Have you been wondering how to stay resilient in tough times? How could a 10
minute video change anything about that? I tell you what? By the end of this video,
you'll have 5 clear steps for how you're going to do that.
Let's jump right in step 1. Plan on it. Plan on tough times.
It's not an if thing. It's a when. Have you been on the planet long enough to
notice this? Psychologically, it changes the game when we plan on it. Then we're
not tipped over when it happens. It's like, "Oh, yeah. I was planning on this." Now,
you can't plan for the specifics because you don't know what's going to happen.
What I'm saying is plan on having tough times. It doesn't mean that you're doing
your life wrong either. It simply means that you're human. Welcome to earth,
that's how we roll here. Tough times are going to happen. Plan on it. And that's
not bad news. Notice that when we anticipate or think about hard times, it
feels like bad news. It's simply the way things are. And part of this amazing
experience that we call life on Earth. From that position, let's move on to step
number 2. Which is to learn how to properly operate the equipment of your
own mind. Learn how to run this thing. Positivity is something that I talk
about all the time here on the channel. In fact, there's a positive personal
development playlist that you'll want to browse through a little bit. There's a
lot of different topics there that will be helpful as we have this conversation.
Learning to run the equipment means that we go to a higher level of thinking.
Cognition means thinking. We'll put that right here at this level. Metacognition
is a higher level. It's thinking about thinking. When you go to that level, it
puts you into a position of choice and control. I love the fact that we can go
to a level of metacognition. Because metacognition creates a
space. And in that space is where choice exists. You don't get to choose what
happens to you, do you? No. Some stuff just happens. What do you get to choose?
You always get to choose your position about what's happening to you. This is
what I'm referring to when I talk about positivity. The model for positivity is
summarized in my mini book, Portable Positivity. Where I take you step-by-step
through how to properly operate the equipment. That is huge. When you start to
think about your own thinking, you have a higher level of choice and control. And
quite frankly, it doesn't matter what's going on in your life. What the
circumstances are, what has happened to you. And I don't want to sound cold
because I care about you and I want you to have a good life. I also know that
hard times are going to happen. So, when they happen, let's make sure we know how
to properly operate the equipment. You can connect to this mini book in the
description down below. We'll give you a link so that you can connect to that.
Here's a powerful next step. Connect to gratitude. Gratitude is
probably the most powerful way to retain the emotional and mental energy that you
will need to be resilient when hard times occur. Notice I didn't say if I
said when because we know that it's happening. Connecting with gratitude in
the hard time is extremely important. Now, notice I'm not saying be grateful for
the hard time. I think eventually down the road, after all is said and done,
probably you'll be able to find some gratitude for the hard time. I'm talking
about being grateful and connecting with gratitude in the
hard time. So, while your experience in the pain, in the middle of the difficult
circumstances that you find yourself in. If you will direct your mind to what
you're grateful for, it will power up your resilience. And your ability to deal
with the circumstances that have presented themselves. So, let's say that
you're suffering from a diagnosis. You just went to the doctor, you found out
you've got cancer or whatever it is. How can you feel grateful while you're
dealing with a diagnosis of cancer? Great question.
Make sure that it's a question not a statement disguised as a question. You
know, when you get into that, "Well, how could I feel grateful about this!?" It's
not a question. Turn it back into a question. "How can I feel grateful in the
middle of all of this?" Good question. Turn the brain on, start to look around and
see what you can find for which you are sincerely grateful. Sometimes, I call this
a brain hack because it's a powerful way to hack into the power of your own mind.
Find the gratitude in the difficult circumstance. When you do this, you might
find that you're really grateful for those friends and family that come
around to support you. You might find if you quiet your mind for a moment that
you are grateful for the cool breeze that you feel on your face. For the birds
that are singing in the trees outside. For that freshly fallen snow. Look for
something. Find the gratitude. It will increase your resiliency. Powerful tip
number 4. Engage with people. We all share this planet together and every one
of us has been through and will yet go through hard times. Knowing that
can connect us to people in some very profound and meaningful ways. Your
efforts to connect with and engage with people during your hard times will help
you to feel the love and support that they have for you. And you might even be
surprised at how good people really are. Don't pay too much attention to the news
because you can get a really tainted view of humanity. Connect with the fact
that we are not a special case. Even though what I'm going through right now
might be unique to me it's something I've never experienced before. It's not
something that has never been experienced before by my other brothers
and sisters on the planet. For me to humble myself and realize that I'm not a
special case, reach out to other people and engage with them connecting at a
love level. And I'm not talking romance. I'm talking about the love choice. Have
you noticed that every interaction we have is either an interaction of love or
an interaction of hate? Either a little or a lot. That's what I'm talking about.
You choose love. Choose to be on that side of the equation where there is
empathy and compassion. And as you connect with other people, your power to
deal with your difficult circumstances will increase. I guarantee it. And the
last powerful tip to increase your resiliency and hard times, stay in the
now. Philosophically, that's all you've got, is now. The past doesn't exist. Except
in our current thinking about it. The future also non-existent. Except in our
current thinking about it. And current thinking is always now, isn't it? Right
now, do this little experiment with me. Right
now, in this moment, what if anything is
lacking? Nothing is lacking. Right now, I mean. What if you're hungry? Or are you
okay right now? Yeah, you're okay right now. you're a
little worried about the future if you don't eat something soon. You're okay
right now. What if you're in pain? Same thing. Well, I'm okay right now but I want
the pain to stop soon. Is that weird? Connect with it. Do you have enough air?
Do you have enough love? Do you have enough money? That's one people get in
scarcity about sometimes. "Well, I don't have enough money." Well do you have
enough for right now. I mean for this moment? Yes you do.
Notice that right now everything's good. I'm okay right now.
Staying in the now even if and especially when you're experiencing pain
or difficulty increases your power. And your resilience. Wow! That's a powerful
concept. Learning how to operate the equipment of your own mind is probably
the best thing you can do for your personal development. That's why I've
offered you a connection to Portable Positivity. You're going to find this really
amazing. Connect to it right down there in the description.
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