- Attracting a specific person never works.
Unless you do what I share with you in this video.
At least what you'll learn in this video
will help you increase the probability
and increase the chances of it happening.
Because the more somebody puts their attention
on one person.
The more they put that one person on a pedestal.
They end up resisting the process
and having the opposite effect
of what they actually want.
Now, why is it that attracting a specific person
never really works.
Well, first off,
what happens is when we have somebody
that we are putting all our eggs in that basket of.
What we end up doing
is we end up being in scarcity.
We are in scarcity.
They also...
In the dating industry,
they call this oneitus.
It's this bug that you get.
That you get this one person.
That everything has to work out perfectly with.
And if it doesn't,
there's all this pressure and all this energy,
and it's a huge letdown.
There's a lot of resistance
that is created with oneitus.
This is also something that happens a lot
when people have different terms.
Whether they say things like twin flame or soulmates.
Or these different terminology words
that we can get tied to.
That end up resisting this process.
Now think of it.
If there is one person
that it needs to work out with.
And if that person, which we all know
that one thing in life
we do not have the ability to control,
for sure, is other people.
So if one person it has to work out with.
The probabilities that you will be happy
if you believe that only one person
that can come through.
Rather than also understanding
that that happiness is within yourself.
Is that all your eggs are in one basket.
It's scarcity.
And that scarcity saying,
"I hope everything turns out well.
Because if it doesn't,
then I'm gonna lose my road to happiness."
So if you though are more so curious,
and in the energy of abundance,
knowing that love can come through many different avenues.
You are not having all of your eggs in one basket.
It's like right now
with what's going on in the stock market
and the finances and stuff.
If you're diversified,
if you have eggs in different baskets,
you're probably not tripping.
But if you're all your eggs are in Bitcoin right now,
or something like that.
Or whatever stock or something
that's not doing well.
You might freak out.
But being a little bit more diversified
can be a very healthy thing.
Now, this doesn't mean that you need to be,
you know, dating 60 people.
In order for you to feel like you're in abundance.
But energetically, not putting all your energy
into one specific person.
Is a way of being in abundance,
in the sense that you are opening up more opportunities
for love to actually come to you.
Because reality can only reflect back
that which we believe to be true.
So if we believe that only one person in reality
is able to be our partner
or to make us happy.
Then we're gonna put all that energy
and resistance into one person.
And then we're not gonna-
We're literally gonna block it
coming through many different ways.
And when we open up the realm of possibility.
When we open up
and we get curious about this.
We then allow us to be an abundance
to where we're not feeling in that neediness,
in that energy.
Because that's another aspect of scarcity.
What scarcity is,
and neediness are very similar.
Because it's almost like we need
something from someone else
because there's a scarcity amount of it to go around.
That causes a lot of the blocks,
the energetic blocks.
Now think of this too
when it comes to attracting a specific person.
That specific person that you are thinking about,
is sort of like an address.
Think of it like a physical address.
And when you think of this person,
you are energetically sending them energy.
And what you are feeling
when you are thinking of them,
is being projected at them.
So if you are feeling resistance,
if you are feeling lack,
if you are feeling neediness,
and you are thinking of them.
You are sending them the needy lack energy.
They are feeling it.
And it is repelling them.
Even if they wanted to give you the love,
the validation that you're craving.
It would be hard for you...
It's almost like it blocks it from coming
because the resistant energy is there,
blocking them from feeling that.
So the key to this
and the power of what I'm sharing in this video
is to actually do the opposite
of what you think you should do.
Because what you think you should do is send them energy.
Continue to think about them.
Because if you think about it,
you're gonna manifest it, right?
You're gonna keep sending them energy.
Do the opposite.
Pull your energy back.
Pull your energy back,
bring it back inside of your own hands.
Inside of your own feet.
And realize that the more
you let go of sending them energy
and the more you're in your own frame.
The more you will be actually magnetic and attractive.
This is actually the key to the process
of the specific person you wanna attract.
Is you have to do the one thing
you don't wanna do.
That one thing is let them go.
I have seen this happen so many times.
It is incredible.
Like so many people that have trouble letting them go.
We then talk about it, or I'll coach them
and I'll tell them to try this.
They let them go.
They start focusing on themselves.
They realize also many times
that it was a distraction.
And we wanted take this a little bit further.
That specific person that you wanted,
their love and validation and approval.
Many times you're trying
to close the loop from childhood.
Mom and dad may have not given the energy
of approval and validation.
So we think if we get it from this one specific person
that probably has similar energy.
In some ways,
whether we wanna admit it or not to our parents.
Because that's what something called the Imago therapy,
or the Imago effect is.
The Imago is this image we have,
of both the positive
and the negative traits of our parents.
Either subconsciously or consciously.
We project that onto what we would call our ideal partner.
And this is a-
Our ideal partner is this image that we have,
that's subconscious.
That then through the people we date
and through the people we're in relationship with,
they bring out these different dynamics.
Because we are replaying
similar familiar childhood dynamics.
We're replaying this energy
because we want to secretly heal from childhood.
What I'd like to encourage many of you
that may be listening to this,
is that the story you have
around this specific person
is what's causing a lot of the resistance.
There's a story you have about it.
There may also be a story you have around love.
That says that I'm only loved if XYZ happens.
Or love looks like this.
Now love a lot of times, by the way,
it's this familiar energy from childhood.
We're trying to go back home
to the primordial self.
And what we do then
is we attract people that help us feel-
Helps it feel familiar from childhood.
Which is why we won't understand,
"Why am I attracted
to the person that gaslights me?
This doesn't make logical sense."
To then realize that maybe your caretaker growing up
would gaslight you in many different ways.
Or it was very critical.
So the dynamics we have
and the patterns that we're recreating
many times, are simply from childhood.
But becoming aware of this is 90% of the transformation.
Because then this specific person
that you've put on a pedestal,
that you've sent a lot of energy
that is actually repelling the process.
Is, you're not,
you're repelling them by doing that.
But also by bringing your energy back,
you start doing what really helps you
to not only be magnetic and attractive.
But really helps you in life.
Because then you're not so-
You're not co-dependent.
Co-dependencies when we feel like we need somebody else.
We want somebody else.
We need them in order to feel whole.
And the truth is you have the ability
to heal within yourself,
to emanate that love and energy
by being in your own frame.
To then meet somebody else.
I'm not saying you're not supposed to meet other people.
You're not supposed to be in relationships.
Because I believe
that's one of the most powerful ways
of self growth.
And of like spiritually evolving
is through being in relationships.
You could be in a cave meditating 24 hours a day
but it might even be more challenging to be with somebody
and even more fulfilling and more growth.
And when it comes to the specific person thing,
realize a couple key things
that will change everything about this.
First off, what you feel.
And when you think of someone,
you're extending that energy.
So if you're feeling resistance
the best thing you could do
is to stop thinking about them,
sending them energy, pull your energy back.
Pull your energy back and put it on yourself.
And start doing what you're passionate about.
Start, go-
Maybe there's different hobbies or different things,
passions that you have
that you could begin to follow.
Start doing what makes you happy.
And realize that maybe you thought
that by making someone else happy
or this other person was gonna fulfill you.
Realize that you can develop an awesome reality
and lead in your own life and be in a frame.
Where you love who and what you are.
And you can even get that itch scratched
of the love that you're craving.
You can get that through form of self love.
Also friends and family, animals.
You can start realizing
that that love is all around you.
And the more you embody that love
the more magnetic your love is.
Realize that this specific person
that you're thinking of is also a scarcity tactic.
It's scarcity.
It's believing that there's only one way,
one avenue it can come through.
When in fact it come through many different ways.
And when you take that,
and you realize that also
there's like billions of people on the planet.
And you're telling yourself a story
that this one person is the key to my happiness.
Or is the key to completing me.
Or there's some big story there.
And that is what is causing the pathways
to be limited for love to actually come to you.
You wanna put yourself in a position of embodying that love.
Of being in your own frame.
Of leading in your life.
Of being vulnerable.
Vulnerable is a way of showing your heart
that attracts other emotionally available people.
And these are all ways of intensifying that energy
so that you can really be in that energy.
And it'll increase the chance of that person
actually coming back.
I promise you it will increase it.
But don't do it to then get the person back.
Because that's trying to manipulate reality.
Don't be attached to the outcome.
Let go.
Letting go is a sign of abundance.
Letting go allows the energy to be,
and allows the universe to help you.
But when you're holding on,
and you're trying to control that scarcity,
that's neediness.
And that is creating a lot of resistance.
Let go of the outcome
and focus more on yourself.
And it'll be a lot easier.
Focus on what you love to do.
Focus on your own passions.
Focus on being in your body.
Focus on meditation.
Focus on having fun.
Doing these things will change the energy
in so many ways.
Now also I'm doing something
where I text out that of high vibe thoughts of the day.
And I do this like two or three times a week, tops.
I send out the books I'm currently reading
and my top epiphanies.
And if you want to ask me your questions as well,
you can text me at 424-304-0104
or I'll put the link below.
You can just click the link.
And text me your questions.
I've been putting these in videos.
And that's if you're in the US and Canada, by the way.
And I'm working on something
for people that are international.
So they can also get their questions asked
and engaged and stuff like that.
So with that, there's also a video
that explains why when you let them go,
they always come back.
This is the next video that you should watch
that will completely help wire this concept in.
Watch this video right here.
Why is it that when you want someone,
when you desire them,
they feel that energy
and it literally repels them away like a magnet.
However, the moment you actually let them go.
Like right now as I do this.