If you're frequently in high level meetings, where there are
executives and higher ups in the meeting, and you understand the
importance of being a great communicator, then stay tuned, because in
this video, I'm going to share with you three very, very key practices
on how you can stop interrupting other people and not be that person.
So when it comes to interrupting a person, interrupting somebody, why
does that happen?
If you yourself, when you see other people interrupting, or you have a
tendency, you have urgency of I want to get this out, I just want to
get it out there.
I just want to say it, but I need to interrupt someone to say it.
If you're that, if you notice that happening in yourself or in other
people, I'll share with you, first of all, why does that happen?
Why do people interrupt?
Because when it comes to communication, doesn't it make sense to
understand why people do the way, the things that they do and why they
make those decisions so that you can be a better communicator.
So let's talk about interrupting, the essence of why people interrupt
is because in a communication, if you perceive someone in your
audience or group of people at your audience, in your audience, they
have something that you do not, for example, it could be, you see
somebody has more intelligence in a certain area, or maybe you see
them as having more charisma or greater charisma, or maybe you
perceive somebody as having more authority or more power in that
conversation.
And you perceive, in other words, anything, it could be anything you
perceive in your audience that they have something that you don't.
Then that is the foundation of what causes the interruption, because
you perceive that they have something you don't, then chances are on
the flip side of it, that you will seek to compensate for that which
you do not have, or that you perceive that you don't have.
And as a result of that, you want to speak up and interrupt so that
you can assert your intelligence, that you can stand up for yourself
so that you can increase your charisma or your power or your presence
and so on.
Right?
So that's the essence of why people interrupt either you yourself are
finding that you constantly interrupt, or other people are constantly
interrupting.
That's the essence of why this happens.
Right.
And so in this video, I'm going to share with you three practices on
how you can stop interrupting others so that the conversation can be a
dialogue instead of a monologue.
And you might be thinking, well, how does that lead to interrupting?
Just because I perceive somebody has something I do not.
How does that lead to interrupting?
Now, I want to go a little bit deeper into that because it doesn't
always lead to interrupting somebody because if you perceive somebody
has something you don't, and let's just say it's intelligence, they
have a certain level of intelligence, a depth of knowledge that you
know that you don't have, then it can go one of two ways, right?
On the spectrum between passive and aggressiveness, right?
So on the one end of the spectrum, it is passive on the other end of
the spectrum, it is aggressive, right?
We either go either way.
If we perceive somebody having greater intelligence at us or power or
charisma, we can either be too passive.
And if you go the passive route, then the outcome is we tend not to
say anything.
We tend to choose to stay silent.
We don't voice our opinions.
We don't share our ideas.
That is the passive side.
If we go with the aggressive side on the other more tendencies, the
other end of the spectrum, the aggressive side, and that is where the
interruption occurs.
This is where we speak up.
We assert ourselves, we insert our ideas and we interrupt other people
in the flow of the conversation.
And we turn it into a monologue because we want to be the one to share
ideas and get it out there.
Right?
So it is always a spectrum from passiveness, passivity to
aggressiveness and aggressiveness, right?
So that is what occurs.
And either, or, and you'll notice this, if you reflect in your life,
you'll see that that it is true, that there are times where you tend
to have be on the passive side.
And there are times and situations where you tend to be more on the
aggressive side, right?
So this is where it's important first of all, to develop that
awareness, which situations specifically do I tend to be more passive
in front of what types of people and how am I perceiving that they
have something that I do not?
And what is it that I perceive that they have that I do not have?
So it's important to have that self-awareness right.
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So knowledge is not power.
Knowledge itself is not power.
It's not going to serve you, but applied knowledge is where the power
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Because if you catch yourself tending more in certain situation
towards the spectrum of aggressiveness, what happens as a result of
that is the intention is to listen to rebound this the, in the
perceived imbalance of power, right?
So when we are aggressive, we tend to listen to rebalance the
imbalance that we perceive.
And as a result, we tend to want to assert and interrupt instead of
listening so that we can add genuine value, right?
So that's the effect that it comes out because as aggressive on the
aggressive side, this is where we are taking more actions and
communicating to rebalance the perception of they have something I do
not.
And I want to rebalance, to bring back equity to restore the equity in
the perception of inequity, and that's where it comes out with
interruptions so that's why the first way, which leads to the first
number one, the first practice on how to stop interrupting is to
practice self governance, right?
So there's three practices.
This is the first practice it's self-governance what does
self-governance mean?
Self-governance governance.
The root word of governance is to govern.
So self-governance is the ability to steer yourself, to be able to
have alignment with your greater purpose, to understand what is the
purpose, my mission, my chief aim in my life, and to be able to make
decisions and real objectives and set goals that are in alignment with
that purpose.
But more than that, at a deeper level, it's understanding what are
your true values, the values that are genuine to you, not values that
you are accepting from other people, but that are genuine and true to
you.
What are your true values and setting goals and real objectives that
are in alignment with that.
It's also, once you understand what that is from yourself, it's also
understanding what other people value.
In any conversation, others have their own values, you have your own
values and in this communication, it's about how do I converse?
How do I share my ideas?
How do I share my perspectives in accordance with what other people
value?
And so this is the, this is all self self-governance it's being able
to steer is being able to be in control, having self-mastery in the,
even in the presence of challenges, even in the presence of people who
criticize, even in our fears and anxieties, we have that
self-governance because we are mission driven because we understand
what our purpose is and we know who we are.
And so the fact is being self-governed means that you can achieve and
set real objectives and increases your probability of achieving the
goals that you set, because they are aligned with your values.
But if you are not self-governed absence, the absence of
self-governance means that you're living in accordance to other
people's values.
You try to change yourself so that you can help please somebody else
or so that you can come along to their perspective.
You try to adopt their values and their perspectives.
But if you are not governing yourself, if you don't have
self-governance, then others will step in and govern you.
In the absence of self-governance, what happens is that we are
disempowered in our ability to speak.
We are disempowered in our ability to share our perspectives and our
ideas.
We're disempowered in our ability to advocate for ourselves.
And at the same time, in the absence of self-governance, we are a
victim of our history.
So this is why it's so important.
The first practice is to practice self-governance.
And by the way, if this is new to you, and you're wondering, well, how
do I navigate that?
Because for a long time, I have been disempowered.
Maybe you're thinking to yourself, well, now I'm in the presence of
executives now, and they are wanting me to step up in leadership.
I really want to be a leader in my industry, if that's you, and you're
serious about creating that outcome in your life, and you understand
the importance of setting real goals, and you really do feel, I want
to make my dreams come true.
I want to make my mission.
I want to be driven in my mission, but you don't know how to achieve
that for yourself and in your life.
Then I invite you to book a call with me below this video, in the
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Practice number two is to practice principled communication.
Remember earlier, when I shared that aggressiveness, if we tend
towards the aggressive spectrum, what we're doing is we are
interrupting to balance out the inequity that we perceive.
So when it comes to balancing out that inequity, we have this sense of
urgency of, I want to insert my idea in there, because if I don't, I
might not have an opportunity to do so, or I want to really assert
myself because if I don't, then I'm going to forget what I wanted to
say next.
And then I'm not.
And that moment will pass and I might regret it later on.
So we interrupt.
So if you practice principled communication, this is where you are a
master of your own principles.
But first of all, it comes with an understanding of what your
principles are.
So let me share with you the essence of principles, principles are the
truths.
They are the governance, they are the laws that govern why your
strategies work.
If you look at your career path, just look at your resume or your CV.
You have, you have achieved things in your career path, you have
accomplishments and some of your accomplishments are quite notable.
And the thing is these achievements, the successes you've had in your
career path, they didn't get there by accident, right?
They didn't get there by accident.
So this is where if you are practicing principled communication,
you're sharing, what are your principles?
What are the truths that governed your strategies?
And when you share from a principle's perspective, you're not going to
forget what you want to say next, you have peace and knowledge that I
have this wisdom to share, because you're hired for your principles.
Application of principles will produce the outcomes that are desirable
all the time.
Tactically, that's not necessarily true because tactics don't always
work, but principles will work in various industries and various
domains as well.
So instead of worrying about the details and the minutia in which you
want to share and communicate, this is where the tendency to want to
sense I have a sense of urgency to interrupt, that's where it's the
highest is when you want to share all the details of minutia.
But instead when you take it back to the big picture of the principles
that you don't need to worry about you're losing your chance or
missing your chance to have an impact because principles are impactful
on a much deeper scale, right?
So that's the second practice is to practice principled communication.
Practice number three, this is the third practice, let's summarize
what I talked about so far.
The first practice is to practice self-governance.
The second practice is to practice principled communication and the
third practice.
And this is to what practices to stop interrupting, right?
To have a great communication and dialogue.
The third practice is to practice active communication, right?
And there's a lot of depth towards active communication and so much so
that I created another video for it.
So if you're serious about these three practices, then the very next
video that is showing up is a I created before that shows you how to
practice active listening, and that's coming up right up next.