What I've learned the most whenever I talk to guys about texting is that they love to
be a texting buddy.
They love to text girls all day long.
Ask how they're doing.
Just be trying to create attraction over text.
And let me tell you something.
This is a big mistake.
If you don't learn how to text message right, what's going to end up happening is you're
going to be a texting buddy.
Do me a favor and press like right now in this video if you don't want to be a texting
buddy.
You want to learn the proper way to text and understand how texting works so you can build
real attraction and more importantly get her to meet up.
Here's the big idea, texting is a tool.
Actually, come with me for a second.
Let's go over here.
See this?
This is a hammer.
What is the purpose of a hammer?
The purpose of a hammer is to hammer nails.
This is a hammer.
It's not a screwdriver.
It only has this purpose.
Same thing with your phone and texting.
It has one purpose only.
Your phone is the tool to text a girl and get her to meet up.
That's it.
A lot of guys get really stuck on texting girls all day long to just focus on trying
to build attraction.
When attraction is actually built in person.
That is where the magic happens because that's how our brains are wired.
We are wired to be attracted to someone when we are in front of them.
Phones are new, texting is new, in terms of the whole history of how long humans have
been around.
My point here is that texting and your phone is only to be used to get a woman to meet
up with you.
What I want you to do is if you're texting a girl, if you're talking to a girl, I want
you to send this right now.
You can also use this if you get a girl's number from an approach, talking to a girl
or offline, anywhere where you get a number, send this right now.
This is what I call "the close".
You're closing, you're saying "hey name" that's her name.
It's your name.
That's gonna be your name.
For example "Hey Megan, it's Tripp.
What's your schedule like this week?
Let's grab a drink/coffee."
You're not going to say drink slash coffee.
That's me giving you the option.
If you don't drink, get coffee.
And if you want to get a drink, get a drink.
So hey Megan, it's Tripp, what's your schedule like this week?
Let's grab a drink.
If she's interested, boom, she's gonna say yes, very simple.
Next you'll say great, what's your schedule like this week or next week?
You might say this week, if it's Sunday and you're sending a text or maybe if it's Friday
and it's the weekend already, you might say what's your schedule like next week?
This is just you sealing the deal.
Never ask for a specific day because basically you don't know if she's gonna be busy that
day and you don't want to get caught saying the same thing over and over.
Well what about this day?
What about this day?
Just say great, what's your schedule like this week?
And then boom, set a time, set a place, done.
Here's another option for you.
Some guys are talking to a girl where it's kind of like a friend-zone situation or it's
a girl that they're messaging off of Facebook or Instagram and there's no context of dating.
What you want to do is after you've been talking to them or texting them for a while, then
you say hey, I know this is random but do you want to grab a drink or coffee sometime?
You just add that in there.
It's social awareness.
I think it's just a good way to go.
Saying hey I know, this is random (and I'll show you examples soon of how I used it) but
you just say it like that and then boom, great what's your schedule like next week?
They might not respond.
It depends.
Next, you want to use what I call the C.A.R.E. sequence.
This is what to do if they don't respond or if they're avoiding the question.
C.A.R.E stands for first close, then ask a question, remind her why she likes you and
eliminate excuses.
Let's go over this one by one.
C is close, you always start with a close.
Just like I taught you how to do it.
You get a girl's number you close.
If she doesn't respond or she's avoiding the question, then the next time you text her
the next time, you're going to work backwards.
First, you're going to ask a question.
So just ask her any question.
Not hey or what's going on or what are you up to.
Just ask any kind of question, maybe an opinion on something.
I'm curious, what's your go to video for a laugh?
Or you can ask what weird food combinations do you really enjoy?
Can you tell I'm hungry?
Or ask her some sort of question, anything.
And then if she answers that, then next you go for the close.
You're working backwards.
If she's not answering your question or she's avoiding it, then you go to R. This is now
we're in desperate territory.
You shouldn't go this far, but I'm giving you some opportunities here because sometimes
it does work.
R is remind her why she likes you.
You're going to work down the formula again.
Reminder her why she likes you.
You're going to come up with something that you guys talked about when you first met or
anything that's related to something that you know about her or anything.
You can say hey, I'm curious what's the best trip you've been on lately?
Where would you like to travel to?
Or what's a secret nerdy hobby you have?
Just remind her why you guys connected in the first place, something along those lines.
And then after that, you move down the line, and then you go for a close.
Everything ends in a close.
And then still, if she doesn't do it after this, most likely she's not interested.
But you have one more opportunity.
You can eliminate excuses.
You're going to go and you're going to ask another question to get her to respond to
you or a kind of sneaky statement.
You can say hey, were you just at whatever place or do you have a twin sister?
Or you can say I can't believe what just happened.
Just a way to get her to respond to you and then once she responds to that then you move
back down the line and go for a close.
When she responds, what you're going to do is you're going to call her.
This is gonna eliminate any excuses.
So she has no excuse anymore to avoid you.
You're going to call her and get on the phone with her, talk about whatever you texted and
then from there, you're going to go for the close on the phone.
That is the C.A.R.E. sequence.
Use that in case of emergencies.
I'll show you an example of a close.
This is not using the C.A.R.E. sequence, but this is how easy it should be if you got her
attracted to you.
This is an actual text message from two years ago.
This is back in August 2018 of me texting Megan, my current girlfriend.
And I used one of these lines, not to the tee, but the idea where I said this may be
completely random but would you want to grab a drink with me some time?
She says yes, I would.
I said great.
What nights are you free?
She gave me some nights, boom, we set it up.
I used that text message because I was trying to be more socially aware in this situation.
And what I was trying to do was just be aware of the fact that when we first met, we didn't
really get to know each other that well.
There wasn't a lot of time for us to get to know each other.
And we did communicate a little bit because she was in one of my YouTube videos so I sent
her the video and that was pretty much it.
I asked her for Instagram so I can put it in the video and that's it.
We didn't really connect so I had to throw it out there like hey, this might be completely
random.
Do I have to do that?
Do you have to do that?
No, but I thought it was just a nice socially aware thing to do.
And then boom, she agreed and we set it up.
No texting buddy stuff.
No just texting non stop.
Right direct to the point.
Want to pull up the text?
What were you thinking when I asked you out?
I was thinking that I thought it took you longer than I expected it to.
I literally was like it's been four days.
But I appreciated it.
And I said yes.
You can drop the phone now.
Were you put off by how direct it was.
I was not put off.
I actually appreciated it very much.
How come?
Because it made your intentions clear to me that you wanted to go out with me.
And it wasn't like beating around the bush which can be very annoying.
Have you ever texted with a guy all day long?
Or he's texting you a bunch but then he's like not making a move.
Honestly, it's hard for me to remember if that specifically has happened to me before
because I've been in a relationship for quite some time.
However, I have had situations like that in the past and I find it to be kind of annoying.
How come?
Because, what's the point?
What do I want another pen pal?
No.