Cheating Wives And Crazy Girlfriends
me and my wife of six years have been together for 11 years
and have a three-year-old daughter together last year in october she had a
half-drunk one-night stand with a co-worker
and confessed to me the morning after she was incredibly remorseful
and regretted it all and wanted to fix things
we live separated for about four months where she begged constantly to get back
into my life during our separation we traded off
every week with the our baby so we could both stay in her life this
was the only contact i had with her and every time i saw her she would apologize
and beg for me to be back in her life eventually she wore me down and we went
to couples counseling after another month she moved back in
against our counselor's wishes my wife told me that she thinks it would only be
fair if i got to sleep with another woman i'm not sure if i want to do it
i'm not sure if it'll make me feel better or just worsen the divide
my wife helped me pick out the woman and she is willing
this woman is so beautiful and is exactly my type
my wife is admittedly very jealous of how well endowed and voluptuous she is
and i'd love to sleep with her but i can't tell if this is good for us
i don't want to divorce my wife i want to get past this and stay with her so
if this somehow makes this worse i don't know what will happen
my wife is encouraging me to do this and i want to
i just can't tell if this will work does anyone else have experiences like this
did it work or did it halt the progress you were making
i would say don't do it it's going to have
negative effects on the relationship she's going to continue to justify her
actions if you do this it may let her do it
again and she will probably tell you to do the
same thing usually a recipe for disaster
about a month ago my wife started getting distant and then we got in a
fight when she went out and stayed at the bar way longer than normal
i sense something was up so i pulled up there to find a clearly lesbian woman in
her car part nothing was happening we fought later
and she all of a sudden starts bringing up past relationship problems we've had
that she said she swept under the rug and moved on
in the last few weeks she was spending a lot of time with this co-worker i might
add the call logs were about three to four
hours a day they would meet and swap cars since i had gps on her car
ended up hiring a private investigator to confirm they were having a sexual
relationship and they were she doesn't confirm or
deny but seems to have no remorse right now she's
seeing a counselor but i assume it's about her feelings for a
girl all of a sudden she has messed around with woman in the
past a little like strip clubs and whatever but
could never see her dating a woman especially in the small conservative
area we live in right now she wants me to sit back and
play house with our two kids while she figures things out
i can't do this crap anymore get out that is the only logical move get out of
that relationship
she wasn't even my first choice i could have done better
but she proposed to me caught me off guard at a weak moment and i said yes
i wasn't thinking about leaving her but i surely wasn't thinking about spending
my life with her nonetheless i said yes because i was
young and stupid it was a short engagement she had a kid
from a different marriage that was another reason i wasn't really
sure about her i wanted my own kids but i loved that little man and helped
raise him as my own for 10 years with this girl
she was in a bad place in life financially and otherwise it helped her
a lot to have a stable household and a place to call
home and i really grew to love her dearly this
situation is why i think arranged marriages could actually work in the
right circumstances anyway same old story she's been ever
protective of her phone for the last couple months which i have been
extremely suspicious about but not that i know of outwardly showing
it or acting on it we still connect great and have amazing
sex and she's so smiley and affectionate like she almost always is
so i just kind of waved it off one night we had a little celebration
while our son was at his friend's house got out of hand with a drinking and she
passed out phone on the table decided to check it
my god why on earth didn't she put a lock on
this thing sexting dick pics love messages
threesome group chats literally three threesome group chats
all with different numbers fucking threesomes and her professing
love to multiple other guys with lengthy detailed multiple paragraphs each
i may possess the observational skills of a brick but
you would think i'd notice something about her behavior besides the
protectiveness of the phone anyway didn't tell her about it but she
probably knows something is up because i can't hide stuff as well as
she can i just don't even know how to go about all this stuff
i guess talk to a lawyer first i'm going to repeat myself
if your significant other cheats on you the only logical move is to get out
don't allow any man or woman to make a fool out of you
get out
hey i'm now going through divorce and i'm the one who filed
and i couldn't be happier i was married for almost five years
we have been together seven years and i think she's been unfaithful the whole
seven years i'm not that guy who's gonna investigate
but i will ask when i have my suspicions and i'm usually right when i do
i've told her many times that if she wants to be with someone else
she should just go but she never left and never admitted to
anything i took her word for it plus we have a young child
so i wanted to protect her too my ex isn't the most stable person
so who knows what she may do at any time she works for a towing company with a
lot of guys around so i knew the risk but i trusted her only
now after the fact i learned that almost all her boyfriends
were tow truck drivers wow go figure oh well i guess people
don't change especially if they don't want to anyway
time goes on and she totally shuts down in the relationship and i figure it's
time to just move on it's not getting any better and the
signs are just becoming more obvious that she's with someone else
she's always with the same guy on the weekends and she comes home six hours
after work every night one night i push her to tell me if we're
over and if she's gonna move out and she finally says she's moving and
we're over what a relief i file for divorce the next day
throughout our relationship her threat was always that she would take our
daughter and i'd never see her again i took that seriously and helped to get
me to pull the trigger eight months now or so after she said
she was gonna move out she finally is gone all that negativity
is gone i am totally happy now we have joint
custody and she is living with family and her
boyfriend that she's been dating for a year or so is living with her too
she still denies being in a relationship but who cares she's gone
i am not upset but thankful that he took her from me
if not for him she might still be here with me this is her choice and i hope
she stays with him forever don't come back to me she chose him over
working and fighting for her family so that is all on her
i've made my mistakes but nothing like a normal relationship
would have but living with a mentally ill person in denial is not easy
bipolar disorder is no joke and without help it's only going to get worse
i tried so hard to help but that person needs to get the help they need on their
own one day maybe years and years from now
i'm hoping she will at least understand what i tried to do for her and our
family i believe i was patient enough and tried
everything under the sun to get through to her
the only thing i didn't do was be more aggressive and
i couldn't do that because she always had one hand on the phone ready to dial
9-1-1 i wouldn't put it past her to lie and
say i did something i didn't just to put me in jail
that scared the shit out of me she did that once and i was looking at 10 years
in prison so now she's gone she has a new life
with a new guy and all i can say to him is thank you and good luck i hope she
gets the help she needs but she's your problem
now my daughter is fine so far and i intend to do whatever it takes to
keep it that way i'm not like my ex i don't jump from woman to woman so i
don't see dating in the near future i want my daughter to know she's number
one thanks for listening to my story there
is actually a light at the end of the tunnel and it's not always a train
also i got an anonymous letter the other day telling me my wife is cheating and
has been cheating with pictures and everything thanks for your help and it
helps with confirmation but i knew this a long time ago it's
funny because he thinks she's normal and wants to post
a pic of them together on his facebook page
but he says she was asked not to post it and his friends can't wait to meet her
but she has a surprise in store for all of them boom
now i commend this guy he got the proof that he needed
and he got the hell on he didn't cause a scene
didn't cause any drama he got what he needed
he got confirmation and he ended the relationship
she was the one who told me we were dating for three years when she told me
she was cheating on me with other guys for the last two years
and wanted to come clean about it to restart our relationship
i was on medication for depression already but that didn't help
my world collapsed i broke up with her i have a bad time trusting people because
of my past and i truly trusted her even when my
friends advised me to be careful but i really thought i was the luckiest
guy on earth she wouldn't stop messaging me showed up
to my house talk to my grandparents after some time i began to think that
she was remorseful and all was just a mistake
that i needed to give her a second chance somehow
i felt that it was my fault and kept making excuses
years of horror for me cry every day still
can't trust her i feel embarrassed every time i'm with her friends
and on top of that she recently told me that she didn't use protection
i keep breaking up with her but somehow i go back
i just feel disgusted and ashamed i really want to think that the innocent
and sweet girl i first met and felt in love with is still there i
have such a bad past that despite everything she was the person
who treated me better i hate her as much as i love her and
feel like a piece of shit because of it i'm breaking down why are you still with
this woman she is not your wife she is just a
girlfriend it does not look like she will evolve to
into becoming your wife why are you staying
with a woman that gives you all this mental grief
and possibly put your life in danger get out
leave her
don't really know what to do or say my hands are shaking while i'm typing
i sat next to my fiance and saw her messaging somebody on facebook with her
phone turned slightly away from me and she seems a bit distant now i trust
her with my life but this just seems weird so i've gone
on to my laptop which her facebook is logged in on
not sure if she knows that and i had a quick look
she wasn't messaging a guy she's cheating with but she's messaging a guy
talking to him about having cheated on me
the conversation is cut off at the beginning so she's clearly been deleting
as she's going along but it just appears to be that she's
been seeing a guy behind my back for six years
i'm not 100 sure who it is but i have a good idea
our relationship isn't perfect we love each other unconditionally or so i
thought and when we're together we are the best
of friends and make each other laugh so much
there's a bit of a bone of contention in the kid's department because
she really wants children and i've always been unsure and didn't want to
have one just because that's never a good idea
however this has only really been an issue in recent months
definitely not for six years just the thought that she's been trying to get me
to have children moved in with me bought a house with me
got engaged to me bought a dog with me all while this has
been happening is just unfathomable i suffer with depression and anxiety and
i've been trying to get on top of it for her sake because i know how much it
upsets her to see me like i am now this what the fuck do i do guys i don't want
to get anybody else i know involved just yet just to say i don't plan on
staying with her i can't i'm so glad i discovered this before
marriage or potential kids i have screenshots of the messages
before she deleted them as i was looking at the conversation in real time on my
laptop before she deleted them i just don't know how to make the first
move as our lives are so entangled i've pretty much built my life around
her you already know what you need to do get
out this woman has been cheating on you for
six of the eight years you have been together
you already have your proof you even said it
so the best thing to do is get out that's the only thing to do is get out