Greetings guys, gals, and non-binary pals, and welcome back to another video!
I hope that you are well, and I hope that you are fighting because there is a lot to be fighting for.
As usual, there will be a link in the description to the page on my website,
with a bunch of petitions, donations, emails to send to MPs, etc, etc.
Now today, I thought I would do something very similar to what I normally do, but also slightly different.
Today! We are going to be looking at some women.
Some things some women have said, which, I know! I know!
I know!!
So we are going to be going through the subreddit: r/notliketheothergirls
I think it's a really interesting conversation, and I think that it is very amusing.
But also a good conversation to have, so...
We are going to be having a look at that together. We're going to dive into that.
But first!
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Okay! So, let's, let's get into it. Let's have a look at some good ol' pick me girls.
I mean...
How else, how else am I meant to signal the other gays?
How else am I meant to tell the other queer women that I'm...
That I'm down? You know? If I have those acrylic nails...
They're not gonna know...
Not that having short nails instantly makes you gay! And not like having long nails means you're not gay.
But like...
Good for you, hon! I am happy for you!
You can all that sh*t. You can do whatever you want!
That's cool! But don't be dragging other women down!
What's wrong with being a "barbie from California"? I'm assuming that means, you know, they,
Dress in heels and do their makeup. Like, what's wrong with that?
Do whatever you want to do. Just don't drag other people down for doing what they want to do.
You aren't better than anyone for doing things that aren't "stereotypical". Like?
Just live your life and let other people live their lives. It's really not that difficult.
Okay? I respect you, and I respect that you can... drive and drink beer.
But like? I don't care if that's what you do. And I don't care what other people do as long as they aren't hurting themselves or others.
Who gives a sh*t?
I'm sorry? In what world?
Are people not excited about good grades and good opportunities?
Like, I'm willing to bet the large majority of girls who are still in some form of education,
would be so thrilled to get good grades and good opportunities!
And also like, most people in schools aren't doing drugs and going to parties. Like that's pushing a false narrative.
I guarantee you there are more girls that get excited over good grades and good opportunities,
then there are who get excited over drugs and parties.
Everyone gets excited over good grades and good opportunities. Not everyone gets excited over drugs and parties?
I don't understand where this narrative is coming from? Where did you? Who? Are you okay?
Also, not a woman calling other women females.
Like, come on. We- We get it.
You wanna impress The Boys. You want a boyfriend. You want them to pick you, we understand.
But like, come on. "Females" is so dehumanizing.
You don't call people- You don't call men "males" do you?
No! It's dehumanizing. It's cold. It's clinical.
You use female as an adjective, not as a noun.
Right? You say like "female dog". "The female chimpanzee." "The female... blank."
It's "woman". The "female of human", yeah? Okay?
If you're talking about, like, reproduction, you can use female and male.
When you're talking about medicine, and anatomy, and science. Female and male. Sure!
But when you're talking about, like, human people. Man. Woman. Non-binary person. Whatever.
Just "women". Not that hard to remember. It's not that hard to use. Just use it. You know.
The word "female" is only ever used in a derogatory, negative way. No one ever says "female" in a positive way.
Right? It's just... It doesn't happen. So, stop it.
Let people enjoy what they want to enjoy.
It's such a big thing currently, right? And it has been my whole life.
Like, it's "shameful" to like pop music? I don't understand that at all.
My school that I went to was very, like, "indie". Like, the "cool kids" were the band kids and the ones who listened to the f*ckin Arctic Monkeys.
They were the "popular kids" and they, ugh, I have specific memories of...
My favourite band was 5sos. Right? Like, I have a 5sos tattoo. I... They were my- they were my "emo band".
They were my everything.
There was this one guy who constantly gave me sh*t for it!
We were what, fifteen? Sixteen? And he was like "Yeah, no. 5sos are sh*t. You should listen to this band instead."
"They sound very similar, but they're better because no one knows who they are. They're really underground."
That is a direct quote! That is a direct quote from this guy!
Who gives a sh*t, man? Just let people enjoy things!
Like the way, I got bullied for liking a band because they were popular?
Like, I had friends who liked twenty one pilots and then when they blew up they were like, "No I don't like them anymore. They're too popular." What?!
How?! Shouldn't you want success for artists that you like? That doesn't make any-
That's off-topic.
Pop music, it's popular for a reason.
Right, like? Just, if you enjoy it, you enjoy it. It's not bad to enjoy things just because other people enjoy them.
Why do people like hating things that lots of people like?
Why- Why do you think that makes you better than other people?
Why does it make you "cool" and "edgy" if you like old music? You know that music today is one day be old, right?
And then in some, like, twenty years are you gonna finally like today's music because you're like "Yeah, it's old."
Illogical. Completely illogical.
If you like old music better than music today, cool! I'm happy for you! I'm glad that you found some music that you like!
But it doesn't make you better than anyone. You enjoy your music, let other people enjoy their music. Just...
Music is such an incredible, amazing thing, and everyone connects with different music.
Everyone connects with different styles, different lyrical content, different musical content.
And you shouldn't shame people for that.
Just let people enjoy what they want to enjoy.
So many girls and women have these same opinions.
So many have like, combinations of that. You can like makeup and not like pink.
You can like makeup and pink and skateboarding.
You can have whatever combination of these things, or none of them, or all of them, and it doesn't make you better or worse than anyone else.
We are all just women living our lives.
And pulling other women down and saying that you're better than them because you aren't "feminine"?
Like, a lot of the time people say this because they want approval from men.
Right? It's... It's that "pick me" energy of like "Look! Look I can get down with the boys!"
"Look I'm like you! Look I'm not feminine! I'm not, I'm not, I'm not bratty. I'm not, like, a snowflake" or whatever the f*ck...
I don't know. Ugh.
Stop. Stop seeking approval from men. You don't need approval from men.
Men's opinions aren't worth any more than other women's opinions.
Stop trying to be "one of the boys" because you think it makes you better than "one of the girls".
Why, why is being accepted by men worth more than being accepted by women?
Why are we valuing ourselves based on men's opinions of us and how desired we feel by them, and how we fit in with them?
It's really f*cked up. It's really f*cked up.
Hot take!
Your husband cooks his own food.
It's useful to be able to cook, I 100% agree. You need to be able to cook because you need to eat.
But it's not your job to cook for your husband!
Take it in turns. You cook some nights, he cooks some nights. You don't have to feed your husband! That's not your job!
Uggghhhhh
It's so f*cking sad that so many women think like this.
If that's your dynamic in your relationship that's fine!
If you have an agreement where you're like a housewife and you just stay home and you cook and clean and he goes to work, and that's what you want!
Fine! But don't shame other women who don't want to do that!
Some men want to cook. Some women don't. Some women want to cook, some men don't. Some people share.
Just let people do what they want. Men can cook for themselves. Please can we-
Don't praise men for cooking, firstly, that should be a thing that everyone should do.
But don't, don't tell women it's their responsibility to feed their husbands.
Also, don't assume that all women want to marry men, as well, like...
It gives me a headache, it really, really does.
This one I included because it's literally, like-
Just a personal attack! Like, genuinely!
If you change 2010 to 2014...
Listen, this came for my throat. I was scrolling through this Reddit and I came across this and I was like,, someone is inside my brain.
Someone is inside my brain. It's time to hide away forever because they're watching me.
Genuinely though, I just wanted to include that because I thought that it was terrifying.
That they got me so, so spot on.
I, I don't think I ever thought that I was better than anyone because I was like, depressed.
But I definitely fell into that trope of like, "not like other girls", right?
Like I'd see those posts on Instagram and I would like them, I probably reposted some of them.
I did! And I didn't want to listen to pop music because I thought that it wasn't cool because other people were telling me it wasn't cool
Like this was 2014-2015. Like, Halsey was very alternative.
Halsey and Melanie Martinez. I was like f*ckin, "I listen to alternative music."
And all the f*ckin emo bands and sh*t, oh my god.
Just to a T. Just that is extremely, extremely accurate to me as a human.
Hi, I'm currently editing this and I just realised that I think a lot of you don't know that my name is Savannah.
So, Hi. My name's Savannah and that is why this was so scary and such an attack.
Because we have same- Okay. Glad that we, glad that we got that covered.
I'm gonna finish it off on one last post. Which is just sort of the summary of this entire video and why this is an important conversation and why I wanted to do this.
Now, this is incredibly true and incredibly sad to the way that-
Yeah. Like if you look at women in the media and how we're portrayed in so many different ways, it is very one dimensional a lot of the time.
And, the "not like other girls" thing? The "other girls", the "majority"?
Not- They're not! They're like literally not!
It's this made-up idea of femininity and what is expected of girls and what, what women are portrayed to be.
But, aren't.
It's a made-up idea that we all feel individual for not being like that.
When that is just an idea of what we are told that women are meant to be.
Which has a negative connotation too, because everyone's trying to not by like that, and people don't want that.
So everyone's like "Oh! I'm not like that!" But that's what we're told woman are.
It doesn't what you like. It doesn't matter who you are, what you do, what your interests are,
As long as you aren't hurting yourself, or anyone else, do what you want!
Love yourself. Other people will be drawn to you who are like you.
You will find people with common interests no matter what your interests are.
Live your life for yourself.
Don't pull down other women, or anyone for their opinions.
Dont- Just let people live their life. Let people enjoy things. Okay?
You aren't better than anyone for having different opinions.
You may have noticed this hoodie that I am wearing with a little rainbow kiwi on it.
Right? I'm sure you were wondering "Wow! Savannah! That's such a sick hoodie where did you get it!"
Heh, well lemme tell you.
I am going to be selling in December. They will be in white and in black.
They are 100% fair trade, organic cotton, and recycled polyester. I will...
Everything that I will ever sell will be fair trade and as environmentally friendly as I can possibly make it.
I understand that there is no ethical consumption under capitalism. But I want to try to be as ethical as possible.
By making the most ethical merchandise that I can and selling it at the most reasonable price that I can for what it is.
So, just keep that in mind for anything that I ever sell.
Uh, yeah, so it's fair trade, organic cotton, and recycled polyester and it is so soft and so comfy and I love it so so much.
They will be out, I think at the start of December. I will give you an exact date when I know.
But, yeah! I'm super excited. Let me know what you think!
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Thank you so much for coming along. I hope that you enjoyed the video.
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*Monsters and Fairies by Savannah is playing*