In this video, you will learn how to
make a guy think about you constantly – 5 psychologically based tips that use the
power of dopamine to keep him thinking about you all the time . Don’t go anywhere because we are
starting right now.
The powerful tips I’m about to share work by activating dopamine in his brain at just the
right times to keep him thinking about you and craving you constantly. I’m going to go
into some detail here and explain what to do step by step so be sure you get all of the
tips because they work best when they are used together. And that starts with the first tip.
1. Turn On The Dopamine Faucet
Dopamine is the powerful neurotransmitter that gives us a rush of positive feelings,
pleasure, excitement and happiness. Basically, whenever we are feeling amazing and excited..
that’s dopamine at work. Dopamine is the reason why we develop addictions to drugs, gambling,
and even sex because these vices release a massive amount of this neurotransmitter in the brain's
nucleus accumbens, and that causes euphoria, intense pleasure, arousal, and motivation..
But, because dopamine is metabolized so quickly, these feelings are short-lived,
leading to a cycle of wanting more and more. This is known as the dopamine reward loop..
dopamine also plays an important role in attraction and dating because it is what
makes us crave and want another person. See, when we interact with someone we are
attracted to, our brain releases dopamine, kickstarting the dopamine reward loop.
This release of dopamine makes us feel great, but as the dopamine quickly decreases,
we become motivated to seek more of that person’s attention and get more dopamine.
This cycle continues because we crave that amazing feeling of euphoria. That’s why in the
beginning of a relationship, when we really like someone, we feel like we just can’t get enough of
them. So our goal in step one is to turn on his dopamine faucet and get the dopamine flowing.
Remember, dopamine starts
flowing whenever you are having a pleasurable experience like eating delicious food, winning
a jackpot, and also when you are spending time interacting with someone you’re attracted to.
But What’s even more interesting…. Your brain actually releases more dopamine when
you are simply thinking about or anticipating that pleasurable experience. In other words, thinking
about being with the person you’re attracted to or anticipating being with that person,
causes a bigger dopamine spike then when you are actually spending time with them. So,
if you can intensify his anticipation, you will spike his dopamine as a result.
And the best way to intensify his
anticipation for you is by frequently leaving him wanting more from you in a variety of situations.
What do I mean? Well, whenever you are having an amazing time interacting with him, you are
going to be the one ending that experience at the height of it. Whether you are on a date with him,
on the phone with him, or texting him, you have to end those experiences early at least 90% of
the time. If you want him to be thinking of you constantly, regardless of how much fun you
are having or how connected you’re feeling, you have to end your dates, conversations,
and experiences when they are at their height. You must resist the urge to follow the date
or experience through its natural progression. So, Just when you are wishing that this date would
never end… yeah.. that’s when you have to say that you’re getting tired, or you have someplace to be,
or some other excuse to end the evening. The point is to end the experience before
it gets to the fizzle point. Even if you could talk all night, you need to resist.
That leaves him wanting more and craving more – and that’s igniting his anticipation for you
and activates the dopamine reward loop that keeps him thinking about you constantly.
2. Amp Up the Uncertainty As I mentioned earlier, dopamine
is released when you think about or anticipate spending time with your love interest. But, if
you want to multiply that dopamine exponentially, you simply need to add some uncertainty to that
anticipation because Anticipation plus uncertainty equals a dopamine explosion.
And that is precisely how casinos keep people coming back for more. They provide the uncertainty
of winning and the anticipation of a big payout, resulting in massive dopamine hits that can get
people hooked on gambling.
So, if you want him to be constantly thinking of you…. add a touch of uncertainty to his
anticipation and that will drive his dopamine through the roof. And One way of doing that
is by not committing to dates, calls, or other plans too far in advanced..
so, when he asks you to make plans, Instead of giving him a confirmed yes, you are going to give
him a maybe. you are going to let him know that you're open to the idea of spending time together,
but keep the specifics up in the air. This adds uncertainty to his anticipation and that spikes
dopamine like crazy.
Here’s an example. imagine your guy calls you on Wednesday to ask you if you have plans for
the weekend. You let him know that you have a few errands to run and you're supposed to
help a friend find a wedding dress on Saturday. And then he asks if you could go to dinner with
him on Friday or Saturday night? Now, rather than immediately saying yes and making a plan,
this is exactly what you’re going to say .. "Oh, That sounds like fun. can I let
you know closer to the weekend? …. Call me on Friday morning and maybe we can make it work.
And Just Like
That…. You let him know that you’re interested and open to the plans – that’s the anticipation part,
but you are not sure when you are going to be available… that’s the uncertainty part
and together his dopamine levels are going to go through the roof.
I know some of you are
thinking.. no way Antonio … if I don’t accept his invitation, he is going to feel rejected or that
I don’t like him or that I have someone else.. and he probably won’t ask again. I understand
that concern.. but I promise you this…. If he asks you out, that means he wants
to see you.. and if you give him that “maybe” answer.. he is going to want to see you more than
he did before he asked because uncertainty adds to his anticipation and that spikes dopamine way
up. I know it feels scary to do, but I promise, saying maybe rather than yes is super powerful.
Think about how you have felt in the past
when a man didn’t confirm plans with you and left them vague.. It made you wonder more, it made you
think about him more… and it made you want him more. Can you relate to this experience? Has
this happened to you? Let me know in the comment section how you felt… I can’t wait to read these
Ok.. on to the next tip..
3. Be Unpredictable and Thoughtfully Surprise him.
Unexpected surprises are a great way to spice up any relationship, and they're especially important
in romantic partnerships. We all love getting that sudden jolt of excitement when we receive
an unexpected gift, a bonus at work, or a kind text or call from someone we care about. But why
do these surprises bring us so much happiness? Once again, the unexpected triggers our brains
to release dopamine, which in turn gives us that rush of happiness and excitement. It's why
receiving a surprise is so much more enjoyable than getting something we were expecting.
And you can
bring this excitement into your relationship by surprising your partner with thoughtful gestures
of appreciation. Whether it's a heartfelt text, a small token of affection, or even a surprise date,
these thoughtful surprises will not only show him that you're thinking of him, but they will also
give him that all-important hit of dopamine. Just be sure to keep it unpredictable - it's
the element of surprise that amp up the dopamine and makes these gestures so special.
4 Do Not Use Texting as a
Means of Getting to Know Him
Texting has become the preferred method of communicating for dating, but texting is certainly
not the best means to getting to know another person. I know it can be fun and convenient,
but it can also become a dangerous trap that can ultimately lead to miscommunication and a decline
in attraction.
But I get it…. It's easy to get caught up in the excitement of texting when
you really like someone. However, if you text too much or seem too eager,
you risk lowering your value in his eyes. Too much texting can also lead to him getting too
much satisfaction and validation from your messages, which will ultimately result in him
getting less of the dopamine reward he would normally get from seeing a text from you.
At the same time, if you find yourself stuck in this dopamine texting loop, you may find yourself
constantly thinking about him and waiting for his next message and that next hit of dopamine.
So, how can you avoid falling into this trap? You do it by only using texting for
exchanging logistical information like "Are you busy?" or "I'm running late." Not for probing
conversations about life. So, in Between dates, try to limit your texting to setting up dates
or phone conversations. This will force him to make plans with you or call you,
and he will get to know you better through these other methods of communication.
Now, If you find that he
is trying to get to know you through texting, it's important to let him know that texting is not your
preferred method of communication. Instead, you prefer talking on the phone or meeting in person.
But of course, even after you tell him that, he is probably going to continue trying to text you
and engage in deeper conversations because he is also finding himself in that dopamine loop… so,
instead of giving him that instant dopamine hit that he is looking for,
when he tries to continue engaging in deep conversations via text, then you do the next tip.
5 Use an Unpredictable Texting Style
Spice up your relationship with an unpredictable texting style! This works when you vary the
timing of your responses which will make him experience more anticipation and uncertainty,
again boosting his dopamine levels whenever he gets a text message from you.
So, When he texts you, mix it up - sometimes reply within seconds, other times wait for minutes,
hours, or even forget to respond. But, of course if it's an urgent matter, or if he
asks an important question or he double texts, then you need to respond as soon as possible.
You’re going to use this strategy
for those everyday texts that don't require an immediate reply. This will have him constantly
checking his phone, wondering what you're up to, and most importantly, thinking of you.
Don't let fear hold you back, unpredictability
will only make him more invested and excited. vary your response time as randomly as possible and
he will enjoy the rush of dopamine that follows and that will keep you on his mind constantly.
Remember, when someone takes a while to respond to your texts, it can be frustrating but also
makes you think about them more. Anticipation and uncertainty keep you on edge and when
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