sexual arousal problems solved I'm Dr Trish Lee welcome to this
video where we will talk about issues like erectile dysfunction premature ejaculation
delayed ejaculation and other issues that have to do with sexual arousal either not being aroused
enough being aroused too much too often too quickly so we're going to dig into the causes the
complications which is very important and the Cure so stay around to the end because I will share
with you how you can get out of sexual arousal problems if you are being challenged by them
okay so first let me preface this by saying that erectile dysfunction and sexual arousal problems
is running rampant with men across the world so if you're struggling with erection difficulties
or delayed ejaculation premature ejaculation You are not alone my friend and that's the first thing
that I want you to know is that many many people are struggling with this issue they're just not
talking about it so I want you to know you're not alone because there is an underlying reason that
this is happening and we're going to get there in just a second when we talk about the cause
but I want you to know you're not alone and yes indeed it can be solved so stay with me for that
okay so what causes erectile dysfunction and arousal issues so many people think that the
cause is at what is the seeming Source the penis and the sexual area if you will but
that is not the case in most regards mostly it's a problem in the brain now I want you to think
of this this way too is that if you have a cut on your foot it is not your foot that processes pain
it is your brain pain and pleasure are processed in the same area in the brain so when you have
arousal issues due to pleasure it is because your brain isn't working optimally that is the real
deal that is the cause for most people and the solution lies where the problem is the problems
in the brain that's where the solution is so it works like this if you are struggling your brain
is existing in a pattern that I call the pendulum effect it's using too much fast energy and too
much slow energy simultaneously so that will give you anxiety overwhelm lack of motivation it
creates challenges focusing your get up and go got up and went it will exacerbate sexual performance
anxiety and issues there that are psychological issues one thing that I see when I'm doing a
literature review for erectile dysfunction is that many of the leading medical websites including the
Mayo Clinic will say that the number one reason for erectile dysfunction is Psych psychological
it's anxiety but I know that psychological issues are actually neurological issues so anxiety stems
from a very specific brain pattern of too much fast energy ADHD stems from a brain pattern of
too much slow energy usage in the brain so when your brain's using this pendulum effect of both
of those at the same time proper arousal isn't possible because the extra fast energy is what
is known as Hyper arousal too much arousal your brain is too aroused when it's running so fast
your brain is under aroused or hypo arousal when it is running very slow so that you might feel
groggy overwhelmed sluggish tired so hypoarousal hyper arousal are not optimal arousal optimal
arousal exists in the middle the brain pattern in the middle I call it Flow State or actually that's
what it's called I call it the green zone because that's what it looks like on a q EEG brain map the
way that I can analyze brain performance patterns when I'm working with people the green zone or
Flow State it's in the middle it's the sweet spot where you can enjoy experiences when you're having
them you can be present you can be perfectly aroused not over aroused not under aroused you
can get aroused when you're supposed to and not be aroused when it's not appropriate or it's not the
time to be aroused so that is the cause and I'm going to go a little bit deeper into the mechanism
so when your brain is existing in the pendulum effect using electrical energy inappropriately
and efficiently in a way that creates hyper and hypoarousal you're not able to be appropriate
appropriately aroused what happens then is it changes the Cascades of neurotransmitters and
hormones so now your brain controls your entire body that Cascade from your brain is going down
through your body through your peripheral nervous system which in fact runs your penis and it runs
your ability to physically get aroused and we know that that Cascade changes and so what happens is
it will actually change all the way down in this Cascade to your cells to the muscles to the blood
flow into your penis foreign erection it will change the cells and it will create a danger
response in the cell so it's always on and it's exhausted wired and tired it's a wired and tired
brain a wired and tired body that cannot get appropriately aroused right down to the cells
and it will change the way that the cells function that is one of the primary mechanisms that your
urologist will look for is their appropriate blood flow is there appropriate innervation those will
be affected from your brain so yes it does affect your body but it stems from the root cause in the
brain performance pattern okay so that's number one cause let's go to number two complication the
thing nobody's talking about is that people have arousal issues because of consuming pornography
take it in because it's true if you watch porn you are frying the reward center in the midbrain
making it so that you need level 15 arousal which is what you get from porn on a scale of one to
ten level 15. it's super normal stimulus more arousal than your brain can get from Sex in the
world with even the hottest woman that wants to do funky things in the bedroom she would be a 10.
porn is a 15. so you've trained your brain to need level 15 stimulus to feel good in a sexual
way so then when you go to be with a human even the hottest one she's only a level 10. and most
women honestly most women aren't level tens we're trying but we're all in the you know six to nine
range because level 10 is difficult to get to so you've trained your brain to need a level 15 and
now you've got yourself a level seven who wants to be with you but you can't be with her because
your brain's been trained to chase down level 15. so those medical websites that I was referring to
a minute ago they don't even talk about this which is tragic because what's happening is
the reward centers being desensitized this is proven by science so that sensitization that
would happen when it's time to get aroused by your partner it can't happen well enough
and so sometimes when it comes to premature ejaculation your brain is still riding the
high of the level 15 and it's always on when it comes to delayed ejaculation you're trying to be
with your partner but you can't get there because you're only at level nine and you need to get to
15 and you're trying desperately within the sexual experience with your partner to get to level 15
but it's only a level nine and so then you may have to go to Fantasy in your mind to get you to
the place you're used to going through porn porn is the problem which is why I've used the tag the
tagline a couple times erectile dysfunction it's probably the porn porn is disrupting your ability
to be appropriately aroused you have to leave porn behind okay so number three is the cure if you
consume porn if you try to go a different angle to cure your erectile dysfunction it won't work
it's like trying to lose weight without changing your eating habits and to start exercising it's
like trying to find a miracle pill that's going to help you lose weight it's not how it works
you have to retrain your brain to be satiated with your level nine experience which is awesome that's
what it's supposed to be it's supposed to be the happiness Trifecta it's supposed to be connection
pleasure at a level 10 we'll call it and happiness which is serotonin they call it the happiness
Trifecta of neurotransmitters that's what your brain should be trained to go after so here's
the Cure you have to leave porn behind which can be very difficult for people that's why I offer
a 90-day program you usually have to get into a program to succeed but if you're not ready for a
program dig into the videos here on this channel there's over 500 of them that will help you begin
and they may help you realize you need need more help in a comprehensive program that takes
you from beginning to middle to end unwire rewire hardwire with the support that you need to succeed
if you're watching porn you can't pretend that the porn can stay in the erectile dysfunction can go
it's not a thing I'm sorry to tell you you have to do the real work of retraining your brain to
enjoy healthy arousal now number two practice healthy arousal once you stop watching porn
practice being with your partner in that happiness Trifecta way relationships are awesome having sex
with your partner is supposed to be fun and engaging and pleasurable and happiness and
connection it's supposed to feel good not just pleasure at level 15 it's supposed to feel that
happiness Trifecta that's rounded out practice that with your partner do not go to Fantasy stay
away from masturbation stop lusting after other women if your brain tricks you into trying to
find dopamine hits over in other people stay connected to your relationship and practice
healthy sexuality go for level 10 because level 10 is highly arousing but it won't get your brain
stuck in hyper and hypoarousal wired and tired that is the cure you need a program unwire rewire
hardwire and then figure out how to create that healthy sexuality with your partner in a really
healthy way now before I go I talked about how the cells are destruct disrupted and it disrupts
the way that blood flows and the way that the nerves are activated there are supplement
protocols that highly skilled doctors know about so when I work with people I do a full assessment
see where their brain is at see where their body is at and I use neurofeedback brain training to
bring their brain into that green zone as fast as possible and then I use the appropriate supplement
protocol to help bring their body online as fast as possible too and it works so get with
a doctor who knows how to help you bring your brain and body online it will shrink the time
that you struggle with erectile dysfunction from The Gap being so wide and long and arduous and the
so the performance anxiety and the pain and the struggle it can be shrunk to the shortest time
possible when I work with people it's usually four months and I can get them back in business so go
to my website Dr trishly.com check out the 90-day program to leave porn behind if you're interested
in working with me check out the assessment it's a four-point assessment so I can see what
you need to get you back in business okay and as always control your brain or it'll control you