- Did you know that when you fall in love,
your brain chemistry is almost exactly the same
as someone who is addicted to drugs.
You have so many love chemicals just flowing
through your veins, norepinephrine, adrenaline,
all these things that keep you laying up at night,
just thinking, "Wow,
"I cannot wait to see that person again."
And believe it or not, there are few things
that you can do to make a man addicted to you
in this kind of way.
But I want you to be aware, my sexy, single ladies,
this is not about playing games.
This is not about manipulating
and this is not about trying to force a guy to be with you.
Instead, this is all about you being your best self.
And in turn, this is going to make him
absolutely addicted to you
and want to always spend time with you.
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Hey there, Adam Lodolce from SexyConfidence.com
where I help you find love and do it with sexy confidence.
And one thing that I noticed back when I was single,
going out meeting lots of women, were that
there were certain women
that I was just magnetically drawn to.
I just couldn't get enough of them.
And then there were other women where I almost felt
repelled from them based on certain actions.
And contrary to what you think, it really didn't have to do
with their physical looks.
Instead, over the years, as I've been coaching so many women
on how to go out and find love, it really came down
to these three core factors that really
make or break it with a man being addicted to you.
Get these right and you can have your choice
of any man out there.
Get these wrong and you are going to be constantly
be chasing after men and sitting there wondering
why aren't they coming after me?
So let's jump right into it.
Number one is radiating positive energy.
There are certain people out there where everywhere they go,
they just have this aura about them
of just absolute positivity.
And when we go on a first date with someone,
the first thing we're really looking for is
their outlook on life and how do they see their life,
not only in the current state but also in their future.
And there are some people out there
who just have a tendency to focus on the negative
versus the positive and that is absolutely repelling
for a lot of people.
You probably notice this when you go out with certain guys.
And then the flip side, you probably notice
there are some people that they just see everything
in a positive and more optimistic outlook.
And this mindset is massively attractive to men.
So what I want you to do is start practicing
the mentality of positivity.
And anytime you start going down
a negative mindset rabbit hole,
what I'd like you to do is say this magical one word
and that is reframe and reframe your mindset a little bit.
The second way to make someone addicted to you
is by the use of scarcity.
As humans, we tend to take things for granted
that are readily available to us.
Whether this is money or food or anything in our life,
and this also applies to people.
When a person is readily available to us at any time,
any place, and they'll always be there,
then what it does is sometimes causes us
to take them for granted.
And if you're not currently like in a committed relationship
with a guy, then I recommend you really don't
always make yourself available to him.
Because that creates scarcity.
Now where a lot of dating coaches go wrong
with this advice, they try to teach you manipulative tactics
to kinda play a certain game.
I don't want you to do that.
Instead, I want you to be going out
and doing interesting things with your life.
I want you to be very social.
I want you to have a lot on your plate.
So that your time is naturally scarce.
And when that guy does text you on a Thursday night,
last minute saying, "Hey, you wanna meet up for a drink?"
Well you're not going to be able to do that
because your time is scarce.
And the more he's gonna have to work
in order to get into your schedule,
the more he's going to pursue you
and become addicted to you.
And finally number three is all about emotional support.
The path to true intimacy is all about
emotional connection and trust.
And when a man feels like he can truly trust you
and feel supported with his own emotional vulnerability,
that is the moment where you start
to truly fall in love with one another.
So I wanna hear from you in the comments below.
Which one of these are you gonna use
the next time you're talking to a guy?
And also, if you're ready to take this thing
to the next level and get men pursuing you
and chasing you for a relationship,
click the link in the training below
or the link in bio because I have a great training
that's going to help you through this exact process
that's worked for tens of thousands
of other women in the past.
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Thank you so much for watching and I will speak to you,
you sexy single lady, next week.
Buh-bye.