How To Feel Better
Hello there.
Some of us have had the fortune,
of experiencing a good-feeling life.
For the rest of us,
we've had more painful experiences,
than we've have had good feeling experiences.
And if we fit into this latter category,
it's difficult for us to feel positive emotional states.
Because of this,
it's like they're out of reach.
We know we want them,
but we don't know how to create them.
Here's an example,
say that we in our childhood
felt unsafe a lot of the time.
We have become so acclimatized to the feeling of danger
that we have no idea what safety feels like.
Or say, we have been disappointed over and over again.
We may settle into a state of pessimism,
to the degree that we can no longer feel,
feeling states like joy.
Now when people tell us:
"What does joy feel like?",
or "What makes you feel safe?"
We have no idea.
In fact, we get confused by it.
We feel like somebody's told us to go solve
one of Einstein's equations,
when we've never had a science class,
or a math class, under our belt.
That's because we keep working with what we don't have,
instead of with what we do have.
We have to drop the idea
that we have to know what the thing we want to feel
actually feels like,
order to feel it.
Whether that's happiness or love or optimism or safety.
Instead, we need to find the feeling of the experience
that we think might be the closest,
to that thing that we want to feel.
And we need to consider all feeling states,
that we currently know,
whether they be physical or emotional or both.
Every single feeling is unique,
just like the signature is unique.
When you think about the feeling
of kissing someone that you have a crush on,
that feeling is very specific,
it's very unique, to that particular experience.
And even though we might give that experience a name,
ultimately we feel that experience.
And that experience feels different,
than say, it would feel to hug a friend
who's saying goodbye to us.
So you understand, the uniqueness of these feeling states,
is what makes them feeling signatures,
that is what I personally,
call these individual feeling states.
Right now I want you to close your eyes
and imagine eating a lemon, in as much detail as possible.
If you have had previous experience with lemon,
what just happened to your body?
You probably felt the reaction to the sourness
in the back of your jaw, like a sharp cramp.
You probably started salivating a bit.
Your body reacts as if you're really eating the lemon.
But open your eyes.
You aren't eating a lemon.
You experienced the feeling signature of eating a lemon.
That means your body does not know the difference
between what you're thinking about, and what's really happening.
And we can use that exact mechanism to our advantage.
Here's is an example,
when I was 19, I escaped from years of abuse and torture.
I had no idea what safety felt like.
And when people would ask me:
"What does it feel like to feel safe?
or what makes you feel safe?
I would feel, not only confused, but also ashamed,
because I felt like, I should know what safety feels like.
I had nowhere to really start.
All I knew is that I wanted to feel safe and I didn't,
most of the time.
So what I did is, I asked myself:
"If I could feel the feeling of safety,
what do I think that might feel like?
I decide that might feel cozy.
So then I asked, myself:
"What in my life have I experienced,
that's made me feel more cozy?"
because that's the closest that I could get to the feeling of safety.
And when I asked myself that question,
I got this image of myself sitting down at a table,
with the bowl of really warm,
really creamy and thick soup.
That feeling is a feeling signature,
that I could depend on.
That I could relate to.
So what I did was to close my eyes
and imagine that feeling of the warm soup,
pouring through my whole body,
and then extending beyond my body,
so that I was not only having this soup feeling inside me,
but I was also, in a cocoon of it.
It was a sensation in my body,
that made me feel like everything was okay.
And so, I focused on that,
anytime I needed to feel safe.
That feeling of soup, became my resource for feeling safe.
>From there on, whenever I was triggered,
I would imagine that feeling of soup,
and spread it through my body and out into my auric field,
like a cocoon.
And it worked.
Two years ago I was working via correspondence,
with a man who was actually stuck in prison.
He'd been in for almost 10 years.
And what I was working on with him,
is the fact that he felt powerless,
he felt not free.
and honestly how could you, if you were stuck in jail?
He wanted to feel free, but he had no idea what freedom felt like.
When I asked him to venture a guess
at what freedom might feel like,
or when he thinks he felt the closest to the freedom ever,
he told me it was when he was riding his motorbike
across the country.
When I asked him to imagine that feeling
as if he was doing it right now,
he could feel that feeling of expansiveness,
and being without burden,
and the feeling of being untouchable or invincible.
He can feel that in his body.
He had found the feeling signature.
I told him spread that feeling,
throughout his body,
as if that feeling itself, was a substance.
For him, that feeling was his resource for feeling free.
Even though he was not currently on a motorbike,
(he was in jail),
when he imagined that feeling,
his body did not know the difference.
It responded accordingly.
>From then on, anytime he felt powerless to a security guard,
or another inmate,
or any time he felt stuck and imprisoned,
he would conjure up that feeling of being on his motorbike,
and spread through his whole body.
Because of this, he was much less combative
and ended up getting his sentence reduced significantly.
Long story short,
we need to work with the resources and experiences,
that we do have,
when we're trying to get to a feeling state,
that we have no experience with.
And I want to mention,
we don't have to have experienced these feeling states
in our actual 3D reality.
For example,
in my three-dimensional life,
I may never have actually pet a unicorn.
But to me,
that imagined experience of petting a unicorn,
is the closest thing that I have to joy.
Or for example,
I may have never in my 3D reality, have floated through space.
But the idea of floating through space,
makes me feel the most stress free.
So we can work not only with things we've actually experienced,
but things we've imagined experiencing in our 3D life,
that come the closest to the feeling states
which we want to experience.
As it applies to your own life,
ask yourself,
what feeling experience is it that you want to have?
Is it love, or abundance,
or friendship, or self esteem?
Your imagination is literally the limit,
because there's no way to do this wrong.
What do you imagine that feeling state you want to experience,
might feel like?
When do you remember feeling the closest to that feeling?
Or what experience or circumstance do you imagine,
might feel the closest to that feeling?
Imagine that experience or that circumstance,
in as much detail as you possibly can.
Make it as real to yourself
as you possibly can.
To the degree that you have captured that feeling signature.
Even if you can't describe it,
you want to be able to feel that feeling signature.
And once you do that,
I want you to focus on spreading that feeling signature
through your whole body,
and then out through your auric field,
so you're not only in a cocoon of it,
but it's also in you.
So it's both in and of, and outside of you.
You want to swim in this vibration.
Spend as much time in this feeling signature as you need to.
Eventually you won't need to even close your eyes
to conjure up this feeling signature within you,
you can do it whenever you want to,
just by thinking it.
Any universe that essentially functions as a mirror hologram,
there's an added benefit to doing this particular exercise.
It's that any feeling state
which I maintain,
is reflected in my external reality.
That means, the more that I conjure up that feeling
of coziness within my body,
the more my external reality starts to mirror circumstances
that make me feel cozy.
And the cozier I feel, the safer I feel.
And the safer I feel,
the more that safety,
or things that feel like safety,
mirror in my external reality,
until I finally know what safety feels like.
And I finally know what safety is.
You may not know what friendship feels like,
but you may know the feeling of having a cat curl up on your lap.
You may not know what trust feels like,
but you may know what it feels like,
to imagine being held by Jesus,
and to know that he will always have your best interest at heart.
You may not know what joy feels like,
but you may know what it feels like,
to lay on the grass at sunset, listening to crickets.
You may not know what confidence feels like,
but you may know what it feels like,
to get to experience of victory on your favorite video game.
It's an empowering thing
to discover that we're not at the mercy,
of how we currently feel in our life.
It's also an empowering thing,
to know that we don't have to know what happiness feels like,
to find our way to happiness.
We can work with what we do know,
instead of what we don't know,
to create the way we actually want to feel in this life.
Have a good week.
Subtitles by: Tanya Duarte www.tanyaduarte.com