Have you ever wondered why something seemingly harmless irritated your INFJ friend?
Or why, as an INFJ, you find the most irritating part of your day to be specific things that
other people either enjoy or don't care about?
Let's face it, INFJs have a lot of things they can't stand.
They observe a lot since they are so attentive of their environment and are continuously
assessing what is going on.
Almost everything.
They are also introverts who prefer quiet environments.
The majority of them are also quite sensitive, so things like loud noises, people chatting,
eating, and that buzzing noise across the room easily irritate them.
But that's just a good starting point.
However, not every INFJ will despise the same conditions.
Their personalities are influenced as much by their personal experiences and interests
as by their personality types.
What are some of the things that make the INFJ tick?
That's what we're going to talk about today in this video 8 things INFJs absolutely hate.
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So, the INFJ is a personality type in the Myers Briggs Type Indicator, also known as
the MBTI.
There are 16 different personality types in this psychology, each with its own unique
identifiers.
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Ok, now let's get started.
Manipulation
No one likes being misled or deceived, but INFJs are particularly sensitive to it.
This argument is strongly related to lying and hypocrisy, although it frequently irritates
INFJs in a different way.
They despise being controlled.
Manipulation combines deception, hypocrisy, and attempts to control in a way that is very
likely to drive INFJs insane.
When INFJs notice someone attempting to manipulate them or someone else, it irritates and disgusts
them.
And because INFJs are known for their ability to read other people, they're likely to notice
this type of behavior fast.
They have strong gut hunches about when someone is lying to them or telling them a lie that
doesn't add up since they can read people well.
It's difficult to keep something hidden from an INFJ.
They take pride in standing on the moral high ground, being as honest as possible with others,
and being a force for good in the world, so they despise it when others do the exact opposite.
Criticism
Perfection is a virtue for INFJs.
They define themselves by their goals and their ability to attain those goals, and the
thought of imperfection in general, as well as the implications of others, is something
this personality type dislikes.
They're also extremely sensitive, so if you want to irritate an INFJ, confront or criticize
them - and expect a strong response.
Constructive criticism may be acceptable but one that plans to bring them or something
they’ve been working on down is a big no-no.
While this "perfectionist" conduct can be beneficial in many respects (an INFJ will
never do anything half-heartedly), their pursuit of goals, whether reasonable or not, can lead
them down a dangerous path if they aren't careful.
In any case, if you're going to criticize an INFJ, make sure you double-check your facts,
because they'll be ready with their own powerful defenses when you do.
Conflict
Some people like arguing just for argument’s sake.
INFJs aren't like that.
When someone chooses conflicts for no reason (even if it's "only a joke"), begins a needless
debate, or produces pointless conflict, they find it extremely irritating.
INFJs value harmony in their relationships, and anyone who attempts to disrupt it must
have a compelling motive for doing so.
Arguments, tension, and drama are like poison to the sensitive INFJ.
When they are fighting with a loved one or when there is constant stress in a relationship,
they may become physically ill.
But — and this is a big "but" — if they're serious about the issue, INFJs can and will
hold their own in the face of disagreement.
Then they will go to any length to defend their values and convictions, even if it means
engaging in a debate they would otherwise avoid.
This isn't to say you can't have a disagreement with an INFJ.
They will not despise the conversation if you approach them with respect and calm.
Chaos in sudden change
INFJs are rarely completely spontaneous.
They require a certain amount of structure and organization in their lives as the judging
types, and they perform best when they can mentally prepare for what is ahead.
They'll likely sense a persistent underlying level of stress when they're in chaotic or
unpredictable surroundings or relationships, even if they can't pinpoint exactly what they
hate.
When their lives are peaceful and free of chaos, INFJs enjoy it.
They dislike abrupt changes or not having enough time to prepare.
That isn't to suggest that INFJs can't be spontaneous, can't live in the moment, or
can't dislike surprises.
However, as Judging personalities, INFJs prefer a certain level of stability and organization
in the outside world.
They prefer to have time to mentally prepare for what is ahead, and losing that opportunity
is quite frustrating.
Cruelty
INFJs are known for their calm demeanor.
In order to maintain societal harmony, they are content to put many topics they disagree
with on the back burner and overlook potential sources of conflict.
But if someone threatens another person, watch out.
Many INFJs are highly sensitive people.
This means they are wired to be more receptive to stimuli in their surroundings from childhood.
They are extremely vulnerable to violence and brutality.
Even on TV, in movies, and in literature, they find it frustrating.
In real life, cruelty to others enrages INFJs to the point where they are likely to intervene
and defend the individual who is being wronged.
Many of them despise all forms of violence and cruelty.
Of course, most decent human beings despise these things, but INFJs are particularly sensitive
to them.
It’s not unusual for an INFJ to change the channel or turn away from a particularly distressing
news item.
Not doing so would mean they would think about the story for days, weeks or possibly forever.
Attention
INFJs are capable of holding their own in public, but they don't want to.
People tend to draw toward them and offer them unwanted amounts of attention, despite
the fact that they detest it.
This is due to the fact that INFJs are persuasive and excellent at expressing their thoughts
and feelings into words.
This type often attracts extroverts who balance out their personalities, and extroverts can
(usually unknowingly) cause the spotlight to shine a little too brightly for the INFJ's
liking.
The bottom line is that you should never throw an INFJ a party without consulting them first
because if you don't, they might just walk away.
Lack of authenticity
One of the most intriguing characteristics of INFJs is their ability to read people like
novels.
These human lie detectors can smell inauthenticity or shallowness from a mile away, and this
trait is a significant turnoff for the type, regardless of the connection.
INFJs need intimate friendships, and if they don't feel they can form one with someone,
they won't hesitate to walk away.
Consider yourself lucky if an INFJ considers someone authentic and real, and if they have
a deep connection with them.
You've just discovered the most devoted friend you'll ever have.
Toxic people
A lot of INFJs attract toxic people like a magnet.
They are people pleasers who are skilled at altering their personality to match the needs
of various individuals.
They are also natural givers and peacemakers.
It's like toxic people can see them coming from a mile away.
They go to great lengths to avoid toxic people.
They make every effort to see the good in individuals and to provide them with ample
opportunities to improve or change.
However, this rarely works.
It's difficult not to despise these people after the INFJ has realized this and has removed
themselves from them.
INFJs despise toxic people because of what these individuals have taken from them, how
much they've given them, and how long they've actually stayed, hoping and trying to make
the person a better one but ultimately failing in the process.
Some of these points may irritate a lot of people, and each INFJ will be a little different.
Their minds tend to think too much about everything.
There's a good chance that many of them will identify these dislikes and will still be
able to add more to the list.
In the end, they don't actually like to hate anything in the world, yet some do provoke
a strong negative reaction.
Once they've identified these things that make them tick, they can try to work around
them so they can focus on what they really want to do: to make the world a better and
more tolerable place.