If you were getting married and your wedding invite said no kids
and someone brought their infant to your wedding
how mad would you be
hello child free friends so this lady went on to read it and said that she completely
ignored the no kids rule at a wedding that she recently went to even after the couple
explained that they had limited capacity and that no children would be allowed hey lay how
about you sit right here you can be the child free mascot because you also don't have kids
okay i guess that's not going to work my baby was 10 months old at the time and i wasn't comfortable
leaving him alone in an unfamiliar place with a stranger which was a babysitter that my other
cousin had hired for her own kids so i decided to bring him to the wedding the invitation said no
kids and that means no kids i'm sure that's not easy for a mom to leave her 10 month old baby
with somebody she could choose not to go to the wedding if she didn't want to hire a babysitter
or she could hire a different babysitter or she could have found a friend of the family
that wasn't attending the wedding that she felt comfortable with and left her baby with
that individual but it seems like those weren't options for the mom because she
simply decided that i'm just gonna take him to the wedding i don't see this going well at all
she says that she wrote on the rsvp that she would be attending with her baby but will bring her own
food for him i don't think food is the issue 10 month old babies don't eat very much
she continues when her cousin didn't reply she quote assumed that he was okay with it
no no no cousin is not going to be okay with you bringing your baby to the wedding your
cousin probably didn't message you when he got your invitation back because he was like
i don't even want to deal with this i'm going to go out on a limb and say that
if you are so disrespectful that you are bringing your baby to a wedding that clearly states babies
are not welcome you're probably kind of a difficult person cousin is probably very busy
planning his wedding and living his life and he doesn't want to have a difficult conversation with
someone who is ignoring his request fast forward to the wedding this should be good and she was
the only person there with a child well of course she was the only one there with a child because
she didn't follow the rules i can't imagine can you imagine the first time that bride and groom
saw that baby in the audience they probably were like are you kidding me right now or maybe this
mom is just very difficult in general so maybe they weren't totally surprised so the mom says my
baby cried at the ceremony but i quickly took him out of the room at the reception i had him with me
the whole time in a baby carrier he didn't make much of a fuss and i thought everything was okay
how can everything be okay when a baby cries at a ceremony a baby that's not even supposed
to be there this is nothing personal against the baby it was not the baby's choice to jump
into the car scene and drive themselves to the wedding this is all on the parents she says she
quickly left with him i mean it kind of doesn't really matter how quickly she left with him he was
crying through the ceremony which means people were being disturbed during a ceremony that is
like a really big deal this is kind of a weird thing to say she's talking about the reception
and how she had him with her the whole time in a baby carrier where else would the baby
be it's 10 months old and then the mom was saying that he didn't make much of a fuss
i think parents are very used to their children making lots of noise and being disruptive because
that's what kids do but the mom's saying it wasn't much of a fuss doesn't mean it wasn't much of a
fuss even crying for 20 seconds is a fuss and it's too much of a fuss for the environment that you're
in i've been at events where babies start crying and obviously that's normal for a baby to do
and the parent doesn't get up and leave they just kind of wait it out the baby may be fussing for 30
seconds or a minute and to me that's a really long 30 seconds where i'm thinking in my head maybe you
need to take the child out because it's creating a lot of distraction for people and we're trying
to watch a thing here this is why people don't want babies at certain events because even 30
seconds of crying even 15 seconds of crying is distracting and maybe just not appropriate for
that specific event to be perfectly honest this 10 month old has no clue what is going on at
this wedding it's not going to have any kind of special memories and this event is not going to
be of any significance to this baby at all so she goes on saying she thinks everything's okay i can
guarantee you not everything is okay just because the bride and the groom aren't confronting the mom
about the baby doesn't mean everything's okay it's their special day they don't even want to
deal with it guaranteed they're going to be some angry words when this is all over
it wasn't okay according to the woman her aunt eventually confronted her and told her it was
rude of her to show up with her baby go auntie my other cousin's baby was seven months old at
the time and my aunt said that he had no problem leaving his baby with a certified babysitter and
i should have done the same yes you should have done the same or mom could have made the choice
to not come to the wedding if she didn't feel comfortable leaving her baby with anybody because
i think sometimes those are the sacrifices that you have to make if you have kids and kids are
not invited to specific events she added that her cousins also got angry with her because it looked
like she had gotten special treatment under the no kid rules totally 100 because other parents were
responsible to go and get babysitters and maybe make the sacrifice to not bring their kids even
though they maybe wanted to bring their kids and this lady shows up with her kid and she
kind of gets away with it i do not understand when people can't follow simple instructions and simple
requests that i still blows my mind that that happened it just blows my mind that you can read
an invitation that clearly states do not bring your children and think that you are exempt
from that rule she was not exempt and now is just causing chaos and friction and drama in the family
it makes me wonder if this lady just doesn't follow rules in general and
often gets away with it she ended the post by saying i didn't mean to start any drama
what oh my goodness people in the comments did not hold back your baby literally did the thing that
the bride and groom wanted to avoid disrupt the ceremony you had plenty of time to find
a babysitter or other family member to watch your kid while you were at the wedding but decided you
were above the rules yes 100 agree the rules are there because someone wants you to follow them
you don't get a pass on the rules just because you didn't feel comfortable leaving your baby
with somebody another user shot down her excuse not being comfortable with the
babysitter just don't go to the wedding they wrote staying home is always an option yes
that would be a very good option and perhaps the best option for this particular mother one
of the other posters blasted the woman for not trying to talk it out directly with the couple
she just included it in the rsvp the user wrote she had to know this was going to be an issue
because she just believed she could get away with it because the rules are apparently different for
her my assumption is that she didn't want to directly talk to her cousin about it because
she knew her cousin was gonna pull a hard line and be like no you can't bring your kid
and then if she had had that conversation with the cousin and still brought her kid she would
have looked even worse so i almost feel like maybe she thought that oh the ball is in his court and
i know the invitation said no kids but i said i'm bringing my kid and then he didn't come back at
me and say like no don't bring your kids so i'm okay to bring my kid i don't know how you justify
that in your mind but i mean maybe that's kind of how she thought about it i know people just think
differently sometimes when we say that we want our events to be child free that is exactly what
we mean we want them to be child free as a child free community we absolutely get to be vocal about
our child free choice and yes it's important to talk about so we're going to keep doing it