In NLP we have a lot of techniques to build rapport
the problem is it's really difficult to do them all at the same time I can show
you a hack to get instant rapport and bring all those skills together and you
can do it was starting right now
stay tuned if you had NLP training before you know that you're supposed to
match gestures
you're supposed to mirror your supposed to match breathing you're supposed to
listen to a person's voice tone and match that you're supposed to to do
everything the other person is doing and also notice voice tone changes and and
all these things it can be overwhelming especially when you're starting out and
most people because it's overwhelming they continue going through different
master
NLP trainings and they never really get this skill down Steve Andreas in
developing his self concept model found a way to jumpstart this and really hack
and get into building instant rapport and you can also learn these skills
rapidly and start doing it today
this is really awesome ok basically let's start like this
imagine a context in which you want to better rapport with people i could be
sells it could be coaching it could just be in social situations
imagine you're sitting in a social situation and actually be there and then
imagine somebody steps to close to you
you don't know this person they get into your personal space and you go well this
is too much and you want to pull away from them
now imagine that happening and then imagine the person steps back very
slowly very gradually until they get to that point or you're comfortable again
now you just identified your personal border at least in this context
different context you may have different personal borders
you may have multiple personal borders depending on the person depending on the
context
let's keep this really simple them now
now that you know a bit about where
your order is code that draw a line around it was the shape for me it's kind
of an oval it kind of goes like this
so people who come up on the side of me i'm a little more comfortable with but
if the person comes at me directly i'm i'm a more likely to back away from that
person
so mine does like an oval like this around me
yours might be more circular some people might even be a square
it doesn't say anything about who you are it just a bit
it's just whatever your personal border is find out what that is and find out
how much space is ok for you some people it's really close and different cultures
it will be different as well
so for some people they need a lot of space for some people they don't need as
much space so get a sense of where that border is for people you don't know
ok and then once you know the shape
see if you can change the color of the border maybe you start off with the
border being kind of a black line that goes around you
well turn into some turn to green turn it to purple turn it to orange notice if
this affects you some people do some people it doesn't it may give you a
sense of even greater reporter or greater protection
find out for yourself now think of a time when you were really and rapport
with someone and imagine it as if you're actually there sitting or standing in
front of that person you are and rapport with dirt at that exact moment where you
really felt real rapport with this person really imagine that and then
notice where is your boundary in relation to this person
more than likely they are inside your border there inside your personal space
because that's what report actually is report is where you don't have as much
boundaries or you have no boundaries with this person people you're closest
to you may not have any boundaries you may feel comfortable that you can chance
you can trust them so much that you don't even have any sense of boundary
from that person
notice when you run report with this person where that border is and play
with it maybe bring it back put them outside your border put a put the border
back around them
notice if there are different colors inside your border vs outside your
border play around with opening that border and closing that border now think
of someone who you are not a report with someone who you don't get along with and
imagine that person is in front of you either standing or sitting and then
notice where your border is well if you don't trust this person if you don't get
along with them and you're not in rapport with them
chances are they're outside of your border that's normal
now play around with this we are just you're in a safe place you're imagining
this
so imagine what happens when you put that order on the outside of the person
in other words you're bringing them into your personal space and your coding the
color if there was a color inside your personal space with that person inside
of it
now what happens do you get feelings that you understand this person better
or maybe you like the more than what you did before
quite likely you will it might be inappropriate to be in rapport with this
person if you need to protect yourself from this person go ahead and put the
border back that this person that you would like to get along with and you're
not getting along with them put them inside your border and see what happens
next time you
you see that person I think you'll be surprised
now imagine the next time you meet someone new or someone you would like to
be a report with put imagine your border and expanding it to go to the outside of
them so that they're inside your personal space
I give this a try I think you'll be really surprised at the results
I what I reported back to Steve whenever I tried this out and what most people
report back
is that they can now matching mirror and watch breathing and listen for tonality
and match tonality so much better when they put that person inside of their
border
so instead of doing one thing at a time we're trying to do all these multiple
things at once
put that person inside your personal border and watch out easy it is to do
all the little smaller techniques
give this a try and love to hear back
how this works for you it worked incredibly well for me it's actually
something I do when I teach I actually put the entire group inside my border
and I code that with yellowish kind of goldish light and that helps me fill in
rapport with the group so you can do this for presentations as well to get a
report with the entire group of people
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