hey guys so I wanted to make this video because I had a woman recently email me
and she asked the question of how fast should a new relationship be moving
along and so you know she just she wanted to know like how fast is too fast
basically and so I said to her I said well can you tell me a time can you give
me an example of a time when you might have started a relationship and it went
really quickly and how did you feel about it and she said well you know like
I I met this one guy like a few years back and we dated for a few years and he
was just like so romantic like right in the beginning it was just like this
world win of like emotions and feelings and you know everything was amazing he
was like complimenting me all the time and sending me flowers at work and it
was just like it was so over-the-top romantic it was like everything I've
ever wanted and I said okay and I said well how did you feel in the beginning
the relationship and and so she said well you know I always felt like it was
really nice she's like but it was a little aggressive like it was a little
too soon for just all of these different gestures and I said okay I said well
then can you tell me a little bit about the relationship and so she said well he
ended up actually being narcissistic and I said okay and so I said do you really
need me to you know we're going back and forth on email and I said well do you
really need me to answer whether you know what's a normal relationship like
how it should progress and I said because there are some people that would
say you know this world win is is fine and that maybe that relationship lasts
for ten years I said but how do you feel about it and and she we ended up
exchanging numbers it was funny we ended up chatting for a while and she said you
know I feel like it makes me really uncomfortable and I said okay said well
why do you feel that way and so she said I just feel like it's not genuine and I
said there you go I said any person that you're beginning to date and you know
you've gone on date one day two and they're just very forward you know what
I mean they're like pushing and they're they want to call the time and they're
texting all the time and and they want to see you like every other day and and
they're just pushing the relationship like really fast
really soon it's in my opinion there it's either two things either number one
they're very insecure they're just an insecure person and so they want to rush
the relationship or number two there's an agenda so either they you know want
something from you whether it's sexual or whatever the case may be but there's
just an agenda and what happens is these high highs come and then these lows come
and usually that's what happened a lot of times it's what happens in our
statistic relationships because they're you know in the beginning trying to get
that in our statistic supply they're trying to get there they're trying to
make you just fall in love with them really easily and make you think that
like they're the one you're the one and you know you guys are soul mates and
like all of that type of stuff I said but normal healthy relationships like
long lasting true love my best friend my soulmate my twin flame types of
relationships those happen over time so meeting someone and dating someone in
the first couple months is literally just your discovery period it's your
time to just have fun number one don't take it so seriously and just have fun
getting to know the person and then getting to know you but even though
we're smitten sometimes with people and we have a lot of chemistry with certain
people and you know we get excited to see them and we want to see them at the
end of the day we're healthy people and we have lives and and we have to you
know ease into these relationships rather than just like meeting someone
and just giving all of ourselves right away because that's how we end up
getting her that's how we end up getting you know abused and and let down and
abandon and and I think that those high highs always end up with lows so maybe
the lows take a few months sometimes they take a few weeks and all of a
sudden boom the person is completely gone and if you've ever experienced that
you will attest to it's true like you know all of a sudden you meet the sky
and everything's amazing and great and then like the next week he's just like
disappeared or he just completely lost interest in you it's a pattern it's a
pattern with these people but normal healthy people will want to take it slow
so let's go out for drinks one night and the next night maybe we go out for dead
you know a time after that you know a couple of days or a week after that when
we can both find time because we're both living our own lives
we're both whole individually and we're coming together because we're healthy
whole people but then over time you know you you get to know someone and you
realize okay I want to actually be with you and you make these decisions and you
make decisions to be with someone and to love them off of what they have been
showing you not this like world win of like you know all of these emotional
highs and lows in the beginning of a relationship it's just you making a
friend and you know and having a romantic partner but it taking time to
get to where it needs to be so I just wanted to kind of put that out there for
all the people that are out there dating because I know it's a concern and most
people when they are going on all of these online dates they either you know
don't find a lot of people that they have chemistry with or they do when they
just like immediately like like you know every you know all our eggs are in one
basket type of thing and it's just not a healthy way to date if you're looking
for lasting love if you're looking for healthy love if you're looking for the
real deal if you're looking for a one-night stand if you're looking for
someone to kind of come and save you and all those types of things then great
that's the approach to have but if you're a mature healthy person that's
self loving then you will know that taking your time in a relationship it's
what's best to make sure that it is a sustainable relationship so until next
time
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