Three things you need to stop doing
or start doing to get out of
the nice guy syndrome category
and avoid the friend zone.
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So, most nice guys
are the ones who end up in the friend zone
and I've done other videos on the nice guy syndrome
and the friend zone and all of that
so you can watch those.
But here are three things that
you can do differently
to help avoid ending up in the friend zone.
One, being wishy-washy.
Women like men who are certain
even if you're wrong
we like certainty it shows that
you're willing to stand up for something
it doesn't matter that it's wrong.
Wishy-washy is weakness in our eyes
sorry, you don't have to like it
it just is the way it is.
So, what is a good example?
Here's an example where do you want to go?
I don't know where do you want to go?
Oh my God, just make a decision
I want to go here let's go here we're going here.
See, how the difference is certainty.
Hey lady, I’m going to meet you here.
Hey, I want to take you to this place.
Hey, I want to try this coffee shop let's go here
that's called certainty.
One of the benefits that women
subconsciously value about a guy being certain
and taking out the wishy- washy is that
she doesn't have to think about it.
Women have a lot on their minds as well
and it's just really nice to feel taken care of
in a way that we don't have to think about.
Okay, that's one less thing we have to think about
we know where we're going to go
we know where we're going to meet.
And that doesn't mean
you're not considerate of the woman's needs.
Like, if you know she's a vegetarian
then choose vegetarian places.
Or if you don't know then say
hey, I want to go here
do you have any food allergies
or you know preferences?
And you don't even have to say that actually
she'll say oh, I’m a vegetarian
let's not go there.
Okay, well then find two other places
that are vegetarian and say okay,
which one of these do you want to go to?
At least, it narrows it down.
So, she doesn't have to like
think about so much stuff
because you've provided
a very narrow option for her or none,
which is even more attractive.
Okay, the second thing is not arguing
But I know what
if you have a difference of an opinion
and you don't stand up for yourself
she will see this as weakness.
Weakness isn't sexy sorry, but it's not sexy.
It's not,
she doesn't consider it you know, any ability
and you know how to get along
she sees it as weakness.
So, you need to have an opinion
and you need to look for opinions
that you differ on so you can speak up
and say hey,
yeah, I know that's not how I think of it,
this is what I think.
And she might argue with you
and that arguing is a *** test.
You don't have to back down on your beliefs
but it also doesn't mean
that you have to be argumentative
if she has a valid point.
You could be like okay, you have a valid point
I might consider that because you're cute.
But stick to your guns
or you're never going to see her guns.
Anyways okay, totally that was yeah, anyway huh
and then the third thing
that you're screwing up on
is always saying yes.
So, if you're always available
then you don't have any value,
you don't have any scarcity
it's like you're just always
there she can count on you,
which you might think sounds attractive.
But that's not attractive
until she's actually committed to you
and wants to be able to count on you.
Right now she wants to be able
to chase you a little bit
and have you not be always
available and accommodating.
So, you need to be able to say no
to getting together sometimes
and you need to have a life.
So, you need to not always be
the one initiating communication
and you definitely want to be
the one who ends the conversation first
that's actually a bonus tip.
So, there's number four end the conversation first.
Kind of don't be like uh, okay, good night
you know, if there's, it's like da, da, da, da
and then that's it.
You're not being rude,
but there's a point in a conversation
whether by text or phone or in person
where you can leave first without being rude,
you want to be able to do that.
I know it sucks right, like
women are so complicated
honestly I don't know
why you want us that's not true,
we have *** that's why you want us.
And there's other reasons of course,
but you know like you guys put up with a lot more
to get a woman than
I think women put up with from men.
All right, thanks for watching.
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