Now at this point, you've set the resignation date, you pulled the plug and you quit on
a Friday morning and everything is Gucci.
Now I'm going to tell you something that I epically missed out on and I really regret
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what is up everyone?
Welcome back to my channel, the best place for new coaches, content creators and entrepreneurs.
Now in today's video we are talking about a topic that I haven't talked about in a long
time and for those of you who have known me for a very long time, ever since the creation
of this channel, you'll know that a lot of my videos back then were about quitting the
nine to five.
I was sharing my experience of quitting my nine to five.
I was sharing my experience of life after the nine to five and all of that.
Now, if you're new to my channel, here's a little TLDR.
Basically a year ago or two years ago, I quit my nine to five cold Turkey to start a YouTube
channel and fast forward today, YouTube and just taking that leap has opened so many avenues
for me.
I am now a multiple six figure entrepreneur.
I'm a coach.
I specialize in social media now and I am just living my best life.
As cliche as that sounds and that's why as we head into 2020 I decided to make this video
because I am reminded of what it was like two years ago where I realized I didn't like
my job and every single year, like every new year I was like, this is going to be my year,
this is going to be my year.
I'm going to quit the nine to five blah, blah, blah, blah.
And then I would never go through with it.
And I realize also at the time when I was on YouTube and on Google and searching for
resources, there weren't a lot of tangible resources coaching me or teaching me how to
quit the nine to five so it took me a long time to do it.
And that's why today's video is dedicated to you.
If you are wanting to make 2020 the year where you say no to the shit that you hate and yes
to new opportunity, whether that is starting your own business, going into a completely
different career path or just taking a damn break.
Then keep on watching, but actually before we start the video we have some important
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All right, so let's start with the very first thing that I did that made me realize that
I was ready to quit the nine to five because if you're watching this video, you might be
really on the borderline Teeter totter area zone where you're like, should I shouldn't
I should I shouldn't tie is the best idea of my life or the worst idea of my life.
I have been there.
That's why the first thing that I recommend that you do is to do a risk assessment.
Now, what does this mean?
This means that I want you to create two columns, okay?
We're going to do this together.
Let's do two columns.
My video editor, put the two columns there.
Okay?
We're going to do two columns.
The first column is I want you to write the things that you feel are going to be the worst
possible things that could happen if you were to quit your job.
So this could be, I'm going to run out of money or this could be, I'm going to need
to move out of my apartment.
You know what I mean?
Just think about the worst things that could possibly happen if you were to quit your nine
to five.
Okay.
And then in the second column I want you to think about what you would do to fix that
problem.
So for example, one of the biggest fears that I had when I was going to quit the nine to
five was I can't pay my rent.
That was the worst thing I could think of for quitting the nine to five or one of the
worst things.
And then afterwards in the column right beside it, right next to it, I said, okay, this is
what I'm going to do.
I'm going to move back home to live with my mom and that's what I did.
Okay.
Now moving onto the next fear that you have.
Maybe it's, I'm nervous that my savings isn't going to last me long enough.
Okay, great.
You've identified that problem.
Ask yourself, how are you going to fix it?
For me, I wrote if I run out of my savings, I'll take a part time job and that's what
I did.
And so by doing this exercise and really putting it down on paper, I realized that for every
single possible bad thing that could happen, I had a solution for it.
And that solution I was happy with.
It wasn't as bad as I had made it sound or feel like in my head or in my heart.
And so what I did, this risk assessment, I realized, huh, I actually have a solution
for everything.
And so putting my job doesn't seem that bad after all.
And this was really the catalyst of what gave me the permission to quit eventually.
And so I highly recommend that you do that for yourself and you really do a risk assessment
and think about all the things that you could possibly do to fix or solve any of the worst
case scenarios that are in your mind.
Now, if you're someone who's doing this risk assessment and you realize that, huh, I actually
need this nine to five, I don't really have a solution to any of these problems or the
solutions that I came up with, I'm not willing to do, I'm not willing to sacrifice for, then
maybe that's a sign that you need to stay at your nine to five for a little bit longer
until you do that risk assessment and you can fully feel happy moving forward and pulling
the plug.
All right, so let's say you've done the risk assessment and you're like, hallelujah, thank
you Vanessa.
I now realize I am ready to quit the nine to five I feel empowered.
I have a solution for everything.
It's not so bad after all.
Then the next thing that I advise you to do is to keep your mouth shut.
Now, this might be controversial.
You might have an office bestie that you want to talk to and tell that you are going to
be quitting your job soon, but I highly advise you at this moment in time to just keep your
mouth shut.
And the reason why I say this is because office gossip is real and a lot of times sometimes
you might feel like you're ready to quit the nine to five and then you go telling everyone
and then after you realize, huh, actually I changed my mind.
I want to stay here and that can cause a lot of problems for you and it can also cause
people to really gossip and share fake news if it's not actually something that you're
committing to.
That's why I really highly advise that if you want to quit your nine to five, really
keep it to yourself for now.
Now that leads me to the next tip though, and that is to at least tell your boss.
Now this is a little bit controversial because I didn't even tell my boss when I was thinking
of quitting, but in hindsight I really wished that I did and that's why I'm including this
in this video.
No, I'm not saying that you need to tell your boss months in advance before you quit.
But I think that it's nice to give your boss a heads up leading up to you handing in your
letter of resignation.
And the reason why I say this is because if you really love your boss or you care about
your manager, then this is a really big courtesy to them because a lot of times managers, their
KPI and what they're evaluated on in terms of performance is employee retention.
And I wish that I gave my manager at least maybe two weeks heads up so she had even more
time to find someone to replace me or she was at least mentally and emotionally prepared
to replace me.
And I wish I didn't drop the bomb on her two weeks before I left.
And so that's kind of a really big tip that I didn't realize would be important.
So that's why I'm putting this in this video.
If you care about your manager and if you care about, you know, the impression that
you leave behind in your company, definitely give your manager the courtesy of pulling
them aside before you hand in your letter of resignation and just speak what's on your
mind so that they can properly prepare and that manager can also prepare what they're
going to say to their manager or to HR.
So again, that's the tip that I have for you when it comes to leaving gracefully, then
nine to five now for some tangible tips of leaving the nine to five, like the actual
logistics of it.
So the next tip that I have for you is something that I have made up myself and I was really
glad that I did this and that is quit on a Friday.
And if you can try your best to quit on Friday morning.
Now why do I say Friday?
The reason why is because after you quit, shit gets awkward.
Okay?
Like your coworkers start to know about it and it's just really, really awkward.
Your manager kind of low key treats you a little bit differently after you resigned.
And so that's why I'm really glad personally that I quit on a Friday because I was able
to leave work and head into the weekend where I could hang out with my friends and really
take the weekend to digest what had just happened.
I can't imagine quitting on a Monday and then sitting through the entire work week knowing
what I just did.
And so that's why if you're already very anxious about it, I highly recommend that you quit
on a Friday so that you can actually just head into the weekend.
And I think that's also nice for your manager too, so that they have the weekend to process
it and then everyone comes back on Monday on a fresh foot or a fresh start.
Now why do I say Friday morning?
Why do I say morning specifically?
You just got to rip the bandaid.
Okay.
I was feeling so anxious going in to Friday cause I knew that I was gonna quit my job
and I am so glad that the moment I headed in there, I got there early, I pulled my manager
aside and ask her for coffee and then I dropped the bomb.
I can't imagine sitting through the entire work day just knowing that I'm going to be
quitting my job soon and I think that if you don't want to sit in that anxiety, it's just
so nice to be able to get it out of the way straight away.
Rip the bandaid Friday morning now moving on.
After you've dropped the bomb and you're telling your manager that you are resigning, the next
tip that I have for you is to be firm.
Be firm on the date that you've set that you say that you're going to leave, whether it's
two weeks, notice three weeks notice a month notice.
Doesn't matter.
Really try to be firm because many managers and this has happened to me and it happened
to my friends and everything like that.
They'll try their very best to squeeze every little ounce out of you and they're going
to try to negotiate with you and see if you can extend even longer.
And I don't blame them.
Two weeks to replace someone is not a lot of time and so your manager or your boss or
HR or whoever is always going to try their very best to see if you can extend your resignation
date.
I'm telling you this right now because I have a feeling if you're watching this, you might
be a people pleaser and you might crumble under the pressure.
So that's why I'm giving you a heads up to prepare for that and make sure that you are
firm because a lot of times you might feel guilty and you might feel bad, but this is
really a chance for you to put your own needs first and really promise them that during
the time from the moment you resigned to the moment that you're actually leaving the company,
you're going to try your very best to help them find a replacement or to help them off
board and onboard and wrap up important projects and everything like that.
But the date is the date because it's happened to a lot of my friends where they originally
set a date and then they feel bad, so then they extend it and then they feel bad again
and then they extend it and now instead of two weeks notice they're basically still at
the company and for another two months before they can actually resign because they get
sucked in and they feel bad.
That's why, again, I'm putting this in this video to give you a heads up and to really
encourage you to be firm and stick with the date that you've set as your resignation day.
Now at this point, you've set the resignation date, you pulled the plug and you quit on
a Friday morning and everything is Gucci.
Now I'm going to tell you something that I epically missed out on and I really regret
and that is make sure that you take advantage of your benefits, especially if you are someone
who is thinking of going into entrepreneurship and being self employed.
Newsflash, when you're an entrepreneur and you're self employed, you don't have benefits
that you get with a company and something that I totally like just forgot about was
to take advantage of those benefits.
If I had known or if I had remembered that I even had benefits, I would have definitely
gone to the dentist.
I would have, you know, gotten a new pair of glasses.
I would have used up all the credits towards going to the gym.
I would have hired a therapist with the credits that I had with my benefits or whatnot.
So make sure that you are using up your benefits, that you know what your benefits are and that
you're really taking advantage of it before you go self-employed or before you go to another
company whose benefits might be not as good because something to remember is that you
pay for those benefits.
Those benefits are being automatically deducted from your paycheck.
So make sure you take advantage of the fact that you have these benefits at your disposal.
Speaking of benefits, here's another thing to prepare for when you quit your nine to
five is make sure you start expensing stuff if your company allows that.
So I know in my company I had a lot of things that I paid for using my credit card that
technically I should have expense, but I was too lazy too.
So make sure you do it right away or even before you resigned because it takes a while
for that company to pay you the things that they owe you.
And there's a lot of paperwork involved and it's a lot harder to track these things if
you're no longer at the company.
So in my case, I had thousands of dollars of expenses that I had covered using my credit
card, but technically it was for my job.
And so I literally waited until the last minute to expense everything.
And so by the time that I left, I didn't have access to my company computer.
I didn't have access to my company email.
So I never knew when I would get paid if any of the expenses went through or if there was
anything wrong I wouldn't have known.
And that created a lot of anxiety for me because there was a lot of money I was waiting for.
So that's why if you are in a company where you have been using your credit card and you
need to get that stuff reimbursed, make sure that you do that before you quit or in advance
because that would totally suck if you lose out on the money that technically was for
your company.
All right, so so far in this video I went through a lot of the things that many people
don't think about when they're quitting the nine to five.
But this is one of the most important things that I have to say and that is don't burn
any bridges.
And this kind of goes back to the earlier tips where I said to think about your manager,
think about the relationships that you already have formed in the company.
Even if you didn't enjoy your time at the company or you felt mistreated and whatnot,
that doesn't give you a free pass to be a jerk.
A lot of the times these companies have invested a lot of money, resources and time to train
you.
And I think that it's important to feel grateful with the exception that you are also making
sure you're putting yourself first, obviously.
But I think it's important to not burn any bridges.
This means that don't trash talk your company, don't trash talk your manager, keep office
gossip at minimum.
So even after you quit, just keep your emotions to yourself.
I think that's really important.
And as you are wrapping up your job and as you are preparing to fully leave the company,
really put in the work to make sure that they are in good hands, help them find their replacement.
Really go above and beyond with the transitioning.
Really help to clean up your desktop and clean up the folders and files so that you're not
leaving a huge mess behind.
I think that is a common courtesy that your company deserves through them, training you
through them, giving you mentorship through them, giving you benefits and all of that
and so all in all, even if you didn't enjoy your time there, do make sure that you aren't
burning bridges because you never know years later, months later if you're finding another
job or even if you become an entrepreneur.
These relationships matter.
Anyways, guys, I really hope that you enjoy today's video.
I had a lot of fun doing this video.
It really took me back to the beginning stages of my channel where I was doing topics like
this.
I really hope that you enjoy it as much as I did.
Now usually on this channel I talk more about entrepreneurship, marketing, social media,
and coaching.
So if you're interested in any of those topics, make sure you check out these two videos that
I have right here.
As always, guys, I hope you guys have a great day, a great week, and a great life, and I'll
see you in the next one.
Bye guys.