- [Interviewer] Have you ever had your heart broken?
- My old girlfriend...
- [Interviewer] What happened?
- She cheated on me with my best friend.
- [Interviewer] How did you react?
- I threw all her stuff out the window
and told her to go home, and called her mom.
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- [Interviewer] Have you ever had your heart broken?
- (inhales sharply) Um...
- Um...
- No.
- [Interviewer] Have you ever had your heart broken?
(participant inhales sharply)
- Well, do you wanna know the whole story?
- I was very in love with someone...
- We dated for maybe a few months.
- Almost two years.
- Three years.
- I was in an online relationship.
- [Interviewer] Had you met this person IRL
or was it all online?
- It was all online.
- I was very much in love,
but I was just trauma bonded.
- [Interviewer] What's trauma bonded?
- It's just, you're so stuck together,
that it's so toxic that you can't leave.
- He was honestly psychotic.
- Basically, he played me.
- They played me very bad.
- Back in the 3rd grade,
I was a little bit of a player.
- I played a few people back in the day.
I would just ghost.
- Ghost. - Ghost.
- Ghosted me.
- And he was just kinda shitty.
- I got cheated on.
- He cheated.
- He cheated on me.
- He did cheat.
- He did sleep with one of my friends.
- Turns out, he dated me
just to get close with my best friend.
- [Interviewer] Who is this asshole?
- Should I say the name? - [Interviewer] Yes!
- His name's Cleo.
- It was my first real boyfriend, I guess.
He told people about things that we did,
that I wanted to keep a little bit more private.
- [Interviewer] Like what?
- That we had sex.
- We had been together for seven months.
He was actually gay.
So yeah, that happened.
- [Interviewer] Have you ever had your heart broken?
- I haven't really had many deep, romantic relationships.
- I don't think I've had enough deep connections
for that to happen.
- I'm awkward with girls, to be honest.
- [Interviewer] Have you ever had your heart broken?
- I don't think so.
- Eventually, there's gonna be someone that will hurt me.
- [Interviewer] Do you want to experience heartbreak?
- It would probably be character-building, so, sure.
- [Interviewer] Have you ever had your heart broken?
- Yeah, it was just over some girls I had a crush on,
who didn't like me back.
- He said he didn't feel the same way.
- She stopped talking to me.
- The person wasn't who I assumed they were,
and just led to me getting hurt.
- [Interviewer] What did it feel like
to have your heart broken?
- Oh, it was a bunch of emotions.
- It feels like a big hole in your chest.
- It really hurts.
- It kinda sucked. - I just cried a lot.
- Super devastated, I would just start crying.
- I separated myself from people for a week or two.
- You just have no motivation to do anything
without that person.
- Feeling like it was the end of the world.
- Like I was never gonna love anybody again.
- To not be around someone who you have been around
for two years.
- [Interviewer] Have you ever had your heart broken?
- Oh, for sure.
- Too many times, yeah.
- I fell in love with my best friend.
We couldn't work out because I was moving.
- We were going to different colleges.
- She's going to college in Oregon,
so I can't really talk to her anymore.
- I was leaning in to kiss him, and he's like, "No."
And I was like, "What?"
He was just like, "I think we should break up."
I played it off super cool in front of him.
I was taking out my anger on people at football,
and I was tackling people really hard,
and everyone was like, "What are you doing?"
I was like, "I'm mad, and my heart's broken!
"I'm so sad!" (Interviewer laughs)
- [Interviewer] Have you ever had your heart broken?
- Um...
- I don't think so.
- No. - Not yet.
- Not yet. - I have not.
- I've never had my heart broken.
- I end up breaking everybody else's heart.
- [Interviewer] Have you ever been dumped?
- No, I usually dump everybody.
- [Interviewer] Have you ever dumped anybody?
- No.
- [Interviewer] And have you ever been dumped?
- Wait, actually, I have.
- I broke my first boyfriend's heart.
- [Interviewer] Did he cry?
- Oh, he cried.
- I feel like I was just a very terrible person sometimes.
- I've broken someone's heart.
- [Interviewer] Whose heart did you break?
- My ex.
- I just heard from someone else that he was like,
"No, I didn't really like her."
And I was like, "But you've been talking to me like you have
"for a year."
- It turns out she had a boyfriend the entire time
and didn't tell me. - He broke up with me.
- [Interviewer] How'd he do it?
- Over the phone.
Not the way to go about it, guys.
Don't do that. (chuckles)
- [Interviewer] I mean, at least it wasn't text.
- That's true.
- [Interviewer] How'd you break up with them?
- I had to text her. - He had sent me a text.
- He texted me, "I don't want to talk to you anymore."
- [Interviewer] Why'd you do it over text
and not in person?
- 'Cause I was scared in person, she was gonna look at me,
and I was gonna be like, "Nevermind, I can't."
- [Interviewer] How'd they dump you?
- It was through text.
- [Interviewer] Did you cry?
- Mm-hm.
- [Interviewer] I'm sorry.
- [Interviewer] Have you ever had your heart broken?
- No, I love everyone, and everyone loves me,
and I'm very grateful for that. (giggles)
- [Interviewer] Nothing heartbreaking has happened to you?
- No.
- [Interviewer] Well, that's good.
Must be nice. - Yeah.
- [Interviewer] Have you ever had your heart broken?
- Like in a relationship kinda way?
- Heartbreak comes from a lot of things.
It can come from your family members,
it can come from your friends.
- Not in the sense of a romantic relationship.
- I actually have had my heart broken,
if it's not romantically.
- [Interviewer] Who broke your heart?
- My sister. She thought I didn't care about her,
and that kind of broke my heart.
- A lot of the friends I was hanging out with
weren't that great and wanted to drop me.
- It doesn't feel good.
- I had this one best friend...
- And he ended up replacing me
and calling me really mean names.
- I was bullied for a while.
- One girl told me she wished I would go get AIDS,
and that kinda hurt.
- [Interviewer] What did you say in response to that?
- Oh, I blasted her around school,
and now she has no friends.
- My best friend and I fell out.
We don't really talk anymore, or anything like that.
- I came out.
He said, "Oh, yeah, I still accept you.
"I don't see you any different."
We just started to drift apart.
- And then, we started getting distant.
- One of my best friends isn't currently talking to me
at the moment, and that's really hard for me
'cause I have really bad abandonment issues.
- Have kind of trust issues with relationships.
- Probably my mom.
- [Interviewer] How'd your mom break your heart?
- She's not really accepting of the things I do
and how I look, and stuff like that.
- My birth father, 'cause he didn't want me.
- My dad.
- [Interviewer] Why'd he break your heart?
- Well, we were going through a hard time last year.
He said some not very nice things to me.
- My dad has broke my heart
'cause he's not really in my life or anything.
- [Interviewer] Have you said anything to him?
- No. - How do you cope with that,
or how do you move past that?
- I haven't really moved past it.
It kinda still affects me.
- [Interviewer] Have you ever had your heart broken?
- Not that I can think of.
- [Interviewer] That's good.
You will, one day.
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