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Okay, so here’s a question that I got the other day from one of my customers.
We’ll call her Andrea.
Andrea and her ex-boyfriend broke up about 5 weeks ago… and since then, she’s engaged
in no contact and decided to download Tinder to keep her mind off her ex.
But about 20 swipes in, she saw her ex-boyfriend.
At this point, she closed the app and frantically wrote me an email, freaking out about her
situation.
Of course…
I know what a lot of people would do if they saw their ex on Tinder…
But I digress.
Andrea told me how upset she was…
I mean, who wouldn’t be in her situation?
She still wasn’t over her ex boyfriend – not by a longshot... and she had tried repeatedly
to salvage the relationship and get him back into her life.
All of these attempts failed and that’s when she decided to sign up for my personal
coaching program.
She described to me how her boyfriend broke up with her… how he just decided to dump
her right out of the blue, and how heartbroken she was.
I told her a few, simple psychological strategies that got her to move past the initial blows
of heartbreak and she’s doing a lot better…
But of course, she still wants her ex boyfriend back… and she asked me specifically what
she should do if she encountered her ex on Tinder!
Well, I have the answer.
But first, I gotta tell you a couple things to NOT DO if you see your ex on Tinder.
1.)
Number one, you should never, ever freak out at your ex.
It’s easy to be angry and upset when you see your ex on Tinder… you feel like he
or she is quickly moving on without you.
But this probably isn’t the case.
After a break up, people feel lonely… and this sort of loneliness is often the catalyst
for trying out something new like Tinder.
So it’s important that you do NOT freak out at your ex when you see him or her on
this dating app.
So don’t message him or her saying, you know, ‘HOW DARE YOU DOWNLOAD TINDER’ or
anything like that…after all, you’re on Tinder as well!
2.)
And number two, don’t let it discourage you from using dating apps!
Dating apps can be a great way to meet people – and it can be really fun.
If you see your ex on online dating websites like Match or Plenty of Fish, don’t let
it discourage you from trying these avenues yourself.
It can be a great way to build connections, make friends, and help you stop thinking about
your ex so much.
So now that I’ve told you a couple things you should NOT do…
now comes the big question: Do you swipe LEFT or do you swipe RIGHT?!
If you legitimately DO want your ex back, the answer to this question is simple: SWIPE
RIGHT!
If you don’t match with your ex – it’s not a big deal!
Maybe he or she hasn’t seen you on Tinder yet.
Or maybe they don’t want things to be awkward between you two.
But if you swipe right and they swipe left, they will have no idea that you swiped right
anyways!
Now if you DO match, here’s a chance where you can use humor to your advantage.
At this point, talk about how hilarious it was that you two matched on Tinder… but
here are a couple other tips that you should keep in mind…
1.)
Talk about how lame the dating app has been for you… and how you’ve only been using
it for entertainment value.
Joke around and say that all your matches have been weird, awkward, and creepy… by
doing this, you let your ex know that you aren’t serious about finding someone on
Tinder.
This will help put him or her at ease if they are still shaken up about the breakup.
2.)
Don’t talk about your relationship or anything negative…not yet.
It’s easy to start bringing out old skeletons from your closet and talk about how heartbroken
you are… but now is not the time.
Especially on Tinder.
The only thing you should be doing is just laughing and joking with your ex.
So be positive and keep the conversation light and easy.
3.)
Don’t talk about who they’ve matched up with or if they’ve been on any Tinder dates.
As curious as you are, do NOT ask your ex about his or her Tinder dating life… in
fact, don’t ask about their dating life at all!
If you look like you’re prying, you’re going to look controlling and insecure…
and it will look like you haven’t gotten past the breakup.
So avoid doing this at all cost.
4.)
Talk about how many matches you’ve had.
If you’ve read my Ex Factor Guide program at all, you know that if you want your ex
back, you need to convey to him or her that you’re hot stuff… and that other singles
are chasing YOU down.
Even though this isn’t true, it’s important to at least play it off this way.
This will make you seem much more attractive… and will force your ex to second question
their decision to end the relationship with you.
You could say something like…”One of my matches told me he’d like to go on a long
walk on the beach with me… can you say LAME?!”
Once you let your ex know how many people are chasing you down, they might second question
their decision to break up with you… and at this point, you can turn the tide and make
your ex chase you down for a second chance.
But these aren’t the only tips that I have for you...if you want to learn more sneaky,
psychological strategies that will make your ex BEG to take you back (especially if you
matched with them on Tinder), then head over to BreakupBrad.com and watch my free video
presentation.
That’s www.BreakupBrad.com and watch that video until the very, very end.
In it, I go over 3 psychological strategies that will ensure you make your ex regret the
breakup and come crawling back to you.
And again, if you have any questions just leave them in the comments section below and
I’ll do my very best to get back to you.
Thanks, YouTube and talk soon!