Have you ever been coaching a client and,
while they are sitting across from you,
you're thinking…
Am I doing this right?
Don’t feel bad about it,
it happens to all of us.
Hi, this is Ajit Nawalkha and today I am showing
you some confidence tips to coach clients
with mastery.
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New coach or experienced coach,
we all get into that downward spiral
of doubting what we are doing,
debating our impact and questioning
if our approach is the right approach.
Even with superhero powers of spiderman,
when he is first about to swing, he feels that
uncertainty makes an attempt.
Falls, and then starts doubting himself.
You know what really makes him spiderman?
He gets back up.
He tries again.
And again.
Till he gets it right.
Like spiderman, you must realize that
the power is already within you,
you are working to learn the use of
that power and confidence to serve others with it.
You don’t need a do-this-say-that checklist
or an approval nod from your coach or mentor.
What you need is to build your self-confidence
as a coach to be able to trust your instincts
and skills.
This means you have to do
your inner work first.
If you want to become a better coach,
become a better human.
So start with yourself.
The first tip is to listen to your inner thoughts.
More often than not, those little voices in
our heads try to bring us down instead of
cheering us on.
I’m not good enough,
I don’t have the right skills
or enough experience,
I’m going to suck at coaching...
Don’t fall for that, it’s only sabotaging you
and your possibilities to be successful.
Most people will just ignore the voices
and try to move on.
But you’re a coach, so do what you do best.
Coach yourself.
Listen to those negative inner voices.
There’s a reason why they are there.
What are you thinking about that’s allowing
those thoughts to cross your mind?
What mindset, beliefs or limitations
are you putting yourself
that’s working against you?
What are the stories you are telling yourself,
what beliefs are being formed from those stories
that now leads to self-sabotage?
When these patterns are in your awareness,
now we can work to disrupt them.
We can tell our minds a new story.
A different story.
A more empowering story.
So every time you notice you’re letting
those voices hold you back from serving and
coaching your clients, come back
to the present moment.
Take a deep breath and reverse those thoughts
by focusing on what you’re bringing to the conversation.
Which takes me to the next tip.
You know that saying,
You are your own worst critic?
I bet you’re nodding right now
‘cause you know what’s coming.
We always want to be better, aim higher,
achieve more success.
And that ambition and drive is great!
Don’t get me wrong.
We end up being so hard on ourselves that
we stop enjoying the journey and sometimes
even give up along the way.
Don’t let that happen.
Practice self-compassion.
Now don’t roll your eyes at me because
you’ve heard it all before.
There’s a reason why it keeps coming back
and you know it.
- I'm watching you.
As coaches, we know better than most that
we will fail and we will make mistakes, and
that it’s okay because it’s part of the learning curve.
It’s advice you probably also give your
own clients, so why not practice what you
preach and give yourself some love too?
Self-compassion is about treating yourself
with kindness when you make a mistake, fail,
or experience a setback.
Especially if you’re a new coach and just
started your coaching business.
So cut yourself some slack.
You’ll be surprised at how it changes the way
you show up and connect with your clients.
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Now on to the third tip.
Believe in yourself.
There’s no better way to coach your clients
with confidence and mastery than to believe
in yourself.
When we don’t believe in ourselves, we tend
to communicate this insecurity to those around
us even without saying a word.
And that’s a big no-no when it comes to
attracting and coaching clients.
But, as a coach, what you need to believe
in yourself is to believe in your coaching
ability.
You have to trust your instincts,
your knowledge, and your skills.
Here are the 3 things you can do.
Sharpen your skills.
The more you learn and practice, the more
you’ll trust yourself, the more confident
you’ll show up for your coaching sessions.
Celebrate your wins.
Every win counts, no matter how big or small.
Appreciating yourself for your progress
and successes is key to building self-belief.
And don’t compare yourself to others.
Each one of us is on a different journey,
we each have our own paths
and we each have our own pace.
And my go-to confidence tip of all time.
Always remember why you became a coach in
the first place.
You became a coach to serve others.
To help them become better human beings
and live their lives to the fullest.
If you do serve from a place of love,
you can never go wrong.
You found your purpose, your vision,
as much as that vision, that purpose found you.
If you are a coach now, if you choose this,
if this chose you, you can do this.
Allow that purpose and vision to propel you
beyond the field of doubts and fears.
I wonder if these doubts and fears are reminders.
Reminders for us that we must always
show up in service, that we must always impact
with love.
What if these doubts and fears were allies
dressed in Halloween costumes.
Doubts, fears are never going to go away.
There is no place where they say,
Well, we are going to leave you now then, go on.
That just doesn’t happen.
Let’s make them an ally then.
Take them on a journey with us.
My wish for you is that you discover your power,
that you sit in it, and when it feels like that power
is shadows of doubt, fear or failure,
you can lean back in possibility
and hope to propel you back
your confident powerful self.
Now you're aware of these 4 tips,
are you ready to take it to the next level?
Confidence is only one part of the mystery
to mastering your coaching.
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