Speaking seems like the easiest and simplest skill ever, but when we speak to a group of
people or a broader audience, it gets much more difficult, we start panicking, we start
getting nervous, and a job that seemed simply suddenly becomes challenging, it even feels
scary to try.
If you have ever tried to speak on a stage in front of a large audience, you know what
I am talking about.
But that's not the only problem, because even when we speak to friends or a small group
of people, we don't always feel confident and that makes it even more difficult to express
your point of view.
And it feels horrible because you have this fantastic idea in your mind but the lack of
confidence makes it difficult for you to share it with others.
Just to be clear, I am not claiming that I am some kind of an expert when it comes to
social skills, but after making videos for some time here on youtube and talking on the
stage, I have learned a lot about speaking.
Because I always have to record my voice and edit it! over time I started noticing some
of the things that people usually don’t and I started learning how to speak better
and more confidently.
So let me share with you a couple of tips that I have learned along the way that will
help you to talk more confidently.
When you get nervous, you start rushing and speaking faster than you usually do because
you want this thing to end as soon as possible.
But like it or not, you are only making things worst.
When you speak, your primary job is to feel as comfortable as possible, and the easiest
way to do that is to talk slower, make it clear to yourself that you have all the time
in the world and you don't have to speak faster for any reason.
As long as you are talking 120 or 130 words per minute, you are fine.
But the reason you get nervous in the first place is that you let your emotions get in
control.
You start focusing on the wrong side of the story, you start thinking what if things go
wrong, what if you are speaking too slowly and people are getting bored, so you speed
u and ruin everything, which is a common mistake.
Every time you feel that way, stop for a moment, take a deep breath and focus on the message
that you want to deliver and forget about how people are going to react to it because
the more thought you are going to give it, the more nervous you are going to get.
Some people are naturally confident and are masters at speaking, but that doesn’t mean
you cant reach that level.
Most of these famous politicians weren’t as good as they are today, many of them were
even introverts at some point of their life before becoming who they are today, but with
some practice, they could reach that level, which means you can do the exact same thing
if you are willing to put the effort.
Pick up your favorite book and start reading loudly as if you are talking to a group of
people.
Imagine there is an audience in front of you and you have to tell them this incredible
story.
Try to read it with energy and enthusiasm.
Of course, having a real audience in front of you is different, but this exercise will
train you to feel a little bit more comfortable when you have real people in front of you.
Don't forget to record your voice.
Because you might think that you sound great, however when you listen to your voice, you
will know that you aren’t as good as you think.
And I have experienced multiple times.
But that's the only way to find out your flows and fix them.
You will feel uncomfortable when you know that your voice is being recorded and you
will get at least a little bit nervous as if there is a real audience listening to you,
but over time, you will get used to it.
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