We've all been there. That Point where we feel like we can't trust anyone anymore
because the last person who claimed they were our friend stabbed us in the back.
INFJs tend to reach this point more slowly than most, but once they do,
it can be exceptionally harder to build that trust back up again.
So let’s explore further with What Happens When You BREAK AN INFJs TRUST
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They may feel physically sick
INFJs are very sensitive and emotional beings,
often struggling to express their true feelings and preferring to internalize them instead.
INFJs begin life putting a lot of trust in others, relying on their instinctive
understanding of people to guide them through new relationships and experiences. They can
become strongly attached to those they trust, but when that trust is violated,
it can have a profoundly negative impact on the their mental and physical wellbeing.
To INFJs, trust is sacred; if it’s broken, their whole world
comes crashing down. It can be agonizing for INFJs to recover from this kind of rupture,
as the fear of such a deep betrayal can cause immense psychological pain.
INFJs don't take lightly being betrayed by someone they thought they could rely
on - not only will the INFJ feel an immense amount of emotional pain,
but they may also suffer physical symptoms as a result of their deep sadness.
For INFJs especially, broken trust can feel like a direct attack to their core
values - values which are difficult enough to nurture and protect as it is.
They may go into a guilt spiral
INFJs sense of trust and loyalty can be deeply rooted,
so when that trust is broken they will most definitely take it to heart.
This can result in INFJs asking themselves questions like “why
didn’t I notice a red flag?” or “how could I be so naive?”
They can start to feel overburdened with guilt and self-doubt,
as well as concocting scenarios and stories where things should have gone differently.
This guilt spiral can lead INFJs on a journey which causes them to become
quite introspective and search for answers within themselves.
Despite being difficult to face, this process of self-reflection
has potential to yield profound insight into the inner workings of their soul,
enabling discovery of previously unknown truths they possess within.
They may become emotionally dumb
INFJs crave connection and seek to form deep, meaningful relationships with those around
them. This can cause them to wear their hearts on their sleeves, trusting others easily and quickly.
When INFJs allow themselves to trust others and open up about their feelings,
it is a courageous act. But, when that trust is broken, it can create a hurt so deep they
develop a rare form of emotional detachment, as a means of protection from further pain.
Instead of giving in to the rejection and disappointment they feel, they can just shut down.
However this numbness dosen’t mean they don’t care anymore - rather it's a coping
mechanism to protect them from feeling overwhelmed and taken advantage of.
Unfortunately, INFJs tend to internalize these feelings more than most other types
and must take extra care not to forget that their emotional needs matter too.
They may become distant
INFJs are like a special breed of empath. Because they have such a natural, deep sense
of empathy and understanding, they can be some of the most loyal and devoted people you've ever met.
However, INFJs also expect loyalty in return. When they give their trust, it is an honor that
shouldn't be taken lightly — because once it's broken, they will become distant and unavailable,
leaving behind an invisible but heavy barrier that takes considerable time to repair.
INFJs often struggle with relational disappointment far beyond when the trust
has been broken and do not easily forgive or forget; it can feel like a thick fog has
descended upon them making it difficult to truly trust and invest themselves as deeply as before.
They may become resentful
When an INFJ's trust is broken, it can be incredibly harder for them
to repair. The deep-seated resentment and pain can linger for a long time,
making it difficult for healing and recovery.
INFJs may appear stoic externally but inside their emotional reserve may run
dry even with seemingly insignificant offenses.
It's important to understand that trust is earned in many small moments with an INFJ,
and so to break it means more than just one inflammatory act - it can
mean a collapsed infrastructure that they have worked hard to build up.
Erosion of trust can threaten an INFJs secure foundation with a person they held
in deep regard, leaving them feeling raw, disappointed, and resentful.
They may never forget the hurt and betrayal
For an INFJ, trusting someone is a huge step.
They’re incredibly loyal and caring individuals,
so a betrayal like broken trust will cut incredibly deeply.
People who care about them often forget that an INFJs exceptionally large capacity
for love also means they can experience profound pain when they experience hurt.
For them the breaking of their trust can be nearly impossible to forget and
there may always be a lingering sadness at the thought of what could have been in the wake of
betrayal. INFJs naturally prefer harmony, so their hurt and sorrow can linger until their
faith in another is restored or redirected toward something or someone else entirely.
Though they may be able to understand the betrayal, it can take years if ever
for them to actually be able to forget what happened and move beyond their hurt and loss.
They may cut you out of their life completely
Once an INFJ has gotten over the initial shock of having their trust broken,
they'll often put up a shield of self-preservation. Self preservation
is a natural or instinctive tendency to act so as to preserve one's own existence
This can come in the form of 'door slamming' - a phenomenon in which
an INFJ completely cuts someone out of their life.
When an INFJ door-slams someone, it’s an attempt to maintain a sense of
security for themselves. This behavior isn't always intentional – after all,
INFJs are sensitive souls who have a deep compassion for humanity – so its rather
an ingrained coping mechanism that allows them to move on.
Door slamming may be a tough pill to swallow for those on the receiving end,
but it's a necessary step for INFJs as they start their journey towards healing from broken heart.
They may be emotionally scarred for life
An INFJ's trust is hard won and easily lost,
leaving them vulnerable to deep emotional wounds which may scar and linger for life.
Breaking the trust of an INFJ can be permanently damaging to their
psychological health and well-being; once broken it may be impossible for
them to ever gain that same level of security in another relationship
Broken trust will carry a devastating blow for
an INFJ, as though you’ve fractured something so delicate and meaningful.
Even after time has passed, the wounds that betrayal creates may never fully heal;
for an INFJ, the fear of being hurt like that again tends to be too much
for them to handle. Instead, they might choose to keep their guard up and never
allow themselves to experience such vulnerability ever again.
While this can be beneficial short-term, it can also quickly turn into a prison of sorts where
the INFJ remains confident but alone in their sorrows – shoulder only the burdens that no one
else can come close enough to empathize with – all because someone damaged their capacity for trust.
Oftentimes, when an INFJ has their trust broken,
the pain and subsequent emotional scarring can seem to last a lifetime.
While the betrayal may continue to cause emotional hurt no matter how much time has
passed, it should be noted that the healing process can still bring newfound strength.
For instance, it becomes easier to identify which situations or relationships might take advantage
of their trusting nature, leaving them better equipped to protect themselves in the future.
If you’re an INFJ who is experiencing a betrayal of trust,
it might be comforting to know that although your pain runs deep,
you may just come out of it with more resilience and understanding than before.
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