We all have two people
and I’m not saying you're crazy.
We have the easy voice
that's that voice that we all love.
That’s that very comfortable voice that
that’s that mommy
Holding you saying, "It’s gonna be okay"
Doesn’t care how good you are
just loves you.
Just loves you, no matter how messed up you are in life.
So that's that one voice.
This other voice that we walk very far away from
is the voice saying, "hey, man,
you ain’t doing sh**"
So we try to get this voice out of our head completely
and we live over here in this land.
So what you have to do first
is turn up this voice over here.
The voice saying things to you that aren’t nice.
That it's in our head saying, "You know what man?
dude
you’re not.. you’re not doing sh**"
I'm not saying to put yourself down
I'm saying listen to the truth.
And the truth isn’t in the 20%.
The truth is in this other part of your brain saying, "look man
you’re wasting a bunch of percentages here."
We have 80 more percent that we’re not tapping into
because in this other 80%
is suffering
pain,
failure,
Self-doubt,
darkness
and then a whole bunch of light.
But to get to this light you got to go through all of this.
So a lot of us know that
I can get over here
but over here man this is much better
because I gotta go through this journey
that is not fun.
This- this from 20 to 100%
This sh** in between
is not fun.
So we decide to live over here
So everybody goes, how do we do that?
You know exactly how to do that.
You know exactly- it’s not a magic trick
There’s nothing I talk about
that’s a magic trick.
It’s all back down to a very
primitive
mindset
of we just have to do.
It’s like breathing.
Breathing becomes normal,
like we don't know that- that- that we’re doing it.
That’s how you have to live your life.
When that alarm clock goes off at 4 or 5 in the morning
your mind says no, you just say, this is what we do
it's what we do now
because to get to where you want to go
the amount of pain involved, I'm not saying physical
I’m not saying you got to break yourself off
the amount of mental pain
of how many times you’re gonna have to do something that you don’t want to do
to get to where you want to go.
When I was 297 pounds
and I was fat as hell, trying to be a Navy Seal
The scariest thing in the world to me even to this day
Was that that could have been the rest of my life
I thought then I was trying hard.
That’s the scariest thing in the world.
I thought then, 297 pounds
working for Ecolabs
spraying for cockroaches, making $1,000 a month.
I thought that was me
at my 100% potential.
Come to find out
a few years later,
I wasn’t anywhere near that.
106 pounds less,
Graduate Navy Seal training, went on to do all these other things.
Looking back on that
that was me trying hard.
That’s why people gotta understand
What is in us
we have no idea until
we start trying hard.
And I mean really trying hard when you’re obsessed with
Hey, this is my new norm
My new norm is that- wow,
this isn’t always fun,
it’s not always meant to be fun
and that’s when you know you’re trying hard.
Is that- and so people listening to us that maybe are at 20% or 30%
you know about, yeah, I'm going hard, I'm going max
and yet they're not seeing the results
like how do they actually shake themselves out of that?
We're all in the battle with our own brains
That's life, that's all life is.
It's the most powerful thing in the world
is your own brain.
It can work for you or against you.
And as opposed to focusing on all those bad things that have happened,
and all the things you didn't have,
the people that called you names,
all the stuff you deserve in the end, and you start thinking wait a second
I just visualized this
and now I can take it to the next level, next level
because the visualization got you through the Seal training.
It did
and I was able to visualize the end.
So before, when I was 297
and I was all fat and out of shape and I couldn't run a quarter mile
and I was drinking milkshakes and eating boxes of donuts
I visualized, man how would it feel?
For a brief moment
I was so.. there was 22 guys that graduated
I watched this segment on TV about these guys going through Navy Seal training
and I couldn’t even...
I.. I wasn't a great swimmer, I was afraid of the water
all this crap man.
But at the very end, it's these 22 guys
and this commanding officer is up there and he gives this great speech.
I was like man I wonder...
so I started visualizing me being the 23rd guy
in these dress whites
sitting there with these guys
getting that Navy Seal, you know, graduating this
Navy Seal training. I was like God
so I put myself there.
I was like man, that's an amazing feeling
I put myself there at 297
not even able to do anything that these great men were doing
I said man, if I could feel that that would change my life.
If I could just feel that
one, it lasts for one second
you get that certificate, you walk across the stage
and what's next?
But I didn't know that then
my mind was that, I thought I’d live in that moment forever
so, I said wow man, if I could just feel like them.
If I could feel like them.
And what was that feeling you wanted so bad?
Respect? Accomplishment?
Victory!
I wanted to win.
Not like beat somebody else
it wasn't about that, I just wanted to go the distance.
Everything in my life, when something got hard, I quit.
If it was reading- that's where you know
I wasn't great at reading, I wasn't great at writing, so I just quit.
I couldn't catch on as fast as you
I didn't work harder than you
so I quit.
You know, I wasn't great at things so I quit.
You know I’m- I’m not good at this.
Like man, if I could just go that distance, that extra mile
to just go, just to finish
I want to finish
I want to feel victory
and victory for me wasn't winning it was just finishing.
So I said, you know what?
If I could feel like these guys feel it would change my life.
But what I realized
the best feeling I had
was when I was by myself
trying to lose this weight.
I had to lose it in literally less than three months.
106 pounds in less than three months
and literally, I started feeling victory
just by putting myself in the battle.
It wasn't about going to Navy Seal training,
it wasn't about being the 23rd guy in that chair
I started realizing man,
just by going to war with myself every day
and putting these challenges
and these goals, and these obstacles, these insurmountable obstacles
so it wasn't about losing 106 pounds
me losing 5 pounds
was an accomplishment.
Me losing 10 pounds and then 50 pounds and then-
the more I did this, the more I gained confidence
and then the more I gained confidence, the more I realized
these guys can't do what I’m doing right now.
I had no coach,
had no trainer, had no money.
I ain't know how to lose weight
I had no knowledge of what I was doing, I was just working.
I was just sacrificing
and then through that
all these different tools started coming up
but I would have never found these tools
if I didn't put myself in a very uncomfortable place.
We all look for toughness
we all want it
but we look for it in a comfortable environment
you will not find toughness
in a comfortable environment.
Those of you who are listening to this
whoever hears this
you will not find it.