In this video, we are going to look at the ENFP and INTJ relationship. And for my INTJ
viewers, I'm going to provide a structure. That's one of the
differences between our two personalities, of course.
I'm going to share a little bit about my experience as an ENFP
working with INTJs. I'm going to share some common surface level
traits that you might notice the big differences between our two
personalities. And then I'm going to dive deeper into our
different functions and how they work together and why the
compatibility of INTJs with ENFPs can be so, so strong, and the
partnership can be unstoppable given the right circumstances.
So I personally am an ENFP, one could argue the ENFP expert here
on YouTube, and I have been into personality psychology for over
a decade here. So throughout the years, when I've had different
partnerships and things like that, I've explored the other
person's personality. And I have been fortunate enough to work
with quite a few INTJs. One is my little brother through Big
Brother program. The organization that pairs up
younger boy who doesn't have a father figure with an older male
father figure. So he is an INTJ, we found out fairly recently,
he's 19, maybe 20 now, something like that. And we were
talking about it and actually recorded a whole podcast on it,
which I will link to. As well as recently I went into business
with an INTJ, which involved together going to a foreign
country, and going into some very unexplored territory to
look at an investment possibility, which was about the
most intense learning experience you could have really getting to
know someone else and a different personality. And this
individual and me were friends beforehand as well. So learned a
lot about that INTJ ENFP relationship with that I am not
talking from textbooks here. This is all from my own
experience, and then put into context, perhaps with what we
can learn from the textbooks. So on the surface, the INTJ, and
ENFP could not appear more different. ENFPs often appear
really loud and friendly. And sometimes to people who don't
know as well, we seem like we're maybe not even that intelligent.
We're all about fun. And living in the moment. We're very
extroverted, in many cases, and INTJs can come off as more
serious and reserved and seem like they're all about the
numbers and the analytics and everything else. This is not
really the case, though, when you go below the surface. The
INTJs I know, tend to be very fun people actually, they tend
to think about life a lot. So they think very intelligently
about life design the same way ENFPs do, they don't buy into
the 9-5 BS, usually they don't look to just follow
what everyone else does, they just do it in a very different
way than us. So the ENFP might be just super excited, hey, I'm
gonna go do this, I'm going to start my business, I'm going to
travel the world, the INTJ will just methodically evaluate what
is the best life for them, and then go and live that life. For
example, the little brother I mentioned lives in Vancouver,
Canada, which is a very expensive city for real estate.
And he lives on a boat in the creek for free. And it's a
pretty awesome lifestyle, he is looking at a view that houses
would pay $5 to $15 million for the similar view every day.
That is a very intelligent way of approaching life. The same
goes for risk taking well ENFP is maybe one of the most extreme
in terms of just jumping into things impulsively. And maybe
it's starting a business or taking some other kind of risk
wanting to move. You know, if you meet people in different
countries, I'm filming this from Spain, I'm originally in Canada,
when you meet people who have a similar life, to me, it's not
uncommon that they are ENFPs because they wanted to just try
something out and see what they would like. But INTJs are also
very open to calculated risk to doing something that most people
wouldn't do. In fact, the three INTJ that I'm closest with
all live pretty unique, cool lives with lots of travels, and
a unique approach to living that is best suited for them. Now
let's dive into the function because this is actually the
best way to explore our different personality traits,
similarities and the differences if you're not totally familiar
with how functions work with personality type, and that I'll
do my best to explain a little bit as I go. So this should all
make sense, even if you're a bit of a beginner. So when we're
operating normally each personality has four functions,
one of which is our primary function. And this is the best
way for us to operate essentially and how we prefer to
operate say 80 90% of the time. It's also where our strength
come from. If you have some kind of superpower if you're really
good at something, it's likely related to your primary
function. So an ENFP his primary function is Extraverted
Intuition. Essentially, this means that we take in a lot of
information using our intuition. And it's information from
outside of us, right. So it could be books, it could be
videos or watching it could be walking into a room and really
assessing things quickly and taking in a ton of information,
seeing patterns and seeing opportunities. This means ENFPs
have the potential to be innovators, we see what could happen in the future. And we come up with those really good
ideas. Follow through though, is sometimes a problem staying true
to the path and knowing what is right for us. Because we don't
spend a lot of time looking in the past or making really
structured decisions. But here's the cool thing about INTJs
their primary function is introverted intuition. This is
one of the hardest functions to explain, and could take up a
whole video series why it's important for this partnership.
And what I'll leave it at is, it involves knowing your own
course. And I look at it as being really determined
personality types with introverted intuition as their
first or second function tend not to quit, they stick to
things they know where they want to go. So ENFP is we know where
the world may go, we see patterns, we see things that we
think are going to happen, people with introverted
intuition, like INTJ don't necessarily see these patterns,
but they know where they are going to go, and therefore have
a determination to get there. So you can see how pairing up these
two primary functions could be one heck of a superhero team.
Now let's look at our second and third functions. And here's
where it gets really cool and pretty interesting, we actually
have the same second and third functions together, but in a
different order. So for ENFP our second function is introverted
feeling which is all about knowing what is right and wrong
for us and making decisions based on some kind of a value
system essentially. And our third function is extroverted
thinking, which is about order and structure. And you know,
being effective making things happen outside of us extroverted
in the real world, we're usually not very good at it, we develop
this later in life, if you're wondering, and INTJs their
second function is extroverted thinking. So making things
happen operating out of a place of logic, and their third
function is introverted feeling. And this is really, really
important and why this partnership can be so
unstoppable. First, we can operate on a similar level of
understanding each other. Now an INTJ, assuming two people are
the same age and same level of development. Of course, an INTJ
is going to have a much more developed extroverted thinking
than an ENFP, they will be the organized one, they will be the
one who likes to look at logic and the numbers for structuring
things and everything else. We can speak that language though,
because we do have that function. And so we won't be
totally confused or think No, this isn't the right way to do
things, or whatever we can get along on that level, and even
admire them and see how far along they are in terms of the
way they can operate in that function. Essentially, by the
way, if you're interested in how all the functions work together,
and how we develop them, and everything else like that, I
have a video I'll link to here called the ENFP functions in
depth. And that explains the ENFP functions. But it also gets
into how functions develop in general and how we can use them
for personal growth. So even if say you're an INTJ, you'll
probably find the video quite interesting. And of course,
you'll learn a lot
about ENFP. So I'll put a card up for that one. So this overlap
is really cool. Because what it means is if you're an ENFP, and
you're driven by values, you're going to have trouble partnering
with someone who's just about the numbers, who has no sense of
introverted feeling, they don't care if your business is burning
down in the rain forest, as long as it makes a profit, that kind
of person is not going to connect well with you, you're
not going to connect well with that kind of person. And you're
going to run into a lot of roadblocks because they won't
understand like Why don't you want to burn down the rain
forest will make 7% more profit, and you just you'll just have a
total disconnect. There's no way that is going to work. The INTJ
is understand operating from a value system they understand
very well but they are also logical and organized and
structured. And that is why this can be so so amazing. Now, an
ENFP has a cause for instance, they donate a percent of their
income to a charity, you are going to hear about it you are
going to know their Facebook will be all about raw food this
save this do that with an INTJ you are going to have to hire an
auditor to go through their financial records to find out
Oh, this person supports multiple charities and they do
all this good stuff. It's a very different way of say connecting
with their values or at least sharing that with other people.
So if you're an ENFP getting to know an INTJ know that it will
take you a while to figure out their value system. They're not
going to show up to your first meeting with a T shirt that says
vote Bernie I'm a vegan, you might have to get to know them a
little bit better. And if you are an INTJ with an ENFP know
that we wear our values on our sleeves, a little More. And if
they haven't seen this video, that ENFP that you may be dating
or going into business with, is not going to be aware that you
may be keep your cards close to your chest. So it will help you
from time to time to just reveal a bit more of that information.
And even though for you, it might seem weird, like
oversharing, you can't overshare with ENFP. So don't worry about
that at all. No an ENFP and INTJ partnership is not always going
to be rosy, you're different enough in terms of
personalities, that there will be times when you don't quite
get each other at all. And you may find yourself butting heads.
I filmed some videos about this before. But if you're willing to
invest in the relationship, and really understand the other
person, the long term benefits will definitely be worth it. If
you want my last tip. Keep in mind that even though on the
surface, this person is going to seem so much different than you
under the surface. They're operating in a very similar way.
So if you take the time to really get to know them and form
a complementary relationship, you too could truly be
unstoppable. If you have been in a partnership between an INTJ
and an ENFP. Let me know in the comments what your experience
was like and if I missed anything here I wanted to keep
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