simply watching this video right here
will increase the probability of someone
actually coming back and in this video
i'm going to show you the five reasons
someone will come back and the five
things you can actually do about it that
will help shift the energy so that you
actually attract
it back the first reason they may come
back has to do with the grass
being greener and realizing
that it's not as good as they may have
thought
and what happens with this is people
sometimes they get a level of security
or a level of certainty with somebody
else
and they may in their mind then think
maybe the grass is greener so what they
do is they go out they explore and then
they find out that it's not as hyped up
as it was in their mind
so one of the things that you can do
that will really allow this process to
work itself out
is to simply
release attachment
now think of it energetically the more
someone is attached to somebody else the
more they are sending them energy the
more that they then feel repelled so
many times what could actually be
blocking somebody from coming to their
own conclusions
is an energy balance to where somebody
is projecting energy at someone else
because remember
people feel what you feel
and if you are feeling lack if you are
feeling like you really wish something
would be in your life but it's not then
that lack is going out and someone else
when they think of you
they are feeling the same thing they're
feeling what you feel
in a way it's almost like as we think of
someone we're tapping into the energy
that they're feeling in that moment
energetically
and this is why one of the most powerful
things you can do is to simply
let go of attachment and allow someone
to learn what they are learning
because that then gives it space for
somebody else to come to their own
realizations
the more we try to control what someone
is thinking or doing or whether they're
enjoying themselves or whatever it is
the more we try to control it the more
they can feel it and the more it
actually repels it
it's an interesting energetic balance
and i've noticed it in so many of my
friends that maybe go through a breakup
maybe have a hard time
not thinking about somebody but almost
every single time the moment they really
take back their energy and they release
attachment and by the way they're not
releasing attachment to then get this
person to come back they're releasing
attachment because they're starting to
put the energy more inside themselves
like nine times out of ten
it ends up coming back to them anyways
and then they have a choice to make
you know why
do i re do i re-engage
or do i actually maintain my boundaries
now this is something else to think
about too
you may want them to come back but
at the same time is it actually healthy
because sometimes we will fight for
childhood dynamics so it will have a
certain energy in our childhood maybe
our parents our mom or a dad treated a
certain way and then what happens is we
will fight for it in our relationships
and not even be aware of it it's
something that we're naturally
attracting and we're not even aware that
that's something that we want so we'll
be fighting for somebody that may treat
us like may not even like us
so it's important to become aware of
this because maybe then it makes it a
little bit easier for you to actually
let go
now the second thing the reason they
left but also the reason they'll come
back has pretty much what i was talking
about before which has to do with the
energy balance now notice anytime you
put someone on a pedestal you
immediately separate yourselves from
them and remember this saying i've said
it in a couple of videos if you treat
someone like a celebrity they will treat
you like a fan
so if we put someone on a pedestal we
put someone on this high like ranking
thing
they will then respond to us in that way
people are responding to us based on the
energy that we have trained them and
allowed them to to respond to us as this
is why sometimes you may start setting
boundaries with people and they're like
what are you doing you've never set
boundaries with me before but now you're
setting boundaries well you've trained
them and allowed them to hold you
accountable for a certain level of like
maybe sacrificing yourself to say yes to
things you don't want to do
and they're used to that so there'll be
an initial buffer period where maybe
that doesn't feel as an alignment
so with this energy balance thing what
you want to do is you want to take
people off a pedestal and realize that
their validation their support their
love whatever you think it is
that is an externalization
of your own power
and by saying they have that or
subconsciously thinking it we're putting
the power outside of ourselves
and then we're searching for it on the
outside
and the key to this is actually bringing
it back and realizing that a lot of the
times when we're trying to put someone
on a pedestal it's because we're putting
mom and dad on a pedestal energetically
it's actually more about relationship
with our parents and the key to this is
actually healing that energy dynamic and
becoming aware that there may be an
abandonment wound there and if we're
afraid of rejection we'll do anything we
can and mitigate our own frame
so that we can get the support and the
validation from other people
so become aware of that now the third
step to this process is something that
happens very very often it's very
important to realize is
sometimes
this is about realizing
are you tapping into your own sense of
value
think about that your own sense of value
because if you don't value you
then other people can't feel that energy
on you and value you as well
and also you're not then holding people
to a standard of valuing you so a lot of
times when someone goes through a
breakup or something what'll end up
happening is they're start to realize
their own value this is exactly what's
happened to me before where i felt
defeated i felt rejected and then i
started to look at myself and i started
to realize wait
i actually have value for just being me
not just because i'm on youtube doing
this cool stuff and making videos but i
have value for simply being me
and i started to have a sense of
self-worthiness there because value was
connected to my sense of self-worthiness
and as i started to feel worthy
it changed everything
it was like it was like there was i had
this huge block within myself where i
just felt not attractive i felt like
people didn't like me i felt like i had
trouble in blocks dating but as soon as
i switched that it was like the energy
dynamic completely
flipped so one thing you want to realize
is
are you valuing you
do you recognize how special and unique
you are
do you realize that you have
value for simply being you do you think
you have to do something to get value
you have to say yes to somebody you have
to give or have sex with somebody in
order to be valued or do you think that
you just have value for you this is
something you want to work on or look at
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anyways let's move on to the next point
but uh i just
figured out we're doing this so the
fourth thing that you can do in order to
um
the reason they will come back and what
you can do to switch that energy is to
go more general now this is something i
learned from abraham hicks
going general now what happens is when
we're focused on certain aspects of our
life let's say we're doing well in our
career or we're having a great
relationship with our family
and maybe we're not too good in our
relationships well because we're so
focused on the quadrant of relationships
and things aren't going well it's almost
like we create more and more resistance
the more we focus on it and the more
specific we get
and that's why what abraham hicks talks
about is going more general so what you
could do is take your energy off this
sector of your life doesn't mean it's
gonna completely fall apart in fact when
you take your energy and resistance away
and you put it on an area of your life
that is working you may find that you
allow you allow more alignment to flow
through
and
i do this a lot when let's say there's
something i need to figure out or
there's something i'm focused on and i
keep focusing on it and then i start
creating resistance well if i just
simply go for a walk and i stop focusing
on it the resistance goes away and then
a lot of times it figures itself out
much quicker
so one thing i recommend you do
is if you're letting go of someone or
having a trouble doing this
and as i see this a lot of times with
friends and other people in my life take
your energy from focusing on the love
and attracting the love and instead put
it on yourself
maybe your career maybe your
relationship with your family maybe like
finding a new hobby when you do this you
are then you you honestly stop
abandoning yourself as well which is one
of the main problems is we're afraid of
rejection we're afraid of not getting
someone's validation or approval
which is an abandonment wound and one of
the things you can do to shift this
energy
is to take the energy off of that sector
of your life and instead
no don't worry about it right now trust
that things will work out and focus on
your career focus on your friendships
focus on your family there's a lot of
times people have someone on their mind
and they're sending them energy not
knowing that they're like repelling that
person and then they'll go out with
friends and just hang out and just
loosen up and they'll stop taking it so
seriously and then what'll happen
is it's like that it's like
they get everything they want it's like
that energy comes back and everything
and then they have a choice to make
so energetically
realize that you could put the energy
inside of yourself and your own body and
as you do that it changes absolutely
everything about this process
now one of the last and one of the most
final thing uh most powerful things you
can do and we've talked a little bit
about this but it's a mixture of two
things
now let's say you want to attract an
emotionally available person and let's
say you have a pattern of attracting
emotionally unavailable person the sad
truth is the person that has left that
you're trying to get their attention it
could be
that they are emotionally unavailable
and that you are fighting for that
emotional unavailability because it
feels so similar to childhood
how crazy is that that we do that and
i've done that and and the reason i
share this with you
is one of the hard truths about this
is we must embody that which we want to
attract
and what i would recommend you do is
become aware that if you're attracted to
emotionally unavailable people
there may be a certain level of
emotional and availability on the inside
that is comfortable with somebody being
emotionally unavailable
and also emotional unavailability there
that maybe
is repelling emotionally available
people and that's why there's a tie to
this this person that you're trying to
get their attention back
so the thing i'd recommend you do is to
really focus on the inside and to focus
on becoming emotionally available and
opening your heart if there's one thing
that changed everything for me to
attract love
it has been opening my heart
and becoming more vulnerable and having
the courage to look at the side of
myself
and it wasn't always easy but the more i
made the choice to open my heart the
more magnetic my energy was and the more
easy things just flowed through
so realize that if you pull your energy
back
and you realize that this is really a
game of you feeling self-love of you
feeling confident this is a this is a
matter of you embodying the emotions the
energy and the values that you want to
actually attract
and as you do that you will notice that
not only do they come back but then you
have an important decision to make and
that is what is your standard what are
your values
and are you just attracting similar
childhood dynamic patterns and as you
let go of that you then attract more
love into your life because you are
embodying more love into your life does
that make sense it's like so powerful
for us to actually embody
that energy
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know what energy what reaction will make
him fight for you by switching around
the energy patterns watch this video it
will completely change the energy and it
works like magic they may not come back
if the energy remains the same
however
if the energy changes
if the energy comes back to self
you'll notice that the energy become