Renee: Have you ever dated a gal and felt a really strong connection maybe even had
great sex and you thought this one is different only to have her disappear on
you well if the answer is yes then you my friend have been ghosted in this
video I'm going to tell you why it is that women ghost and what you need to do
if you have been ghosted i'm renee slansky for the attractive man team and
in this video we're going to talk about ghosty according to an article in bustle
magazine they actually found that women are more likely to ghost men by a
hundred and fifty percent now those of you sitting there wondering what the
heck is ghosting what is she talking about it's not to do with Halloween and
I'm not talking about a girl dressing up in a sexy bedsheet I'm talking about the
fact when you're actually going on a date or building some sort of rapport
and relationship with someone and everything seems to be going really well
then all of a sudden they just literally do the disappearing act without any
explanation and without any contact it's a really rough situation to be in and
something that happens more often than not and what sucks is that if knocks
about our self-esteem and really throws us in this pool where we wonder am I
just a bad judgment of character or is there actually something wrong with me
so why do women ghost well here are two major reasons the first reason is women
can get scared of commitment it's not only you guys who can have cold feet
sometimes women are afraid to actually be vulnerable and open up and let you in
even if she likes you because she is afraid to get hurt because maybe she's
actually had a history of being rejected or hurt by men the second reason is she
is lazy or she just doesn't like conflict and confrontation let's face it
she's taken the easy route out and basically just dumped you because she
doesn't actually want to deal with the situation of not telling you that she's
not essentially into you either way it totally sucks and it is a form of
rejection and we want to make sure that it doesn't happen consistently to you so
I'm going to give you my top five practical tips on what you need to do if
you have been ghosted number five let her go let her go let her go I
hey you need to understand that she has given you an answer even though you
don't have a really kind of specific answer of why she left you
either way her leaving is your answer and you need to be accepting of that
even if it isn't the answer that you want if you continue to hold on to
somebody who clearly doesn't want to be a part of your life then you are
literally watering a dead plant now let me know go means that you delete those
text messages you get rid of those photos and you unfollow her on her
social media accounts you want to remove the temptation to actually start
reaching out to her and trying to dig up what has already been buried the thing
is you actually have to make a conscious choice to let go we assume that closure
comes when we have an answer but closure is actually a choice that can't be based
off what somebody else does or doesn't do or how you're even feeling it is
something that you just have to choose to do number four see rejection as a
redirection one of my favorite sayings Gerstein is actually more about their
issues than it is about you yet we take it so incredibly personally every single
time not everyone we meet is going to be able to commit to us or even has the
ability to and we don't want to be everyone's cup of tea this is what
actually makes us set apart the people that we want to invest into because they
simply know how to invest back into us the thing about rejection is we need to
actually use it as a stepping stone to actually learn something from it instead
of dwelling on the event itself now what I suggest is actually taking the
scenario and asking yourself what can I actually learn from this what can I gain
from this was it more to do with her or maybe I actually did things that pushed
her away and if it is something that happens again and again and you find
that you've constantly been ghosted by women then it comes down to two things
either you're doing something wrong or you're dating the wrong sort of women
it's really about trying to find the pattern that you have and learning how
to break it and if you actually need some help with that then I want you to
join one of our boot cast because we literally walk you through the process
on how to be a confident man and how to make sure that you are setting positive
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three focus your energy on women who actually want to be with you
stop trying to bring the dead back to life that's nice on the impression this
is what you're doing you're trying to take something that is dead that is gone
that has a definite answer and you're trying to bring it back into life and by
doing that you're actually deflecting all those other women who want to be
with you now if you're continually focusing on something and prodding it
and poking it what you're going to do is you're actually going to become better
and that's going to start to transfer in your other dates and energy when you
meet other women so flip that energy of anger frustration and confusion into one
of being the best man that you can possibly be on the next date so that you
can have a really great first impression on this new girl and have a different
result this time round number two don't go social media stalking her accounts
all her friends I know it's going to be really tempted to try and dig up the
reason why she did it and what we're going to do is we're
going to actually start to reach out to her friends and this is a big no-go zone
what her friends are going to do is they're either going to number one play
dumb or number two they're actually going to start to think that you're
crazy and they're going to start to label you as a psycho guy that doesn't
know how to take no for an answer you and I both know that you're an
amazing man and that you deserve an amazing woman who isn't going to ghost
you but you're continuing to put out this sort of desperate behavior to
figure out what it is that went wrong you're going to lead the wrong sort of
impression and you're going to be lowering yourself to their standards so
what you need to do is simply take it in your stride know that you're enough and
know that you are actually worthy of more now if you really really really
want to reach out to her because you just have to know then simply send her a
text simply something along the lines of hey I get it that you're not really into
me and I'm not really sure why you're ghosted me so I was just wondering if
you could give me a bit of feedback I'm a big guy I can take it please be
brutally honest with me because I would love to know now when you send this text
message don't necessary expect the sort of response that you
want to get back or even a response at all what it does though is it actually
gives you a sense that you've done the right thing you've reached out you tried
to learn what you can and then you just walk away and lastly number one stop
talking about it there is no point continually verbalizing what has
happened because it's already in the past and all it's going to do is suck
and drain your energy and then stop you from actually meeting and communicating
and connecting with women who actually want to place value on you right now
in fact I actually had a friend and he was ghosted by this girl he had
absolutely no idea what happened they were dating for about three months and
then she just disappeared and every time we were having a conversation he talked
about her and it got really draining on our friendship and then every time he
went on a date he actually talked about her again and again again and what do
you know these women that he went on a date with didn't actually want to
continue to get to know him because all they felt like was they all he talked
about was this other woman rejection hurts and it happens especially when it
is done this way but remember that someone ghosting you has actually done
you a favor because they've identified who they really are and what their
attentions are and that's why you don't want to keep putting energy into someone
that obviously isn't willing to recognize your value or invest back into
you truth is you deserve so much more and your life will be so much more full
of peace if you just choose to move on now if you are someone who has been
ghosted and is really knocked about your confidence then what I want you to do is
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link in our buyer below okay guys well that's it for me I hope you enjoyed this
video what I want you to do is I actually want you to tell me if you have
been ghosted and what you did about it sharing is caring here don't forget to
pass this video on to a mate who maybe has gone through this right now
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