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How attractive do you think you seem to other people?
Are you insecure about certain parts of yourself?
Everyone has their own insecurities about themselves,
and may fear how it may come off for other people.
But you never know, those very same qualities in yourself
that you're insecure about
are traits that some people may actually appreciate,
and find attractive.
While there's certainly some truth in the saying,
no one can know you better than you know yourself,
when it comes to attractiveness,
sometimes we just can't tell
because we're so hard on ourselves.
To help you with that,
here are eight flaws that actually make you more attractive.
Number one, you're shy.
Do you speak in a soft voice,
but prefer to keep quiet most of the time?
Are you the type to duck your head,
or fidget when people look at you?
While you may have a hard time believing this,
there are actually a lot of people out there
who find shyness an attractive trait to have.
In a world where sociable, talkative,
take charge types of people
are all clamoring to be the center of attention,
there may be something refreshing
about being with someone who likes to listen,
more than they like to talk.
After all shy, people are often seen as more mysterious,
intriguing, and down to earth compared to others.
Number two, you're clumsy.
Another trait that some find surprisingly attractive
is clumsiness.
In fact, psychology says that men in particular
tend to find clumsiness in women to be attractive,
not only because it makes them seem more genuine,
youthful, and excitable,
but also because it makes them feel needed.
Clumsiness also makes people feel compelled to approach you,
and to help you out when you're in a rut.
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Number three, you're easily embarrassed.
Do you often get flustered when people tease you,
or get embarrassed when your friends poke fun at you
for something?
Do you tend to blush, squeal,
or cover your face when this happens?
While this may seem like a flaw to some people,
being easily embarrassed
is quite an attractive trait to others, especially to men.
Similar to the previous point,
people who are easily embarrassed seem more genuine
because they don't try to hide their true feelings.
Number four, you're nerdy.
Those who get called nerds, or geeks,
often get a bad reputation for loving something deeply.
But what's so wrong with that?
Whether it's comic books, anime, video games,
Broadway musicals,
or some other obscure interest
not a lot of people can relate to.
Being a nerd isn't something you should be ashamed of.
In fact, there are some who find nerds attractive
for the very same reasons they're criticized for.
They're driven, excited,
and most of all, passionate about the things they enjoy.
Number five, you're too honest.
Do you always say what you mean?
To those who are tired of listening to everyone,
telling them what they want to hear,
it can be nice to have someone
who always tells the truth, no matter what.
Being honest can be a very attractive trait
because it means that you're not going to waste their time
by beating around the bush,
or by playing mind games with them.
Despite how difficult it may be,
you are able to just come out,
and say what they need to hear.
Number six, you're an oversharer.
Oh, I shouldn't have said that.
Sorry, I've been talking and sharing so much.
Does this sound like you?
Well, the good news is,
one of the silver linings to being an oversharer
is that it makes you seem more sincere and approachable.
While some may prefer a mystery,
there are those who like it when someone is an open book.
This may be because your openness creates
a comfortable environment for them to open up,
and to share things about themselves
they don't usually share.
It makes it easier for them
to develop closeness and intimacy in a relationship.
Number seven, you take things slow.
Do you always take a long time making decisions
because you tend to overthink things,
and focus on all the details?
Do you always have a lot going on in your mind?
You're probably a deep thinker,
and the type who likes to observe the situation
before forming an opinion.
Unlike those who are always craving excitement,
or chasing one thrill after the other in their lives,
you appreciate and savor the peace and quiet in your life,
and prefer to take your time with things,
and to people who feel the same way,
this can be a very appealing quality to have.
And number eight, you crave support.
As humans, it's normal to crave affection from others,
though it's true that sometimes people who openly desire
warmth, sympathy, and encouragement from others,
can be a bit off-putting at times,
and especially when they seem too needy, or desperate.
There is something nice
about being with someone who makes you feel needed,
whether it's kind words, sweet gestures,
thoughtful gifts, or simply time and attention.
Having a partner who wants and asks for support
can be a very attractive quality.
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