Too often our self-care gets put on the back burner.
We all have things that we'd like to do,
but somehow we don't get around to doing them.
How do we make time for everything
and how do we stick to our ideal habits and routines?
Hello, my loves will come back to Lavendaire.
So today I'll be sharing how to make time
for it all from designing your ideal day
and week to creating a system to actually follow through
with your self-care routines and healthy habits.
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All right, let's start with our first exercise,
which is the ideal day and week builder.
I've been really excited to share this with you guys
'cause I've been doing this for myself
and I've been testing it out the system this past month
and it's been working really well.
So let's start with designing your ideal day
and your ideal week.
Filling it up with all the self-care habits,
all the healthy things that you wanna do for yourself.
Step number one, list out all the activities
or habits that you'd like to do on a daily or weekly basis.
It could be anything, just anything good for your self-care.
It could be typical things
like yoga, exercise, meditating, journaling.
It could also be hobbies that you enjoy, like play guitar,
play pickleball, paint, literally anything that you want
to incorporate into your life on a consistent basis,
daily or weekly.
Write it down. Make like a big list.
Another way to look at it is to ask yourself,
"What would the ideal best version
of me be doing on a daily, weekly basis?"
So you probably have a vision
of like your best self, your highest self.
So what does this person do consistently?
Are they exercising everyday? Are they eating healthy?
Write all of those things down.
Step number two, separate these items
into two buckets, daily and weekly.
So which of these activities do you wanna do
every single day and be consistent with?
And which do you wanna do like on a weekly basis,
whether it's once or twice a week.
You can also make a third bucket
for monthly if there's something
that you wanna do maybe once a month
or so, something that brings you joy,
but it's not something that needs
to be part of your daily, weekly.
But today's system focuses on daily and weekly.
Step number three, look at your daily list
and denote how much time ideally you wanna be spending
on each of these activities.
So if you put exercise, do you wanna exercise for an hour?
Like how much time does each activity take?
Meditation, does that take five minutes?
Does it take 30 minutes?
For every item, write down the ideal amount of time
that you'd like to spend on this activity.
Step number four, and this is the fun
and funny part, is to start
to build your day fitting in all of these activities
that you said you wanted to do and then build your day
adding in like the necessities, like how much time you have
to spend working and even your morning routine,
like brushing your teeth, having breakfast.
How much time do you allot to every single thing
that would go in your day?
How much time for breakfast, lunch,
dinner, how much time to shower,
literally build it out and then add in your activities
and include the time.
It could be an estimate, right?
Include the time for every single activity without regard
for like 24 hours in a day.
This part is funny because when I was
first doing this exercise for myself,
I put in all the time I wanted
for my ideal morning routine, evening routine,
how much time I wanna spend to work.
And what's funny is it came out to like more than 24 hours,
I think it was like 26 or 27 hours.
And I was like, okay, clearly it's impossible, right?
I have to cut somewhere.
So that leads us to step number five is
to add up all the time that your ideal day adds up to
whether it's less or more than 24 hours.
If it's less than 24 hours, great, you have enough time
to do everything you want in your day, great.
And if it's more than 24 hours, then that's where you have
to start cutting and being realistic.
Maybe instead of showering for 30 minutes,
you shower for 15 minutes or like instead of an hour
and a half for exercising, you make it an hour.
I know this is just the reality
of life is we have 24 hours in a day
and we have to cut things and make sure it fits
and to make sure we're not like jam packing our days
and being nonstop.
There has to be cushion for everything in between
or just cushion for like taking a little longer
to do things.
Hopefully you left some cushion
and free time with your schedule
because now we're gonna move on to step number six,
which is incorporating those weekly activities
that you said you wanted to do.
So obviously you're not doing these things every day,
but you have to make time for them in your day,
'cause you're gonna be doing them once
or twice a week or so.
So in my day, I'll give you an example.
I gave myself like a section of free time in the evening.
So after dinner I have like three hours of free time
where it could either be used for watching TV, playing
or it could be used for things like reading,
learning a language, playing piano.
And those are things
that I don't have to do every single day.
I could do it like once a week and feel good about it.
Have some space in your schedule
where you can like insert those weekly activities
maybe on a rotating basis.
Maybe you have a schedule for like Mondays,
Wednesdays, I play pickleball.
Tuesdays, Thursdays I do yoga.
Or you know, like find space in your schedule
to alternate those weekly activities.
I really hope you made time for space
and free time in your schedule because you need it.
We all need it.
And finally, step number seven, this is
where you begin to implement and test.
So start today or start tomorrow.
Start as soon as you can
to implement this new routine and this new system.
And then you can start to get some feedback.
Is this working? Is this not working?
Maybe I need to give more time to this
and maybe I can cut time from that.
Maybe I need to give myself like a 30 minute cushion
between some activities, test it out
and see what works for you and actually build a daily
and weekly routine that works.
A bonus tip on top of that is to star maybe the two
or three activities that are your non-negotiables.
'cause I know when we have this like big routine
with like 20 things to do,
obviously it's not gonna be realistic
to do it every single day.
Things will pop up, surprises, detours,
you know, in your daily life.
And so you want to know for yourself
which of these things are truly important,
truly non-negotiable,
and which are just like nice to have.
Like if I do all these 10 things in my self-care routine,
I'm happy, but I really only needed these two like
to feel good about myself.
So for me, I picked two that I highlight.
And so my two this month were meditating and exercising.
So it was important for me to like move my body every day
and meditate every day.
Those are the non-negotiables.
Everything else on my list was like a plus, a nice to have.
Like if I did it, great, if I didn't, it's fine.
And that's where you have some flexibility with your life
so you're not like so rigid.
All right, moving on to the system.
So this is the system that I created for myself
to actually follow through with my self-care routines.
And this has been working really well for me.
I've been using it this entire month
and it is a new system that I created for myself
and it's working so much better than what I had in the past.
So in the past, I used to track self-care alongside my work.
So I made a previous video on my weekly layout
where I have like Monday through Friday
and one spot for the weekend.
And I track like most important tasks, self-care,
and then other tasks that I have to do.
And after doing this ideal routine exercise,
I realized I have so many ideal self-care activities.
And then I also have things
that I wanna switch out constantly.
So it's actually better to have like a self-care template,
like literally morning, evening routine,
and then copy that template for every single day
so that every day I don't have to write it from scratch.
I just literally have that template there
and I check off whatever I do that day.
So I literally started a new page
just for tracking my self-care to dos.
So now I separate work to dos
and then self-care to-dos literally on its own system.
And it looks like this template on notion,
I'll have the link down below
if you wanna download this template.
But basically I like to separate my self-care routines
into morning and evening.
And in the middle I'm working,
so I have other systems for that.
So on notion, you would create templates
for your ideal routines, whether it's morning,
evening routines or however you organize it
throughout your day.
And self-care only, right?
So everything we worked on today,
you would write it in a list, create a template,
and then you would put it onto this notion page.
And in notion you can like create a template
within a calendar, which is what I did.
So there's a calendar
and for each day you just load your template on there
and then you just check off whatever you do.
So I like to separate my templates into weekday and weekend
because there are other things that I like
to do on the weekend to have fun.
So I put things like hang out with friends,
go on a adventure or work on music,
things that are fulfilling to my soul.
But you know, I really do those things Friday through Sunday
and during the week I'm focusing on work.
So that's why I like to have two different templates.
One for a weekday, which is daily self-care,
and then one for a weekend, which kind of includes
those fun, nice to have like extra activities
that I also wanna track
for living my most fulfilling and thriving life.
I also have a space where I can rate how I felt
about that day from one to five,
how well did I do towards my self-care routines?
How well did I take care of myself?
So I think it's nice to have kind of a rating system
and then you can note like which days you're doing better
and kind of it's some extra data to work with.
And then at the top of this notion page, I just have a list
to remind me what I need to feel my best
and to thrive in life.
And this is essentially what we wrote in step one.
Like all the things that you wanna do in your ideal life.
And then I categorized it
because I noticed that they fit into categories.
For example, like some of my activities are related
to having amazing health and vitality,
and some are related to emotional and mental wellbeing.
Some are related to community, joy
or a positive environment, right?
I listed all these things that I feel I need
to live my best life.
And I put it there just to remind me of the why.
Why am I tracking my self-care?
Why am I doing all these things?
It's important to remind yourself why you're doing it
so that you stay motivated.
All right, that's it for today's exercise.
I hope you liked it, comment down below
with your two non-negotiable activities,
whether it's like a healthy habit
or something related to self-care.
Comment down below. I'd love to know what they are.
And remember, I have the link down below
if you wanna download the template.
Sending you so much love, and I'll see you in the next one.
Bye.
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