- Good morning Good Life,
welcome back to Amy TV,
where we come together to go after the life
that you want.
I've had en epiphany, yep.
That's right, brace yourself.
I have figured out what it is about people
that makes me want to be around them.
What takes one person from just another person
that you meet or just another person
that comes into your life,
and takes them to the level of being somebody
that you remember,
being somebody that you want to be around,
being someone that impresses you.
I've figured it out
and that's what I wanna share with you today.
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All right let's talk about first what this video is not.
I do not think that you should be spending a lot of time
worried about what people think about you.
In fact last year I made a video about this,
you should watch it if you're worried
about what people think about you.
That's not what this video is about.
What it is about is that in life,
to make big things happen, to make cool things happen,
to make little things happen,
you need to know people.
You can't do everything yourself, I've tried.
So as you come across the people who may
or may not be able to help you make things happen,
making a good first impression is important.
I've gone through quite a few ups and downs
in my adult life about when it comes to making an impression
and being impressive,
I have been borderline obsessed with it,
especially in my early 20s and would try
to make it happen in any way really possible.
What happened was a lot of people kept saying to me,
you know you're really mature and ambitious
and a hard worker for your age,
and that's very impressive and that is memorable,
and I just would thrive off of that,
but that's also a point where there's maybe
too much of it going on and now you're trying
to do it in ways that don't make sense.
That led to buying things
that made me seem more impressive.
That meant to traveling to places
that made me seem more impressive,
and it was partially to make me happy,
but in other ways it was not.
I just wanted to keep being impressive,
this goes back to this video not being about
what other people think about you because what
I have realized is that now there is really only one way
that matters to me and hopefully will matter to you
that actually breaks the most ground when
it comes to making people feel impressed by you,
make you memorable and make them want
to be in touch with you.
The sad thing is that it is so simple
that it shouldn't actually be that impressive
but that is what's really cool about it
and why I don't trip all over myself to worry about how
I look to other people any more,
just this one thing makes an enormous difference.
Okay, I promise I'm gonna tell you what the things is
but first you know what we have to do,
I have to give a little bit of Twitter gratitude today.
Today I'm shining a light on RavenMinx,
Deanna thank yous so much for watching these videos.
I acknowledge you for your time and attention
and for that retweet I really appreciate it.
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As you know from my vlogs lately which have been going
out on Wednesdays I've been sharing some of my travels
with you and recently I was in Florida
where the idea for this video came to me.
Vin and I and his family were actually driving around
and we were looking at the neighborhoods
in the area we were staying and you know,
you always get curious about the real estate
and you take a flyer,
sometimes you pull it up on your app,
find out how much it's going for.
We were doing a little bit of research, not gonna lie.
Always trying to figure out how we can do better investing
in our money and all that kind of stuff.
Well one house was super interesting to us
and Vin's aunt actually called a local realtor
that she had met in the past
and this guy was very helpful.
Literally within about five minutes
of talking to him on the phone,
he had already called the listing agent
for that house to find out how we could get access
to it and another 10 minutes later he pulled up
with the information that he got
so that he could get us access to the property,
I was stunned.
I was like I'm still in my bathing suit
from going on a boat today but okay,
we're going on a house tour now.
This is an extraordinary example
of something that people do not understand
the gravity of when it is happening.
In fact I even tweeted about it.
I was just so ecstatic.
Simply just showing up was more than enough.
He went above and beyond, way above and beyond,
by showing up within 15 minutes.
He had the ability to make something happen
at that moment and he did.
And now he's the only guy I wanna talk
to about this kind of stuff.
But here's the thing,
I would actually never expect him to do that again
I would never expect for me to call him
and him show up in a moment's notice.
I just think people's time is worth way more than that.
I can not believe even for something he does for living
that he would drop everything and do that.
That may have been a part of the initial stun
but the reality is that's simply because he proves
he will show up when he says he's going to,
that is more than enough for me.
It's very easy to say yes and we talk around here
about saying no and getting better at saying no
because the reality is you need to say no
to be more impressive,
because when you say yes you need to be all in.
When you say you're gonna do something, do it.
The more I've done that in my life,
the more I've said yes to doing things
and always showing up and always making sure
that I follow through,
the more impressive I have been able to become
to any people, whether it's my neighbor
when they need a favor or you when I say I'm gonna make
a YouTube video.
It's really wild but that reliability
is starting to become rare and I don't think that's fun,
at all, I want reliability in my life.
I wanna be able to say I can rely on people
but actually those who do impress me with that reliability
are the ones that prove it and it starts with did you say
you were gonna do something and then did you do it?
The fascinating this is you may be a personality type
that's saying look I've got to say it so
that I might potentially do it just
to hold myself accountable to make myself try something new
and that's all fine and good and maybe you need
somebody to be an accountability partner on that,
to just put out into the world
that you're gonna do something.
To put out into the world that you want to do something
or that you're gonna try is not the same
as actually saying what you're gonna try to do
and then doing it.
If you build a reputation of somebody who says
they do a lot of things and then doesn't,
that's really bad.
That's exponentially decreasing as fast as someone saying
they're gonna do something and then doing it.
The important thing here is saying no when you just can't
and no you can't and you are aware enough
of your life, of your time, of your priorities,
of what you wanna do,
to know when you're not gonna do something.
Actually I had a very similar conversation with Vin's uncle
in Florida, too.
I did something,
it was sort of like a little surprise,
it was nothing, it was absolutely zero, zero of a big deal,
but his uncle said that was a surprise
and I was like, yeah, I could have told you in advance
I was gonna do it
and I could have said I really wanna do that,
or I could have just done it,
and now we don't have to have a whole conversation
beforehand where it's like,
is it gonna happen, is it not gonna happen?
Because who cares.
If it happens or if it doesn't happen,
that's all that matters,
so I know this is all very vague but,
shout out to Uncle Mario and shout out to John,
the realtor in Florida because showing up man,
showing up is so big and you can just tell
in his energy how excited he was to do that
but even if he wasn't, he showed up.
He said he was gonna be there and he was
and it's that simple.
That is impressive.
Stop just using social media to talk about
the things you could do or you might do,
or you try to do,
use it to talk about what you've done.
Hopefully that was an interesting little rant
for you this week and here's a little tweetable
in case you felt empowered by it.
I've learned that people will forget what you said,
people will forget what you did,
but people will never forget
how you made them feel, Maya Angelou.
All right I wanna hear from you.
Maybe you have a different idea of what is impressive,
what is something that somebody has done recently
that impressed you?
Share that in the comments below.
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And go after the life you want, cheers.
I have figured out what it is
and that's what I'm gonna share with you,
with you, that's what I'm gonna share with you.
We're just slanging it up around here.