porn induced erectile dysfunction is viagra a good idea i'm dr trish leigh cognitive neuroscientist
and sex addiction recovery coach let's break it down in this video first let's talk about
what causes porn-induced erectile dysfunction secondly we'll discuss viagra how it works
and is it a good idea for the thing that causes porn-induced erectile dysfunction and then third
what you can do to help your cause in a natural way in the long run okay so number one what causes
porn-induced erectile dysfunction what causes it is that the reward center in your brain becomes
desensitized over time because of the heightened arousal that your brain has been conditioned
to become used to and then need higher amounts of okay so what do i mean by that what i mean is when
you consume pornography your brain will build a tolerance level to whatever you're watching
and then before you know it your brain will need higher levels of arousal and that's when you'll
find yourself clicking into a new tab that brings you to a new land of new stuff to consume in your
pornography habit now that stuff is designed it's there intentionally a discussion for a different
day but it's there intentionally to bait you into higher levels of mental arousal so when that
happens you're basically desensitizing the reward center in your brain because you're giving it this
super normal stimulus and then you're escalating what you're watching so that stimulus becomes even
higher so now it's time to be with your partner who is a normal stimulus and you can't have an
erection to be with her so that is what the problem is your brain's conditioned to get
all that arousal in the screen so then when you're with a human being who's not a super
normal stimulus it literally is not the same and you cannot get to where you need to go in terms
of arousal okay that's number one what causes porn-induced erectile dysfunction number two
is what does viagra do to combat that well viagra acts as a band-aid so it's artificially creating
relaxation of the muscles and increased blood flow to your penis so what that means is that will
create an erection but the problem is it's not having your brain become aroused in a natural way
to your partner or to the the real life sexual experience that you're about to have
so it's a band-aid you might be able to use it to get where you need to go in the moment
but you're not rewiring your brain or retraining your brain to become aroused by your partner or by
a real life sexual experience and especially if you're still staying in the screen
with that heightened arousal that is going to continue to create problems for you over time
so can you use it if you have a hot friday night date with your honey so that you can make that
date happen yes is it going to solve your problem in the long run absolutely not the thing that's
going to solve your problem in the long run is re-sensitizing your brain to normal healthy levels
of arousal and the way that you do that that's number three your brain tip strategy for the day
is to stop going into the screen stop fantasizing stop euphoric recall of past scenarios that you
have viewed or experienced that give you that heightened level of arousal that massive dopamine
delusion to your brain you need to cut that off because that's what's desensitizing your brain
simultaneously it's important to re-sensitize your brain so if you have a partner or even if you want
a partner you have to practice getting aroused by your partner and by the real life experiences
so the better option is to not use viagra and take the slower road to
healing your brain by creating new healthy levels of arousal so what does that look like it's friday
night you got that hot date with your honey and now instead of you know taking a viagra and
going at it you know in terms of performance trying to recreate what you've seen in the scene
instead now it's having vulnerability sharing what's going on with you having slower time
building arousal and at the same time that's re-sensitizing your brain that's the work
that brings your brain back online now i know that's not the work that many men want to do
but that's what heals your brain from porn induced erectile dysfunction so practicing healthy levels
of arousal while staying out of the screen is the number one thing you can do at the same
time there's one more tip for you today is that you can use your work and your hobbies and your
relationships in terms of friendships and building intimacy to re-sensitize your brain simultaneously
so when you work at something and it's a bigger goal or a bigger project and you take small
steps towards achieving it you're teaching your brain that small rewards are rewarding
towards a big reward now this is different than in a sexual experience but it can also work overtime
to heal your brain and to re-sensitize your brain to take small rewards towards a big reward
and you're doing the same thing when you're building healthy arousal in the bedroom so
small acts of intimacy and and sexual experiences and physicality those become arousing to you the
small things the medium things the healthy big things not the super normal things and teaching
your brain over time that this is what arouses you you can do that in many ways okay i hope that
helps you out and if you're looking for help on this journey please go over to drtrishleigh.com
i'm there for you i'd love to help and until next time control your brain or it'll control you