Years ago I remember reading in this
book that a divorce or the firing of an
important job in other words your life
career can have a more significant
impact on your health in terms of your
real age show indicators in your body
that basically refers that how old you
are how close to death you are can have
a more significant impact and smoking
your whole life think about how crazy
that is
and one of the reasons I think that
happens and we're going to talk about in
this video is that a lot of people high
up their identities and their confidence
in one or maybe two areas of their lives
people most guilty of this by far our
men
what is most important right family and
work the traditional mail provider ties
all their self-esteem and their identity
really in their job and then the family
they provide so one or both of those
things is taken away sadly sometimes it
goes together it can have an absolutely
crippling effect on a man terms is
confident and that therefore leads to a
lot of stress negative health impacts
and just terrible terrible things and
this can happen in all areas of life
right
if you know the people who get really
really into relationships like their
boyfriend or girlfriend is the one every
time maybe someone usually those people
have the worst breakups right if they
cut off their friends they sort of
isolate themselves during the
relationship when it and it's usually
terrible because they created basically
their identity around this one person
this one relationship that's taken away
its devastated
so how do you fix this how do you become
unstoppably confident unstoppably that's
not a word it is now look it up someone
added to urban dictionary is something
some more on youtube says when you
trying to say I'm stoppable anyhow
development unstoppable confidence
well I think it comes down to
diversifying your confidence pockets
right so imagine that your confidence is
based on different buckets right now
these buckets around the room and you
can drop confidence in you two different
things so most people have a big bucket
for their job or their career or their
education you know they're going to
medical school that's who they are and
they maybe have a big bucket for their
family or their social status or
something like that right
maybe these two buckets and just put
everything in these two buckets of what
gets taken away or both get taken away
they're devastated they lose everything
i would encourage you to diversify your
confident so have more bucket
how can you do that here's some examples
developed a new hobby get really good at
something being good at anything really
it can be giving it can be skydiving it
can be rescuing kittens from the streets
and actually that's another we're going
to talk about next
it's good for your self-esteem whatever
it is people love to be good at stuff
and if you're good at things people
praise you you feel good because you're
learning and developing and you add a
new pocket of confidence choose whatever
this is you want paint playing music
rescue kit as I said do whatever it
doesn't matter build this extra bucket
another way you can do it is through
being a part of another organization
outside your work so this could be
volunteering this could be doing another
job on the side it could be part of a
social club it doesn't matter but
building another network and purpose
outside your main work is going to give
you another bucket of confidence
another thing is diversifying your
social circles in general right so your
life is just your family
just your relationship pretty much them
you're obviously setting yourself up for
some devastation so expanding your
social circles to include different
groups or different people so that again
you diversify your self-worth your
identity your confidence next and i'm
probably going to sound like a broken
record here because you guys know how
much i encourage you to start your own
business and work for yourself but just
that start your own business maybe
started on the side right start some
freelance seeing a side hustle whatever
it is to gain more confidence that way a
new bucket that one of the reasons i
really like working for yourself as a
way to build confidence and my honest
most of my entrepreneurial friends are
some of the most confident people i know
is you have so many challenges in so
many different things you need to do I
mean I learned how to edit video how to
edit audio how to build a website how to
do sales how to do public speaking I can
talk forever about it so i have actually
built all these little buckets by
working for myself because you have to
when you're starting up and so working
for yourself because there's another
great way to do it even if it's just
something on the side because you're
learning you're developing your
overcoming challenges all builds more
buckets last is doing something physical
this could be that your hobby but doing
something where you're physically
superior growing learning whether it's
just going to the gym and working out or
learning a sport is again adding another
bucket right where you can say had lost
my job but I'm still a marathon right
that's pretty good
you're adding more identity never want
your identity to just be my father was a
good job right
it's setting yourself up for disaster so
diversify add more bucket now what I
would like to help with is in the
comments section had some more
suggestions for buckets
these are mine that have come up with
the water other areas of your life that
you derive part of your identity from
parts of your
it could be things you do things you
have done people in your life
organizations whatever it is
share in the comments in terms of
different ways that you think you can
diversify confident and sure everyone
else will appreciate hearing from you
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