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what is one easy and natural way to invite someone to do something together that you
can use when you're a little bit familiar with this person today find out how to do
it to make sure you spend time with great people in your life
hey Michelle feeling great today how's everything in your world New York City yes I'm it's good I'm
very excited to be talking today um guys I am I am uh talking to Lindsay for the first time
in a little bit in a little bit we took a little bit of a break but our listeners don't even know
because you guys have been hearing Michelle on the podcast oh that's right all the time never we're
always here for our listeners that's the most important thing yeah but it's so good to chat with
you again Michelle I love it I love it yeah you too you too um so how about we get started okay
I love that idea let's do it oh interesting so you said how about right yeah I said how about yes so
um what was I doing here why did I say how about how about yeah you didn't you didn't
even say how about you said which is so natural and Native right that's the way I would say it too
um what are you doing you are getting us going here getting us into the topic you're basically
making a suggestion right right so we can do this we can use how about to offer a suggestion
um so that's what we're gonna be talking about today so guys though before we get started
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how about a coffee after this can we meet up um I would love to but we don't live in the same place
I wrote that and then I used it to well we could always get on Zoom and yeah that's
true you know Brew without a coffee and chat right that would be nice that would be nice
um so but today like like we said we're gonna talk about this fun way to make suggestions
so this is different than would you like or can I offer you which are very formal
um and saying how about or how about really is a confident way to suggest something it's almost
like you assume the person might say yes what do you think yeah it's very casual and it's very
confident it's also a little different from would you like and can I offer you would you
like can I offer you or more about literally I'm trying to give you something I think of what how
about you could use it for that but it's also more like let's do something together yes yeah
yes yeah right right like for example you could say like how about a brownie after class today
right so you're invited you're inviting me to go have a brine together right so it's about
an experience kind of a shared experience right right right right right it's like the suggestion
slash invitation exactly or another example guys make sure you're writing these down and by the
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the transcripts so go to allersenglish.com app so here we go you're hungry how about a string
cheese it sounds like something you'd say to your kid right right right right exactly exactly yeah
you're making a suggestion like and then if they're my kid they might say I don't want to
stretch and then you say oh how about of this you know you might you could use it more than once the
dialogue back and forth I can't imagine can adults eat string cheese I think they can are you kidding
I have like an entire I eat string cheese all the time yeah all the time do you peel the the
cheese or do you bite by the stick so um I think I I bite it if I'm in a rush and I peel it if I want
to have a good time got it I see I see but when my grandma I remember when I was a little girl you
know you have all these like images of you know your childhood and I I remember my grandma would
say like oh do you want me to peel it like a tree and she would like peel it for me so it's still
on a little bit and it looks like a little tree yeah so so um yeah something's cute still think
of that good memories good memories or sometimes I mean I like to have my fun with my string cheese
um yeah I will like I eat a lot of like cashews a lot of cashews yes I will wrap why am I doing
this hard cashews and cheese yeah I will like wrap my string cheese around a cashew oh that's
next level interesting and you also do cheese and peanut butter right you told us that before yeah
or I eat a lot of their like these special almond crackers I have then I I I also oh my gosh there's
a lot of rapping I like to like I used to like to okay I used to like to try my string cheese
and Knots oh wow you're playing with your food right like did you ever get yelled at then for
playing with your food no I don't think I don't think too bad but yeah it's a I don't know string
cheese is a lot of fun onesie you should you should try it out I should try string cheese more
often yeah I love it speaking of lunch right I'm definitely hungry what's another example Michelle
um how about we meet at 12 for lunch yeah so again this example is also about a shared experience
right right right exactly or all of these are about food but you could also invite somebody
to this experience like how about swimming today after our run right yeah so I love that today's
episode it's looking like it's really about how to invite someone to do something yeah it is it
is it's funny because I wasn't thinking about it in that category I was thinking more like a
suggestion or things like that but very it's a it's a it's a really cool way to invite someone
to do something yeah it's a connection episode today right guys because connection not Perfection
is what we believe in and we want to give you the tools to build those friendships and those
relationships um but what about I'm wondering if there's ever a time that we wouldn't use this
wait maybe it's too casual for a situation hmm I think I I think it's um hmm I kind of think like
if it's a first date situation um it you may need to know the person like a little bit better yeah
that's really true because if some if you like get like drinks or something and then maybe if
you want to like take a walk afterwards you're not quite ready for it to be done but if you
if you throw out like oh how about we take a walk now if things are if like you're not sure
the other person is feeling it then it's a little maybe a little forward yeah it's kind of hedging a
little bit it's assuming that they'll probably say it's kind of rolling into the invitation
very casually with confidence so you may want to word that just a little differently to not
assume not make any assumptions that they want to spend more time with you because First Dates you
know dating is tough we never know what the other person is thinking in the beginning right right
exactly so I think when you use how about there's a certain degree of confidence not for sure like
when I offer my son a string cheese if I say how about a string cheese I don't know what's gonna
but like you know I think there is a certain you know or you know in our example how about
we meet at 12 for lunch okay well we already know that it sounds like we already know we're
meeting for lunch so suggesting a time you know it's not so controversial oh that's true
so if you've already made that plan you know you're having lunch that day and you're just
following up specifics right that's a good use for this too yeah yeah exactly so um I mean a
more formal way would be you know would you like would you like to get a coffee with me later but
um yeah I mean or or or I didn't write this but like you want to get a coffee right right very
common natives say that all the time wanna meaning want to right so and and you guys as
listeners you know as our listeners here you want to be listening for wanna not want to right that's
the key yeah yeah that's a very important it's really important and then another fun one it's
getting a little playful a lot of personality is saying can I interest you in something like
what Michelle can I interest you in a breakfast burrito Lindsay yeah and breakfast burritos are
kind of hot out here in the west actually I don't know is it popular in New York breakfast burritos
or is it a little bit but I wanted to say yeah I mean I know like when I went to uh Austin Texas
I remember that was like really you know a lot of that kind of stuff yes the thing that's hot
here is green chili so breakfast burritos with green chili they love their green chili in Denver
it's so fun that is funny yeah so but there is something kind of nice about being formal
when we're inviting someone I don't know there's something confident about that too you know would
you like to do this with me it's very upfront and you're risking getting rejected right right right
exactly so these are you know these are very different like would you like to sounds very
different from how about Orchard then there's a time and place for each of these right Michelle
exactly exactly so I think that you know to kind of kind of knowing the difference between them
and you know knowing that how about wanna sounds more a little more confident you know um I think
that's that's very useful okay so Michelle would it be weird to use these in a conversation I mean
uh what do you think here uh uh well all at the same time um well let's see let's see let's see
how it goes here we go all right in this situation Michelle we are at the grocery store here we go
all right so I really want to make something sweet oh how about cookies oh good idea Michelle would
you like to make them with me that'd be great can I interest you in a dinner and a movie night at
my house and cookie baking yes sign me up I added that little native bonus for our listeners today
what does that mean that's so good it means I'm coming yes it's like yeah you'll be there yeah
you'll be there so that's good all right so what did we use here uh so what did we use here so okay
uh well first of all I said how about cookies right yeah you said how about cookies so here
it's not about inviting someone to do something and go somewhere you're just saying why don't you
cook why don't you bake cookies right right so you can use it that way as well yeah that's another
way to use it and then I said ooh good idea would you like me would you like to make them with me
and here I'm really just full on inviting you to do something together right right right right and
then I get excited and very playful and I said can I interest you in a dinner and movie night
and my house right so you could use can I interest you in a more formal way like I feel like I can't
but but I feel like a lot of times it's kind of used in a cute way yeah this is a cute way like I
can imagine you kind of like making a gesture and sort of being playful here oh can I introduce you
in a dinner and a movie night at my house again cookie bake oh my goodness yeah you're having fun
I mean you're not being totally just neutral in tone right right right exactly so I mean do you
think this sounded I mean they were all together but I think I don't think it sounded funny to put
them in the same conversation because they were useful I mean we were we were kind of throwing a
lot of things out there oh for sure no it's we've done other episodes where you really shouldn't
pair things together the same thing shouldn't be repeated five times but this one guys we're you
know we're talking about making plans with someone so it makes total sense right right right exactly
um but yeah oh my gosh these this these are all fun yeah I love it guys go ahead and try these
I mean today's episode is all about having you make that invitation so that you're spending
time with people that you want to hang out with right that's the key it's connection right this
this is definitely a connection episode so this is fun you know the takeaway is like you gotta
connect with people uh these are useful ways to suggest things or to invite someone to something
so you know try it out think which one is best for which situation situation like oh what I
ask my brother to do something with this one or that one or my co-worker or you know think
about how these might be different yeah guys and most importantly just make that invitation
go for it because that's right we want to spend our lives hanging out and building relationships
building connections that's the key don't let your English get in the way of connection right
Michelle that's what we're all about oh my gosh that is so what we're all about so good
all right great stuff today Michelle I'll see you very soon all right bye Lindsay bye
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