- [Narrator] Hey there, Psych2Goers.
Welcome back to another video.
How happy are you right now?
Are you someone who struggles
to find motivation and joy
in your daily life,
but can't figure out why?
What many people don't realize is that
there are many small habits
in your mindset and behaviors
that can make you unhappy.
If you learn what makes you dissatisfied,
you can tailor your life to avoid these habits.
So with that in mind,
here are 10 things you do
that make you unhappy without knowing.
Number one, ignoring yourself.
Are you someone who wears yourself out?
Do you prioritize other people
over what you truly want?
Whether you dismiss your wants and needs,
ignore self-care,
or invalidate your emotions,
you may actually be hurting
yourself and your happiness.
Working to tune into who you are as a person
and what you want
will help your motivation
and sense of balance.
Finding some time to self-reflect
upon who you are,
how you're doing,
and your desires
might be a great first step.
Number two, trying to control everything around you.
Do you constantly try to control your surroundings?
You may expect people to act a certain way
or always expect things to go the way you planned.
However, trying to control everything around you
will likely end up
harming you in the long run.
Life is so unpredictable and chaotic
that it's impossible to expect things
to happen a certain way.
It's important to stay flexible
and open-minded to new opportunities.
That way you can adapt
to many different types of situations.
Number three, seeking validation from outside sources.
Do you often compare yourself to others?
Do you use metrics such as grades
or work performance to validate
your self-worth?
While it's hard not to,
seeking validation from outside sources
can make you unhappy.
Realize that you're the only one
who determines your worth.
Not friends, family, grades, accomplishments,
or any other external factors.
You don't have to worry
about pleasing everyone
or always being perfect,
and can focus on being happy
and living the way you want.
Number four, spending too much time regretting
and not enough time learning.
Are you someone who always
thinks about your mistakes?
Replaying them over and over,
while speculating what could have been.
While it is extremely difficult
to overcome your regrets,
the past cannot be changed.
The only thing you can do
is learn from your previous mistakes
and do your best to move forward.
Spending too much time regretting
not only weighs you down,
but also prohibits you from getting
life experience and knowledge.
Instead, try to learn from your mistakes
and use them as opportunities
to change your present and your future.
Number five, neglecting personal relationships.
When was the last time you talked to your friends?
Do you find yourself canceling plans
instead of going out.
It may be hard to find time
to meet up with people
because life gets in the way,
but it's important to stay connected.
Humans are social creatures
and even introverts need some social contact.
Having a strong support system
will likely make you more relaxed, balanced,
and overall make you feel uplifted as a person.
So even if it's only once a month
or for a few hours,
try to make time to connect
to the people you love.
Number six, surrounding yourself with negativity.
Are you a glass half empty
or a glass half full type of person?
Do you find yourself surrounded
by people who bring you down?
While complaining is certainly
a good way to vent from time to time,
constant negativity can make you more unhappy.
When you complain,
you're giving your problems
and inconveniences more power,
allowing them to linger in your mind
and further ruin your day.
Similarly, by surrounding yourself
with negative people,
their problems may become your own.
If they're constantly fussing,
bringing you down
or manipulating you into helping them,
it can harm your overall well-being.
Instead, try to surround yourself
with positive people
that encourage and uplift you.
Number seven, not allowing yourself to be happy.
While it may sound obvious,
most people don't recognize
when they're self-sabotaging.
Things like overthinking,
judging yourself and self-blame
are destructive behaviors
that are often overlooked.
Sometimes these behaviors have deeper roots
such as unhealed trauma, recent crisis,
or burnout that causes you
to subconsciously avoid happiness.
You might think you don't deserve joy
or that you need to do better.
These types of problems
are generally best addressed through therapy
or another means of professional support.
So don't be afraid to reach out.
It doesn't make you weak,
inferior or crazy.
Number eight, overthinking.
How often do you stay up at night
replaying various worst-case scenarios
and embarrassing interactions you've had?
While the tendency to overthink is human,
doing this too much
will only make you more stressed.
Try to remember that at the end of the day,
no one will remember or care about
that one time you made mistake in class
or said the wrong thing.
Try to look at an embarrassing situation
as something to laugh about in the future.
That way you're not weighed down
by over-analyzing yourself.
You can then use that time
to focus on what really matters.
Number nine, fantasizing too much.
Do you find yourself scrolling through social media,
wishing your life was like someone else's?
Do you use phrases like,
"When I grow up,"
or, "In a few years."
While it may sound cheesy,
there really is no better time
to take action than the present.
If you always fantasize about the future,
you may end up pretending more than taking action.
Try not to use social media
to set unrealistic expectations for yourself.
Instead, try to put your plans into action.
And number 10, being a perfectionist.
Do you have to make sure everything is just right?
You never settle for less
and would rather give up
than make something that is subpar.
It's wonderful to have strong attention to detail
and the ability to work hard.
However, when taken too far,
it can end up hindering your progress.
You may end up obsessing over everything
and burn yourself out.
It can be easy to lose motivation
and become discouraged
when things don't turn out the way they should.
But it's important to set that aside
and learn from your mistakes,
allowing yourself to fail and learn
will allow you to grow.
Being able to see your progress
over time will be much more rewarding
than giving up early.
It can be easy to fall into a cycle
that neglects your personal needs.
Sometimes you may do these things
without even knowing.
However, taking steps to improve your situation
and get into a better mindset
will help improve your wellbeing.
Do you relate to any of these things?
If so, which ones?
What changes are you thinking of making?
As always, please reach out
to a qualified professional
if you're struggling with your mental health
to get back on track.
Also, feel free to leave a comment
with your experiences down below.
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