(coffee dripping)
- [Dan] I still remember the moment that
Renee told me that she was pregnant.
There was a sense of excitement.
I always wanted to be a father and then there was this huge
sense of fear because I didn't want to repeat
some of the elements of my childhood that didn't serve me.
I didn't want to be a father that was always on the road and
I didn't want to be disconnected emotionally,
have alcoholism around my kids.
You know, if you come from a challenging environment like
I have one of the most beautiful things is being the generation
to stop that behavior.
I think the most incredible thing you can do is break a
pattern that didn't serve your family or yourself from being
propagated forward.
Okay, hit the button.
There we go.
(speaking in French) Get a snack.
Yeah?
Okay, how about you grab the snack
and then we'll go sit on the couch, okay?
Ta-da.
What's up, buddy?
I know a lot of high performing entrepreneurs.
They're committed to not only their family and to their work
but also their personal health and their hobbies and their
friendships and the only way to get all those things and
balance is creating a schedule and designing not only our day,
our week and our month but
really the year between Renee and I.
I have a hard time when people say,
"Well, it's not easy having your health in check,
"your relationship with your partner,
"your kids and your business continue to thrive."
I love you. - I love you.
- [Dan] Yes, it's not easy but is it doable? 100%.
Is it something you can aspire to? 100%.
I don't accept people that say well sometimes you need to put
those things on the back burner.
- Look at my muscles.
- Whoa, calm down. Calm down. Too big.
And what I decided is take that belief,
wrap it up, throw it out the window 'cause
it's not a good one.
It actually is not true.
And then ask myself, what would the integrated life look like?
Can it work and the answer is absolutely.
Having a partner that's on the same page
with you is everything.
If Renee wasn't on board with that vision,
if we didn't co-create that vision together,
that would be like pushing
a 10,000 pound boulder up a mountain.
It would be almost impossible.
- [Renee] I think it's to create this environment for our boys to
learn and to know that they're loved and respected.
To teach them the values of serving other people.
It requires Dan, it requires myself being happy and healthy
and us connecting and
having great relationships with the boys.
- Dump it in.
- I get the strawberries out of the freezer?
- Yep.
- [Renee] Now, ugh, you have to open this.
Go like this and tear it open.
As hard as you can.
- [Dan] I would also say that we have some very unique approaches
to letting them struggle.
- [Renee] There's actually parents out there that literally
do everything for their five-year-olds.
And it's hard, especially as a mother,
it's hard to let go of these things like filling up their own
water bottles from the water thing on the fridge
or filling up their own cereal bowls.
But you have to let go.
- Ah, ew, disgusting.
- It makes it green.
Where's it in play?
- [Renee] Alright, so guys
why are you putting your headphones on?
- Because we can't hear it.
- [Renee] Oh, so it's less loud? Okay.
- [Dan] You know, I believe that every kid is homeschooled and
the only difference is do the parents know it or not.
- [Renee] It's like the best homeschooling is done whether or
not you choose for it to happen.
- [Dan] Alright guys, 30 minutes guys.
- 15 imunte - I got a shake for you Dee-da!
- Alright, are we ready?
- Yep.
- Okay. Ooh, it's frothy.
- [Dan] I mean the only thing your kids want is for
mom and dad to be happy.
Like that's it. Number one thing.
Yes, they want toys at Christmas and they want vacations and they
want to go play hockey or whatever it is but truth is at
their core, the just want to see mom and dad happy so if you
don't prioritize that and you tell me that the most important
thing in your life is your kids then there's a disconnect there.
They're watching and you can say you should do this
and you should do that but they're paying attention
to what we're doing.
Renee's and I priority is that we need to be good
if we want to be good for the kids?
I know that she's my number one priority and if we're good then
the kids are good and if the kids are good,
then we're all good.
I'll be the first one to admit that we don't have a perfect
life and I don't want-- - He's lying. It's perfect.
- It's just, you know what we have?
We have a desire to want to make things better.
We have a want to make sure that the other person feels seen,
cared for, and I think that
we've instrumented the structure
to allow us to ensure that things can't get too bad for
long without us being aware of it.
We have a playbook for our family.
We use that as guidance.
We kind of look at what do we want to stand for?
What are our values?
How do we want to show up in our community as a family?
And I really believe that it's in every family,
an entrepreneurial family or not,
to integrate their life in a way that you can bring a level of
joy and excitement and passion and presence for you kids,
for your partner that maybe you've never experienced before.
That possibility is the why that drives me on a daily and weekly
basis to keep pushing things forward and it'll always be my
default approach to ask myself does this still serve us?
We just try to look at it from
an integrated family point of view.
How do we get everything we want to work?
And if you look at it that way, it's actually not that hard.
It's just most people never take the time to just design it.
(whispers) Go.
I don't take today for granted and I want to make sure that
every minute of today was planned in a way to add as much
as I can to the people around me that I care the most about.
(speaking in French)