Renee: If you're serious about finding the girl of your dreams this year, then you have
to stop magically hoping that she appears on Tinder and start getting down
and dirty with the actions that will get your results.
I'm Renee Slansky for The Attractive Man team and in this video, I'm going to give
you 6 dating resolutions that will get the girl that you want.
There are currently 4 billion single women out there wanting to find a man. So if you're thinking
that there are no fish in the pond, then you are wrong. What I want you to do
though is I want to teach you how to fish for the sort of woman that
you really desire so that you can approach, date any women confidently.
Are you ready? Let's go fishing.
#6 Choose quality over quantity.
Every single time, the first thing that you need to do is not turn this into a
numbers game but rather a quality quest. The more dates that you go on doesn't
necessarily equal the closer you are to finding your ideal woman. This is about
realizing that you can narrow down the dating pool and actually are going to
have more opportunities and chance of finding the right woman if you have less
women that you are dating. The problem is if you are going on multiple dates
all the time, then you are going to get dating burnout or choice fatigue. My
advice is to limit finding women only through two options. The first is
actually sparking conversations in real life and the second is only going on one
dating app or site that's right, one not two, one. And here's why talking to women
in real life forces you to identify and create opportunities instead of feeling
that there are absolutely no women out there. And don't worry, later on I'll
actually give you some tips on how to approach these women confidently.
Secondly, the reason why I say limit the amount of dating sites and apps that you
go on, if you can't find enough dates purely off one side, then you are doing
everything wrong. Having access to multiple women doesn't
mean multiple quality dates. And if you give yourself too many choices, then what
you're going to do is you're never really going to know the full potential
of what the girl is like in front of you because you're too busy focusing or
comparing her to a stranger that you've only just started
a conversation with. Unfortunately, the downside of dating apps is it has given
us this fear of missing out. So, that's why if you want to eliminate that fear,
then just focus on only going on one site at a time, and really looking beyond
the initial sort of things that you would to dig deeper to work out who is
actually quality amongst all those choices. Now, before I reveal the next
five game-changing strategies for your dating life, I need you to hit the
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#5 Focus on your strengths not your weaknesses. Just as you guys are attracted to a
confident woman, we are actually attracted to a confident man. And if that
is something that you are really struggling with, then it's time to build
it into your life daily and consistently. We often struggle with our confidence
levels because we focus too much on who we are or what we haven't done rather
than what it is that we currently are and what we do have to offer. Stop
thinking that you have to be like every other alpha man out there in order to be
able to get progress in this area of your life. It's simply about re-framing
your mind and focusing on the characteristics and strengths that you
already possess and then highlighting them now. What I suggest you actually do
is write a list of all the great things about yourself. And if you're not really
sure because you have low self-esteem or you feel that for so long you've always
compared yourself to others, then ask your mates or ask your mom. Then, put that
list somewhere where you can see it every day. Especially when you don't feel
that you're confident or you're having a downer. The next thing I want you to do
is an accomplishment board. Write a list of all the things that you have achieved
and done so that you are reminded all of your current value. Thirdly, if you have a
certain feature within you that you really know is kind of
something that everyone talks about all the time, then when you go on a date, I
want you to enhance that. For example if you have a great smile, then smile more
or if you have amazing eyes. Then, wear a color that really brings them out or if
you have leadership skills, take a girl on a date maybe in a crowded sort of
space where you can lead her through the room confidently and really show you
that this is one of your better qualities.
#4 Let go are the ones who rejected you. You can't come into a new year carrying the same
sort of crap because what that's going to do is going to block you from the
women who actually really want to add value to your life.
Rejection happens to the best of us even Hollywood stars out there get rejected
because we are all human and we're not always going to be everyone's cup of tea.
The best thing that you can do is see rejection as a redirection. What I like
to do when I actually get rejected is I like to see that as confirmation that
that person situation or opportunity wasn't meant to be in my life so I am
actually in the right position and I'm not entertaining anyone or anything that
I shouldn't. And lastly, get rid of those triggers, delete those messages from your
ex, all those photos, all those things that really make you hold on to what it
is that you know is going to be holding you back from moving forward. If you want
an amazing woman to step into your world this year then you have to create space
for her physically mentally and emotionally and a part of that is
clearing out anything that isn't actually feeding your life or giving you value.
#3 Put some effort into your dating profile.
Do you realize that you literally have one third of a second for a woman to
make up her mind whether she's going to swipe left or right on you? That means
that first impressions through that screen count and if you haven't watched
my other video on my Tinder profile tips and I suggest you do that for homework
after this video and I will put the link for that in the description below
Guys, just because there is an abundance of women out there it doesn't mean that
they're all going to be worth your time. And if you want to start clearing the
bad ones from the good ones, then you have to kind of dues process of
elimination simply by setting your profile up to attract the right sort of
ones who actually want to invest into you, bring equal effort, and make you feel
like the guy that you know that you really are. So, here's what I want you to
do. I want you to set twenty minutes aside where you really focus on
how you can enhance your profile, whether it's updating some of your photos and if
you're not sure which photos to use, again, look at the tips that I have in my
other video or ask your mates or maybe a couple of trusted female friends which
photos they think are the best ones that make you look most handsome. Also, put
some effort into your bio. Say what it is that you're looking for. Make yourself
sound fun and interesting and mysterious so that you can attract women who aren't
just going to take you off that initial photo face value. If twenty minutes can
literally change the dating game and help you find the woman of your dreams,
then my question to you is why haven't you done this yet.
#2 Approach more women in real life. Now, this brings me back to the very
first point that I was talking about. Actually, approaching women but the
difference is I don't want you to do it with a romantic agenda attached. What
I mean by this is sometimes, when we want to talk to a girl we get really scared
because we want to date her and we're basically worried that she's going to
turn us down and reject us so if you want to actually eliminate the process
or the feeling of rejection, then make it your goal to simply talk to her rather
than actually get an outcome out of that conversation and by default you can't
really fail because if you say hello to her. Most of the time, she'll actually say
hello back or she atleast acknowledge you. Therefore, again you haven't failed. You
have achieved what it is your goal was. Having a casual
conversation with a girl as opposed to straight asking her out makes everything
feel a lot more natural and it actually makes the woman feel more comfortable in
your presence. Truth is women love being approached as long as it's done
under the right circumstances. We don't feel that enough men approach us
nowadays so you can literally set yourself apart from every other guy out
there simply by taking the initiative to go and talk to a girl. Now, if you are
someone who actually struggles with conversation which I totally get then
what I suggest is downloading our free conversation cheat sheet. This is going
to help really get you unstuck, it'll give you things to say so you never feel
that you're going to run out, it'll show you how to escalate a conversation so
you can ask her out. And it'll give you a couple of tips and tricks so you will be
natural and relaxed and at ease when you're actually talking to her. The link
for that is in the description down below or simply click the image on the
screen. Now, the second thing I want you to do is actually watch my other video
on Here's How She Wants You to Approach Her
because it's full of exactly what it is you need to do in order to be able to
spark a conversation with a complete hot stranger. And #1 Learn more about women.
Oh, I don't know if you guys are going to like this one but can I just
say I read the comments that go on in this video and the amount of negativity
that I see from you men out there who are complaining that women are too much
high-maintenance, they need to do this, they need to do that. You're kind of
shooting yourself in the foot if you want to be able to attract an amazing
woman into your life, stop making her your enemy and actually start realizing
that in order to have a teammate, you actually have to be a team player and
understand how the other person works. You guys have standards. I totally get it,
but so do we and if you want to attract a high quality woman who wants to bring
value to your world, well you need to understand how she works and what it is
that she wants as well. The more that you actually take time to
understand women instead of assuming that she wants too much or that
everything's too complicated, the more you actually have an advantage over
every other man. I actually had a client who was 21 and you definitely wouldn't
call him a Brad Pitt but he was somebody who always had women around him. Why?
Simply because he made those women feel appreciated. Valued. He spoke their
language. Therefore, that he always had them eating out of his hand. You see, if
you know how to fulfill a woman's desires, then she's going to do even more
to be able to fulfill yours. So really, it's a win-win situation and that my
friends is what we call teamwork in relationships. Well, those are my tips and
I believe that 2019 can be your most magnificent year yet and that you can
get the girl of your dreams. I can give you advice but you have to put all of
this into action. So what I want you to do if you haven't already, subscribed to
our channel and give us a big thumbs up. Plus, if you do struggle with
conversations and approaching women, then make sure you download our free
conversation cheat sheet. Again, the link for that is below
along with the other videos that I was talking about on How to Approach Women and My
Top Tinder Profile Tips. Alright guys, if you want me to do a video,
specifically for you, then put it in the comments below. We look through them or
and we actually want to be able to give you guys as much value as possible.
Love your support! I'm Renee Slansky for The Attractive Man team.
And until next time! Bye!