bring your audience along this story with you as the hero, the
protagonist in the story and give them a front row seat to watch. If you want to get a full picture of
what my entrepreneurship journey has looked like, the good news is I've actually documented a lot of
it here on this channel so click the link in the description below. I'm gonna give you access to a
playlist I made called the Road to Funnel Hacking Live where I vlogged every step from one of the
most devastating moments in my life to speaking on stage at Funnel Hacking Live in 2020 to an
audience of 5,000 people. I went from devastating to pivotal moment, I'm gonna share that with you
in that playlist below so click link below and check that out. How many of you have
taken a secure route to root route what am I saying or even some celebrities would have
relationships with the proper- and then when the property. The story doesn't end here but every
and during this time was when I was working at that event management company.