Even if you fall, look up. You can lean something from that.
Troubles are a chance!
You say it lady.
Troubles are a chance!
Japanese have less kids.
That is a fact that you might have already heard about in the news.
When we were shooting for Ask Japanese, we met two mothers,
who told us their story and the problems they have or see,
when people in Japan have kids.
Let's go and find out what they say about that.
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let's go and ask Japanese mothers.
At my place of work, there are not many young working women.
But those women who decide to work, are really doing their best.
When young married couples, both him and her are working...
it becomes necessary that the man also helps around the house.
Having kids in that marriage, will make it even harder.
But no no! Don't be discouraged by that!
Not being discouraged? What do you mean?
If a women works full time, is married and working,
and there are small kids, they might give them to kindergarten.
But when the child has a fever, they will call the mother to quit work and come home.
And that will make it very hard for a woman to keep working in her job full time.
I think many are afraid of that.
But that's the chance for the dad to step up his game.
"Today I will look after the kids!" do your best dads!
I wish that young couples can support each other that way.
So not having the mum handle it all alone.
Of course!
It's bad to put it all on the mother's shoulders.
Not good at all.
Dad! Dad, it's your turn.
In Japan, many people don't know that.
The kids are the mother's duty. The work is the father's duty.
Yes that is how it was in the OLD days.
We have strong women in Kyushu who do that.
In order to change that, the help of the dads is really important
If the mothers do it all, it will be too much.
What do you think then?
Around me I have seen many weak men.
I think that's because their mothers always did everything for them.
They should learn to grow up and out of that protection where women do it all.
Talking from her own experience.
Raising a young man, is teaching him that!
Strand straight.
Mothers can't do it all for you.
Don't protect them too much?
Exactly. - Don't protect them.
There are times when you have to protect the man, but at others, you need to give him a push.
- You'll get into trouble saying that... - I think she has a point
This kind of talk we do all the time.
I think Japanese women have to be a lot stronger than men.
Girls have to understand and carry that duty.
That's why they have to work hard with all their might,
working AND raising children, that's more than a full time duty.
Women can do many things at the same time,
that's why they have to stop papering their men too much,
otherwise men will just get weak and dependent.
You say it!
If women get stronger and work so much, men get weaker and weaker.
Raising a strong male partner or child, is the duty of the women.
This is pretty deep right.
She is talking from her own experience.
When men get too weak, that's a woman's fault.
It's not like I want them to know.
If you like your men weak, then just paper them and do all their duties for them .
They will just get used to that and get weaker.
But if you want a strong man, who will help a woman,
a partner that stands side by side with you...
If you want such a strong man, you need to make them grow strong.
Is that something that women in their teens or 20s can do?
A bit too early maybe...
Maybe a bit too early for those girls to do that. But they should get life experience.
I want these girls to make mistakes.
Be sad and disappointed...
If everything goes too well for you all your life, you won't be able to deal with problems later.
Before that, you need to get some bad experiences under your belt.
Make lots of mistakes. - Mistakes are alright?
Mistakes are necessary. If you never had failures, you won't know how to deal with them.
Making mistakes is alright.
And grown ups need to accept that their kids will have failures.
Don't say "Don't fail" it's alright to fail.
Even if you fall, look up. You can lean something from that.
Troubles are a chance! - She said something good there.
Failures are a chance!
No matter if its a girl or a boy, I want them to take on new challenges.
If you take new challenges, you might fail, that's ok.
Those were our questions. Thank you.
It seems that the Japanese mothers say, if you wanna raise kids in Japan...
you need more support from the dads, instead of them just working and making money.
Meaning, helping a little bit out so it's easier to raise kids.
Also, a thing that I see here, that is a big problem...
many women, even though they studied really hard, got a good degree,
they loose it all when they get kids, because they can't find for example a kindergarten
to put them into because there are not enough kindergarten slots,
Or they don't get maternity leave or anything like that.
They think twice about, "Do I have kids? Do I have enough support from my partner?!"
And yeah, right now the rate of kids in Japan is dropping and dropping more.
Is that the same in your country? Have you heard about that in Japan?
What are your theories, why the birth rate in Japan is so incredibly low.
Looking forward to reading those comments.
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