- How do you become an extrovert
when you are actually an introvert?
Now, I am actually an ambivert.
What it means is I'm actually introvert by nature,
that I like to be by myself, but I could be an extrovert
at certain times in an environment
that I'm comfortable with.
Now, I know it's hard to believe when you watch my videos
all the time on social media and you know that I speak
to large groups of people, but in private I'm actually
quite introverted.
I like my own space.
I like not to be bothered, right?
So that's an introvert.
However, over the years I've learned that just
by being introvert in certain areas,
especially when it comes to business, that holds me back.
The reason is in business it requires you
to talk to people, right?
Imagine when you're growing up.
Think about it, when you're growing up,
what do your parents tell you?
Don't talk to strangers, right?
You're gonna get kidnapped, right?
They're gonna do something harmful to you, right?
So it's always growing up you have this fear.
You develop this fear of ooh,
I don't want to talk to strangers.
It's very scary.
It's very, very dangerous.
Well, guess what?
After now you're an adult, when you're out there
in the real world, if you don't talk to strangers,
you're broke.
In fact, I say the amount of success,
the amount of money is in direct proportion
to how many strangers that you talk to every single day
because in business what is it all about?
It is about getting attention, number one.
After getting attention, it is turning a stranger
into a friend, turning a friend into a customer,
and the customer to a raving fan.
That's what business is all about.
That's what sales is all about.
It's pretty simple.
So if you're not talking to strangers,
you are not making more money.
You cannot be making more money.
Marketing is putting your offer, putting your story,
putting your product in front of people
who didn't know you before.
They have never heard of you before.
That's called marketing.
Who are these people?
They're all strangers.
So that's what I'm talking about.
So you gotta be comfortable.
So a few things that I did, number one,
as an introvert I joined Toastmasters.
I learned how to speak in public to get out
of my comfort zone so that I can be a little bit
more comfortable talking to people.
I forced, I forced myself to go to networking functions,
to go to business functions, to talk to people,
to learn to ask questions.
Even though it was uncomfortable, but I knew I need
to get out of my comfort zone.
So now through training and through conditioning
that I could be an extrovert when necessary.
Now, most of the time I'm still very private, right?
I could be in my room just thinking and doing
and brainstorming and reading a whole day and not come
to a single person the whole day and I'm very comfortable
with just being by myself, or I could go out there
and I could talk to a huge group of audience
or even connecting with you on social media
I'm perfectly okay as well.
So it's trained.
Don't feel like oh, this is who I am.
Yes, by nature you're naturally more maybe more
like an introvert, but through time, through skills,
through training, you could expand your comfort zone
because think about how many opportunities, comment below,
you're missing because you're shy, because you don't want
to talk to people, because you don't want
to talk to strangers.
You're afraid to present, you're afraid
to articulate your ideas, you're afraid to communicate.
How many opportunities have you lost?
How much money are you leaving on the table?
And what is preventing you from going to that next level?
Comment below.