a simple step most of us are missing when it comes to our own improvement
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information about it I was actually thinking about calling this video what's
wrong with positive thinking I don't naturally think of everything in
a positive way I know people who are like that and I believe they're genuine
they just have a very natural disposition for being positive but if
you're like me and I think most people we have to really work at this but this
can also cause a problem and that is we often will actually fake being positive
how many times has something bad or negative happen to you where you felt
maybe inadequate or hopeless and because you knew that you were supposed to think
positively about it like that was the tool to use you applied positivity to it
did it work it probably didn't what's even worse when it doesn't work it might
make us feel even more inadequate and even more hopeless because it seems like
it's working for everybody else it works for all these gurus out there who are
saying just think about it positively but it's not working for me so it might
actually make you feel worse but there's good news I'm happy to say and that is
all you did was just miss a very important step the important step the
key here is acceptance acceptance of the situation you're in acceptance of the
circumstances you're in but more importantly acceptance of yourself
self-acceptance and acceptance of the feelings that you're experiencing and
because this doesn't normally feel good when the head things happen to us we
immediately look for a distraction and if you're in the personal development
and self-help and self-improvement positive thinking becomes a very
convenient and accessible tool but the problem is we're not actually accepting
the situation we're just painting over things with positive thinking and that's
not really what positive thinking is so what it turns turns into is we're using
it as hope but the problem gets even bigger because that hope comes from a
place of hopelessness and desperation so the important thing to know here is that
positive thinking is what comes after you accept your situation accept your
feelings and accept yourself not before so positive thinking isn't a cure it's
just it's the direction you move toward after acceptance and so what happens if
you don't accept your failures you don't accept your negative feelings and you
don't accept who you are well what eventually happens is you will
eventually quit trying to use positive thinking because you'll think well it
doesn't work and you become you're more likely to become a very bitter person
because when you're not accepting these things you have to then drag this around
with you pretending like it's not affecting you but it is it's a huge
burden to have to drag around with you so it basically limits you and you're
dragging around that limitation because you're not acknowledging it you're not
accepting it what does it mean to truly accept this can be really scary for
lot of people because if you think about if you truly accept your situation what
happens a lot of times is a tremendous amount of fear will come up fear that if
you accept your situation that you won't try to improve it you will become
complacent and not do anything about it you might attempt to accept yourself and
feel a tremendous amount of fear come up about that because if I fully accept
myself and all of my flaws and all of my problems and all of my inadequacies that
I might not do anything to improve myself and then what if I accept the
pain someone else has caused me I might allow someone else to inflict that same
pain on me again but that's not what acceptance means and it's not really
what acceptance is it's sort of like having to acknowledge a problem in order
to solve it you can't solve a problem that you're not acknowledging so
acceptance works the same way when you fully accept something then you can move
beyond it when you fully accept your limitations then you can finally move
beyond it otherwise you're just going to carry this burden around with you
wherever you go like I mentioned pretending like it
doesn't affect you when it actually does it's finally when you come to terms with
that and accept it how it is then you can implement positive thinking then you
can solve the problem then you can move beyond the limitation so just think
about this and take a moment to imagine what it would be like to completely
accept yourself as you are and what would it be like to accept everything as
it is now when you start to do that you might just you might start to feel that
fear except the fear except that you're experiencing fear except when you
experience what we call a negative emotion it's just a feeling and then
accepting it is when we can let it evolve and dissipate and do its thing
because feelings do that if you let feelings do their thing they eventually
evolve and this hey if you don't accept them it's sort
of like it isolates them and freezes them and then they stay there so imagine
what it would be like right now to fully accept yourself and fully accept
everything as it is and again if fear comes up except the fear and try that
out see what that does for you it's a extremely freeing way to be and it will
free up so much energy for you energy that you could be putting into positive
thinking energy that you could be putting into moving in the direction
that you want to be moving in so unburden yourself from these limitations
accept them so that you can move beyond them check out my website NLP-Gym.com
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