wondering what a narcissist is or
perhaps you've had a personal experience
with one as psyched ago is about
objective understanding knowledge and
change we'll take a look at some of the
whys and what's of narcissism simply
having some narcissistic tendencies
isn't sufficient for a full diagnosis of
narcissistic personality disorder or NPD
this requires satisfying specific
criteria as outlined in the dsm-5 which
is essentially the psychiatric reference
Bible although NPD presently continues
to be a gray area
one thing is generally agreed upon it
starts from childhood initial
development was likely normal but
through a pattern of abuses probably
from parents they end up hating and
rejecting themselves to the point where
they have no sense of self and create a
mask to substitute reinforcement of the
mask involves lying denying and
manipulation seeing others as extensions
of themselves rather than individuals
with their own agency able to contradict
them let's look a little closer at this
here are six narcissistic behaviors and
the motors behind them one their need
for attention many of us like being up
on the stage
occasionally telling an exciting story
or relating an experience and we like
that earnest attention from a captive
audience however most of us won't
shrivel up and wither away without that
attention narcissists are different if
they don't get the attention they're
trying for their constant inner dialogue
of no one's listening no one cares
nothing you say matters it grows and
overwhelms them this perceived rejection
hijacks their logic it's so terrible for
them that they will conjure up
outrageous lies or stories to get the
drug they need attention just like drugs
the high is short and they'll need
another fix starting the cycle all over
again - their habit of lying similar to
their need for attention narcissists are
infamous liars they lie about their
feelings for
they lie about their past relationships
careers and personal wealth actually
they lie about virtually anything in
fact they also lie about their childhood
and upbringing increasing the difficulty
for psychologists to understand the
roots of their problems due to their
self-loathing narcissists pretend to be
someone else they believe that if others
by the act they the narcissist have
succeeded in escaping from their true
selves their view is being honest
doesn't get me what I want but lying
does
three their need to manipulate others
manipulation is commonly used by
sociopaths Psychopaths and narcissists
to get what they want those first three
do it due to lack of conscious
narcissists though do it mostly to win
an imagined battle narcissists are
constantly on edge having loads of
anxiety and fearing everyone who is not
themselves this is all thanks to their
ingrained negative self-talk in their
mind since everyone else is obviously
trying to manipulate them the only way
to overcome this is to get the jump on
them by manipulating them first for
guilt-tripping nothing the narcissist
does is ever wrong your spilled drink
wasn't due to their carelessness but due
to your ignorance and placing it in
their path they hit you because you
provoked them and force them to do it
this is what narcissists want to believe
anyway
it's natural to dislike being wrong but
it happens when we are we usually
acknowledge learn apologize and move on
not so for the narcissist should they
make any mistakes even the most menial
or petty they respond with a spiral into
blackening negativity they don't need
evidence or facts they only need to be
right this is because their mental
dialogues start screaming at an
all-encompassing deafening volume things
like you made a mistake because you are
you you are a mistake and you don't
deserve to exist they believe the only
way to silence the voice is to play
pretend bending and twisting reality to
one where and nothing is their fault
only yours or anyone else 5 there need
to argue narcissists feel that
compulsion to at some point argue with
people around them especially those
they're closest to causing drama and
creating problems is one of the few
things that remotely makes them feel
alive they believe attacks from others
are inevitable so to put themselves at
ease they employ their strike for
before others can get me strategy
further they derive reassurance that
they're not worthless Holograms from
other people's reactions to their guilt
trips insults and arguments the logic is
they react because I matter to them thus
I matter in general did they tell you
that your shirt is ugly well their goal
wasn't to give an opinion it was to
obtain the upset response it's like a
reward so further responding or arguing
actually increases provocation from the
narcissist it's not about you
it's about getting that reward and 6
their need for a narcissistic supply all
the points listed in this video so far
are ultimately to feed this one
narcissistic supply it refers to the
person whose presence in the
narcissistic life is necessary for
narcissistic survival non narcissistic
s-- generally accept both the positive
and negative aspects of themselves
negative stress is dealt with via
various means maybe exercising talking
with friends or other such activities
the narcissist does not engage with such
coping mechanisms because they can't
accept both aspects they hate themselves
on such a deep dark level maybe for
illogical or false reasons that they
require somewhere to dump all their
negativity Hart venom and bile they
pretend that all their negative aspects
belong to the world around them but
mainly to their narcissistic supply this
person is usually their significant
other but it can be anyone close to them
their supply serves as the source of all
things the narcissist rejects about
themselves like their mistakes
shortcomings and disappointments this
leads to both verbal and physical abuse
of the supplier should a supplier not be
present they have to face the ugly truth
that the negative aspects belong to
themselves since there is no blame
bucket to dump it into when this is the
case their feelings can be so bad that
it can lead to self harming be
including suicide as can be seen
narcissists are not only immensely
destructive to others but also to
themselves their perception of reality
is so skewed by the belief that everyone
around them are the ones who are cruel
deceitful and abusive that they
simultaneously completely ignore all
their own actions have you ever
encountered anyone who displays these
behaviors or perhaps you've observed
some of them in yourself let us know in
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