Do you think that your spouse is cheating on you?
Hey YouTube… in this video, I’m going to share with you 9 signs that this might
be happening to you… and what you can do about it.
For those of you who don’t know me, I’m Brad Browning… and I’m YouTube’s #1
marriage expert, and this is probably one of the most difficult topics that I’ll ever
talk about.
Infidelity is one of the biggest marriage destroyers and it can rip families apart.
And sometimes, even the strongest of marriages can’t help but end in divorce in the wake
of an affair.
But before I dive into these signs, I have to talk about a couple important facts…
and these facts might be a little unsettling to you no matter what situation you’re in.
Fact number one is that your partner could be showing almost all of these signs and still
NOT be cheating on you.
You’re going to have to take this video with a grain of salt because you can never
be 100% sure until your partner admits it to you… or if you catch him or her red handed.
However, the signs I’m about to talk about are most definitely an indicator of something
wrong in your marriage, so even if they aren’t cheating on you, these signs may be an indicator
that your spouse is unhappy about your marriage, and that something could be done to fix that.
The second fact is… your partner could be displaying almost NONE of these results and
STILL be having an affair on you.
In fact, it’s estimated that the vast majority of affairs go undetected.
I know, if you’re in a happy marriage, this may be a hard fact to swallow… but facts
are facts.
Unfortunately, some people can be such amazing liars that their partners never find out.
We also have to keep in mind that affairs can happen in good marriages too.
Just because an affair takes place doesn’t mean the person committing the act is evil
or an ‘awful person’.
It is possible to salvage a marriage even after something as daunting as an affair.
Just remember that no matter how difficult things may be for you in your marriage, you
must maintain a strong, confident, and positive outlook if you have any chance to save your
marriage.
And this isn’t meant to be alarming, but studies show that 15-20% of marriages report
cheating to have happened at some point in their marriage whether it be physical or emotional.
Of those that experienced cheating, about half of those marriages ended up ending in
divorce or separation.
So even if you’re a victim of an affair, just know that you have a choice in what to
do in this matter.
And that, for many couples, IT IS possible to save your marriage after an affair… but
that’s a topic for another video.
So without further ado, here is my list of the top 9 signs your spouse may be having
an affair.
1.)
Your spouse gets aggravated easily.
If your spouse is constantly picking fights with you about seemingly mundane things, it
might be a sign that something is brewing deep down inside.
So if your spouse is making you feel like you can’t do anything right, or you just
seem like you can’t do anything to make your spouse calmer and more forgiving, it
could be a sign their mind has been wandering lately.
If this is happening to you, it’s important to NOT snap back at your spouse… for now,
keep a cool head and find the right time to calmly ask your spouse why they’re acting
this way.
Guilt plays a huge role here too, obviously.
When you know you’ve done something wrong, it’s easier to get on your ‘bad’ side
and take it out on someone else.
If your spouse is short with you, then it’s a somewhat subtle indicator that something
is amiss here and that you need to address it.
If this is happening to you, do not egg your partner on -- give him or her the space needed
to cool off.
They might be aggravated for a variety of reasons, so it’s best to let your partner’s
emotion settle before pursuing anything further.
But if they’re constantly annoyed and angry at you, especially for smaller things, this
is a clear indicator that something is amiss.
2.)
Your spouse is suddenly a stickler for privacy.
This should be a pretty obvious one, but it’s worth noting.
If your spouse is suddenly scared about you prying into their life, then this is a huge
red flag.
It’s important that both partners maintain some level of privacy in a marriage, however,
if you feel like your partner is taking it too far, then you can be sure that they’re
hiding something.
Here’s my favourite test… the next time you and your partner are together, pick up
their phone and say you need to Google something.
If they start freaking out, then you know something is up.
Same goes for their computer… any sort of suspicious behaviour involving their electronic
devices might be a big clue.
But there are other clues too.
How do they feel when they’re on their computer and you’re around?
You could try the same sort of experiment with their laptop… just say, “Hey, I wanna
check if those concert tickets are released yet…
Can I use your computer to check on them?”
If they’re closing windows, logging off, deleting their web history, or forcing you
to use new browsers…
AND they don’t leave the room, you can be sure that they’re trying to hide something
from you at minimum.
Or how about their coffee date with their “friend”?
Try asking what their coffee date was about or details about your spouse’s friend’s
dating life.
Just try and weave these questions into normal everyday conversation and then observe your
spouse’s reaction.
If they’re being evasive about it, you’ll know something is up.
3.)
Your spouse is becoming emotionally distant from you.
If your spouse is acting a little quieter, more withdrawn, or even depressed and sad,
it could be a sign that there’s something going on that he or she isn’t telling you.
Again, like I said at the beginning of this video, this might be a sign of something that
has nothing to do with an affair, but rest assured that if your spouse is acting this
strange, you can bet there’s something up.
Tread carefully when you’re with an emotionally distanced spouse… if something is really
bugging him or her, you could really tip them off with the wrong words.
Instead of prying, approach your spouse from a position of support…say something like,
“I know something is wrong, and I really want to help.
If you don’t want to talk about it now, then I understand.”
Start from there and see where it goes.
Remember, like with tip one, there could be a myriad of reasons why your spouse is acting
the way they are.
So keep this in mind before jumping to conclusions that might make the situation 10 times worse.
4.)
Your spouse is working longer hours.
If your spouse is working beyond their typical work hours, then this might be a sign that
there’s some infidelity that might be happening.
If he or she is coming home late and/or taking some strange work trips, this can be a big
indicator of infidelity.
Of course, maybe they’re working on a huge project or maybe finances are an issue at
home, but the way to approach this is simple: simply ask your spouse why they were late
and look at their reaction.
Do you feel like something is fishy?
Are they making eye contact with you?
Are they brushing it off like it’s nothing?
If they’re acting suspicious or evasive, then this could be a sign that they’re pursuing
something beyond your marriage.
5.)
Your spouse wants more “space”.
If your spouse is uncharacteristically asking for more space or ‘room to breathe’, you
can be sure that something is up…especially if things haven’t always been this way.
If your spouse is asking for more space, then give it to him or her and continue monitoring
how they’re acting.
Sooner or later, you’ll be able to bring up this issue to your spouse and attempt to
get to the bottom of their peculiar behaviour.
If you feel like your marriage is strained or if you feel like your spouse is slowly
pulling away from you… then head on over to MarriageGuy.com and watch the free video
presentation on that website.
In it, I go over 3 ingredients that every successful marriage needs to have.
Again, that URL is www.MarriageGuy.com.
6.)
And this next one is a little bit strange, but if your spouse is suddenly paying close
attention to their appearance, it could be a sign that he or she is trying to impress
someone else.
For example, if they’re buying new clothes, going to the gym, making sure their hair is
spot on before he or she goes out, it could be a sign that they’re seeing someone they
want to impress.
This is especially suspicious if the desire to look good comes along suddenly.
If this is the case, then subtly point it out and gauge their reaction.
Are they defensive about it?
Are they acting suspicious when you bring it up?
If they are, then it’s clear that they are, at minimum, hiding something from you… so
be on the lookout!
7.)
Your spouse suddenly picks up new hobbies or passions that require a lot of time.
Did your spouse really pick up that passion for hunting that allows him to be away from
home weeks at a time?
Of course, it doesn’t have to be that obvious.
But if your spouse has suddenly started to dedicate a ton of time diving into a brand
new hobby (and is subsequently not home a lot), then this could be an indicator that
they want to spend some time with someone else.
If you’re in this situation, an easy way to resolve this issue is to simply ask to
come with them and, again, monitor their reaction.
If they’re happy about inviting you, then maybe they really are into hunting.
If they’re not overly happy about it or they find excuses for you not to come, then
maybe something else is going on.
8.)
They act defensive when you casually bring up cheating.
Try and weave in the topic of cheating or infidelity into your conversation with your
spouse.
You could say something about the TV show you’re watching, the book you’re reading,
or a story from a friend.
Once you bring up the topic of cheating, look at how your spouse reacts.
Are they shifting around uncomfortably?
Do they want to change the subject or ignore you altogether?
If this is a touchy subject for them, there’s probably a reason why they feel that way.
A great way to segway this conversation would be to simply ask, “Are you okay?” and
see how they react.
You know your spouse the best, so if they begin acting in a peculiar way, then you can
know for sure that something is amiss.
9.)
There are suddenly money issues.
It’s incredibly common for married couples to undergo some level of financial stress
from time to time.
But sometimes, irregularities can be a clue into something far more nefarious.
For example, do you notice any charges on your credit card that don’t make any sense?
Or maybe your spouse is, for whatever reason, planning to save some money for a getaway
or trip that doesn’t really make any sense.
Of course, this is one of the weakest signs your spouse is having an affair, but if their
spending habits coincide with some of the other signs in this video, it could be a signal
that they’re doing something that they really shouldn’t be doing.
Of course, this isn’t an exhaustive list of signs your ex may be cheating on you.
If you feel like your spouse might be cheating on you, then I encourage you to sign up for
my personal coaching program at MarriageGuy.com/coaching.
Together we can discover what your spouse is really up to… and I can go over some
tried, tested, and true methods to make you revitalize your relationship and save your
marriage.
Once again, the URL to learn more about my coaching program is www.MarriageGuy.com/coaching.
Alright, that just about does it for this video.
If you think I missed any subtle signs that your spouse is having an affair, I would like
to hear about them in the comments section below!
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Thanks and talk to you soon, YouTube!