As women, there are certain things we despise men saying to us.
Whether it’s bad talking our friends, or pointing out how hot the waitress is, these
subtle comments not only leave a bad taste in our mouths, but they also make us feel
uncomfortable, or even unworthy.
That said, even though men like to play tough, there are certain things us women say that
bother them, too.
Hey YouTube, my name is Amy North, I’m a relationship coach from Vancouver, Canada,
and today I want to share with you the top six things that you should never say to a
man.
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So then, let’s get started.
“You’re just like my ex.”
This is the first thing on my list of what to never say to a man, and for good reason.
No man or woman for that matter, wants to be compared to someone’s ex.
Why?
Because that person is an ex for a reason.
Even if you mean it in a good way, this comment will never come across as a compliment.
It’s pretty much the same as saying “You’re someone I don’t want to date” or “You’re
someone that it’s not going to work out with.”
Be fair to your new man and don’t make him feel like he’s the same as some guy who
didn’t work out.
“I always seem to date jerks.”
When you say this to a man it triggers two things: One, this woman is self-entitled and
blames everyone else for her relationship problems.
And two, she’s probably going to bad mouth me in the future as well.
Instead of giving him this sort of negative impression, keep your dating history to yourself.
Sure, it’ll probably come at some point, especially if you’re together for a decent
amount of time, but even when the ex talk does happen, avoid speaking poorly of the
men you’ve been with in the past.
A simple “It just didn’t work out between us” is perfectly fine.
Don’t scare the man you’re seeing into thinking that you’re the type to point fingers.
“I’ve lost track of the number of guys I’ve slept with.”
Again, this is a topic that may come up between you and your man friend, especially when sex
comes up.
That said, you never ever EVER want to say something like “I’ve lost track of how
many guys I’ve slept with.”
The thing is, it doesn’t matter if you’re sincerely lost track or you’re saying it
because you feel embarrassed about telling him the real number, don’t say this.
It’s true that this can be a scary question: Too high a number and you’re easy, too low
and you’re inexperienced.
Rather than answering at all, simply tell him that it’s none of his business, or nicely
say that you’re with him now, the past is in the past, and the number of men you’ve
been with is irrelevant.
“I feel fat.”
As you probably already know, men love women who love their bodies.
Or at least those who can pretend to.
In other words, be confident.
Even if you feel like you need to lose 10lbs before you’re happy with your body, or wish
that you could fit into those skinny jeans that all the other girls are wearing, if you
can pull off that you’re comfortable in your own skin you’ll have him hooked.
Telling a man that you feel fat not only gives him the impression that you’re insecure,
but it’ll also make him see you in a different light.
Truth be told, he’s not going to notice that your shirt fits a bit snug around the
waist, or that your arms are “too big” unless you point those things out to him.
Don’t give him a reason to see your imperfections.
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“Size matters.”
Now you may be like me and thinking “Why would you ever say this to a guy?” … and
to be honest, I almost didn’t even include this one in my list… but apparently it’s
something women say more than I imagined.
Telling a guy that size matters is the equivalent to him telling you that your breasts need
to be a certain size.
The difference being that most guys would get slapped for this comment, whereas men
on the other hand, simply have to grin and bear it.
Making a man feel insecure about his parts isn’t cool.
In fact, it’s rude and belittling.
Just as you wouldn’t appreciate him commenting on your body, don’t do it to him.
Simple as that.
“You’re short,” or “I’m taller than you!”
Now, this one doesn’t stop at height.
In fact, calling a guy short, weak, fat, etc…
all of those things will bruise his ego.
He may not show it, but believe me, it eats him up more than he’ll let on.
Again, this is one of those classic “treat others how you’d like to be treated” scenarios.
Just as you wouldn’t want him picking out the things that make you feel less than perfect,
don’t do it to him.
So, there you have it, the top six things you should never say to a man.
If there’s something I missed or you think should be added to this list then please,
go ahead and post it in the comments below.
I would love to hear from you.
Also, if you have any questions or feedback about what I’ve just covered then post those,
too.
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Well, that’s all for now, so until next time, take care and good luck!