if you're not a hundred percent certain that you sound like a real man when you talk
you don't...but you're in luck because today's video I'm going to give you
three specific techniques you can implement immediately to sound like a
real man to command attention to demand respect when you speak hey I want to be
sure you get your chance to download your free power tonality checklist even
if you don't make it to the end of the video so you can click or touch right
here in the upper right hand corner download yours now and I'll talk to you
more about what it is at the end when it comes to sounding like a man when you
talk most guys assume that has to do with how deep your voices and how loud
you can talk and the deepness of the resonance behind the words and well
these components do have an impact there's a lot to be said for your
nonverbals and other variables that go into this the first strategy I'm going
to go through pertains specifically to this and that's it you want to stand
behind your words with your body language a lot of guys when they first
start talking they kind of switch over and they kind of step back even if when
they were listening to other people they've got a little more loose body
language now it's their time to talk and they're kind of like this it
communicates to people that you're not confident what you're saying that you
don't really stand behind what you're saying if someone is a manager a boss or
just a leader and they're trying to convince you of something if they can't
even stand up and be strong when they're talking how can you believe them it
looks like they're not confident in their own words so we need to be sure
when we deliver the things we say however we do it that we stand behind
them with a strong body language that is indicative that you're a hundred percent
confident in what you're saying it's almost a bit you've heard the term an
honest signal before it just means something that's hardwired in us that's
very hard to fake and we say something that we're not completely confident in
our body language naturally gets a little more tentative our voice
naturally does it project as much it's just something we're hardwired to do so
be sure that a lot of guys that I see even when they are confident whether
what they're saying they're giving these honest signals that they're not so we
need to become very aware of the fact that we either are or aren't standing
behind what we're saying when it comes to the way the other people are
perceiving us number two I get a lot of guys who come
to me for vocal coaching or advice you say I just wasn't born at the very deep
voice there's nothing I can do about it and I tell them that the god-given voice
that you were given has a very little overall impact on the way that your
voice is perceived so a lot of times when I ask them to talk the problem is
not the strength of their voice the problem is they're afraid to be heard
even if they had the voice of Earl Jones the strongest voice ever if you're
afraid to be heard it's not going to come across long people aren't going to
think you have a strong voice whereas if you have a weak voice you're born with
the weak voice maybe it's a little higher maybe it doesn't have a lot of
strong resonance if you're not afraid to be heard you're going to communicate in
a way that people see you as having a stronger voice you can tell when people
are out in public if they're afraid to be hurt or not because we know everyone
knows the specific resonance of our voice that carries we learn at the
schoolyard we were yelling at people how do people hear us the most how can we
talk quiet so the teacher can't hear us at a very young age become aware of this
and so many guys don't realize their subconscious is holding them back from
speaking with a strong voice because they're afraid to be heard so second
thing we need to do is get in our head and say hey are we talking with a weak
tone of voice because we're afraid to be heard if that is the case we need to get
over that hitch so we can use the fullness of our voice and not be afraid
to be heard and deliver our communication in a way that it's strong
and tells people I'm confidence environment if someone standing behind
me here's what I'm saying that's fine I'm confident what I'm saying no big
deal as opposed to yeah you know always looking over word if you can hear you
know how it's actually out there last weekend you can have a strong voice in
the world it's still going to come across as a weak voice you can't be
afraid to be heard number three makes me sick when I see
guys that don't practice this it's so disgusting when you see guys who want so
bad to be seen as strong men to sound like a man to lead people there in
sports needs like why do people not look at me as a leader and you hear their
tonality their tonality is supplicated there's three kinds of tonality
applicative neutral and report breaking supplicated as guys hi how are you today
and all its communicating is you put the other person you're talking to on a
pedestal you see them as so much higher value you can't give them any chance to
get mad at you because you're so nice how would you reach end you can't need
that at me because I put you up here how could you be mad at someone who would
never offend you that sort of communicating guys don't realize this so
many people men and women think they're communicating more with a rapport
neutral tonality when in actuality they're using a supplicated tonality
which is telling the other person to treat you as lower than they are the
minute that that tone comes out of your mouth it's completely turning to
interaction in a direction that you don't want it where you're setting
yourself up in a frame where they're higher than you and you're lower you
have to become aware of this now there's so much to be said for tonality and
using the right tone of voice I actually put together a free tonality power
checklist you can click up here to download if you're on a PC or you can
touch it if you're on your phone or you can just go to charisma matrix forward
slash tonality and download the free PDF checklist is going to go through a bunch
of things that you probably aren't aware of that you can get keyed up in your
mind because once your subconscious becomes aware of what's going on and
aware okay wait I read in the tonality checklist that when you do this people
behave differently you try it and you see people are behaving differently a
lot of times that's all you need to get you on a strong foot to get you that
strong tonality so you can either go to Chris Mader's calm for flesh tonality or
touch up here to download your copy there's three things you can do on the
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