- I hate that and I say it all the time.
How would you like to go out
on a date with me for Valentine's Day?
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(gentle music)
Good morning, good life everyone!
I know this is weird, I'm sitting on the floor.
I was cuddling with Lucy.
I don't actually do this very often
and I just thought, hm, let's go ahead
and just start chatting on YouTube.
Why not?
So something popped into my head of a bad habit
that I tend to have not on purpose like,
oh I know I'm just gonna keep doing this, it's whatever,
but just something that I tend to say
because I'm not usually super comfortable
talking about myself and when people
as me about what I do or how I do it or what I'm doing,
I kinda just wanna end the conversation quickly (laughs),
but the way I answer, even though it seems kind
of like harmless comes off sometimes pretentious
or disconnected to people and I hate that.
I absolutely hate that and I've been wanting
to quit this word forever and I feel
like this is a really simple step
toward building relationships in my life
whether they're super close to me
or acquaintances that I'm just meeting.
So I thought maybe that this is something
that you do and we could talk
about it and grow from it together.
Somewhat related is that Valentine's Day is coming up
and when that happens I'm
like (gasps) we need to make plans.
Ben and I work together.
We are married to each other.
We're around each other all the time
but we also sometimes don't always
find a lot of time just to be us,
just to spend time together in a relationship
and so Valentine's Day is that holiday
that tends to remind people of this
no matter what their marital status is.
I think it's a good reminder and one
that I wanted to lean into this year.
I don't think he's made plans,
because I know my husband fairly well (laughs),
and I don't think he's made plans (laughs).
So I went ahead and made plans.
I really like the whole Sadie Hawkins
like approach to things.
So since this episode is all about building relationships,
I'm gonna go ask my husband on a date.
It's gonna be interesting for all of us I think.
(playful music)
Hey.
- What's up?
- [Amy] I need to ask you a question.
- Alright.
- [Amy] How would you like to go
out on a date with me for Valentine's Day?
(playful music)
- I would love to.
- [Amy] Good.
(Amy and Ben laughing)
- Obviously.
- [Amy] Good, okay.
Here's what we're gonna do.
(playful music)
- Oh wow.
(playful music)
I've always, I want to see Hamilton.
- [Amy] I've wanted to see Hamilton.
Are you actually excited? - Oh, the Ohio Theater!
- [Amy] Yeah it's in town.
- Wait, that's like right there.
- [Amy] Yeah.
I'm directionally challenged.
- That way.
- [Amy] But yes, I think it is over there.
- But like we can walk to this.
- [Amy] Yes we can
for Valentine's Day. - Oh.
Oh wait it's on Valentine's Day (laughs).
That's awesome.
- [Amy] Did you make that connection now?
- I just did.
- [Amy] Nice job.
- I did not see that it said
Thursday February 14th but now I do (laughs).
(Amy laughs)
Thanks babe.
- Yep.
(Ben smooches)
I would be fine if he was like faking his excitement
because I just want to go so bad (laughs).
But now that we have plans I need an outfit to wear
and so that is what we're gonna do now.
I would like to show you something that I got in the mail!
So, this is from our lovely sponsor
of this episode of AmyTV, LilySilk.
They wanted to help me out for my Valentine's Day attire
and so I just wanna show you what they sent me.
Okay, option number one.
Oh how pretty is this pink?
It even shows you the benefits of silk on the tag.
(gentle music)
Oo that is a Valentine's red.
Hello.
Oh my gosh, I love that neckline.
Had to go with the Valentine's red first
and I just put it on with some high waisted pants.
A little bit short at the bottom
for a good little heel showcase.
These are Karen Millen pants in case you're wondering
but I just love the way this looks tucked
in because I think if I had like,
too much red I wouldn't love it,
but the high waisted makes it for me.
So this is so cute.
I love the sleeves.
This is 100% Mulberry silk fabric.
So essentially it's gonna be great for that day to day,
not just special occasion and I can tell you,
I just got done steaming everything
and there was not one single opportunity for a snag.
Everything went really really nicely and easily,
and that makes me feel like I could pop this on seriously
everyday and it would be a good investment long term.
I love breaking the no white after labor day rule.
Can you tell?
I'm not sure if I want to put a belt with this or not
but I just love how soft this looks
and I clearly match my outfits (laughs).
But I just love the softness of this pink, white pants.
I'm just living for this clasp.
Thanks again to LilySilk for these amazing shirts.
But if you guys are interested in checking out anything
that I picked up and you want to get a little discount,
12% off at LilySilk when you use the code AmyTV.
'Cause you're a friend of AmyTV.
Mm.
These are the things in life
you're supposed to get excited about right?
We work so hard so we can be able to do things like this,
meaning go to Hamilton.
Just kidding.
Make time for the people we love (laughs).
Both, how 'bout both?
It's so great being able to get excited
and look for forward to plans for certain things.
There was a time in my life when
you would look forward to the weekends
'cause you could just clock out.
That's not my life anymore.
I used to be able to look forward to a vacation
because I was just gonna clock out (laughs).
That's not my life anymore.
I go on vacation and I'm still like (humming).
Look at me being productive in my free time (laughs).
So making plans like that and being intentional
and being able to do that reminds me
of how much I could do that in little ways in my life
and how I can make a better impression
with other people when I talk about what I do
but I also add balance in my life.
So in conversation when you're talking to somebody,
maybe you already know them and you're
just kind of running into them.
It could be like, at the store or
it could be on the elevator and they're
kind of like hey how's it goin'?
And you're like oh you know, just keepin' busy.
I hate that phrase and I say it all the time.
To me it's my way of being like oh,
we already talk about what I do
and I don't wanna explain it again
and you don't want to be bored with it again
and so I'm just gonna tell you that like
it's just another day, another dollar keepin' busy,
and to me it's just such a cop out
but it's my introverted way of like
getting out of the conversation (laughs)
and being like let's talk about you (laughs).
What's your normal life like (laughs)?
But when I sit back and I reflect on that
as easy as it is and I fall into that habit all the time
and I won't get better and I won't improve
and I'll fall into that rut and then
I'll walk away from that conversation and think like,
they must think that I think I'm too good
to talk about what I do or I want
to keep it to myself and it's not that.
It's just not something I'm great at.
Plus whatever you put out (laughs) into
the world is just gonna come back.
And so if I just keep saying I'm busy,
I'm busy, I'm busy, I'm busy, I already know I'm busy.
I calendar blocked to the end of time
so I already know that like I fill
up all my time with something.
But it's also subliminally or like subconsciously,
I don't know which word would be more appropriate,
is going to effect how I approach everything else.
So, am I too busy to make time for cuddling my dog?
Am I too busy for making time to call my mom?
Am I too busy to go and sit with
my husband on the couch and do nothing?
Which even if I feel like that's a lack
of useful time in that moment it's actually not
because it's contributing to something else entirely.
So I know that I've kind of
like brought all these pieces together.
Valentine's Day is spending time with my husband,
all of this goes back to talking about being too busy
and so I don't know if you've thought
about this in your own life but I certainly am in mine.
The idea of hey, let's stop saying we're too busy
or we're just keeping busy or we're just
using the word busy at all.
What does it even mean?
I'm busy.
I'm, you know how you say a word way too many times
and it just starts to sound funny?
Busy.
I'm busy.
Busy Phillips.
Busy.
Better as a name I think.
Busy.
Mm hm.
First born, write that down.
What I am finding is that when I challenge myself
a little bit more to have a real conversation
with somebody about what I'm doing,
not only am I copping out by saying something
that's fairly dismissive, like hm, I'm too busy.
Just keeping busy.
Like I don't even have time to tell
you what I'm doing because I'm so busy.
But when I actually think about putting myself
in the shoes of that person,
telling them what I'm up to in a way
that they would understand and coming up
with new ways to talk about what I do based on
the fact that everyone is different,
it's actually making me better and I would even argue
if you let's say are new to what you do
or you're new at this career path,
whatever you're trying to do in your life
or a passion project that you're following,
you have to get really good at talking about it.
If you want to start growing awareness
around it whether that means digitally or in person,
and so I challenge you next time
that you are getting ready to fall
into the same trap that I do all the time
which is to say oh you know,
just another day of being a bit busy,
try saying something else instead.
When someone says what are you up to?
Tell them what you're up to.
Maybe you could just say hm,
riding the elevator down currently.
And then after that I'm gonna get in the car
and go to my job which I love so much.
So I'm actually in a great mood today.
How are you?
At least that's a conversation starter.
I would love your thoughts on this.
Have you observed this in other people?
Have you observed this in yourself?
Does it bother you?
Either way, what do you think about
this whole concept of being dismissive
in a conversation in a way that makes
you feel more comfortable but actually
may not open up the opportunity to build that relationship?
Share that in the comments below.
Big shout out to LilySilk.
Thank you so much for giving me
something to wear for Ham, I mean my husband.
I'm dressing up for my husband,
not just for going to Hamilton.
I'm so excited.
I've been wanting to see this play for so long
and it's finally in my town so.
The links to everything that I showed you
will be in the description below
and if you use my code AmyTV it is an extra 12% off for you.
So duh, get yourself so V-day gear.
Think I'm gonna end it right here.
Thank you so much for tuning in.
I appreciate it.
As always make sure you subscribe for good vibes,
kiss the ones you love (smooches).
(blowing air)
And remember, go after the life that you want.
Cheers.
(gentle music)